People are middle -aged, don't live a life

When I first graduated from the workplace, I was ambitious and turned like a permanent motor -like shaft every day.

At that time, I thought that happiness should be "yes": there are cars and houses, there are money and career.

Just like this, he ran forward to middle age.

When my energy diminished and my body gradually declined, I gradually realized that happiness was actually "none": carefree and disease -free.

There is no need for a large narrative to live. The best state is that there is nothing in my heart, the body is not good, and my family is beside.

After middle age, learn to adjust the focus of life, don't turn your life.

01 Don't exchange health for health

A while ago, I saw video bloggers@前 前 前 to share her four -year experience of anti -cancer.

When she was 20 years old, she went out to go to the world and vowed to be out of place; when she was 30 years old, she wanted to live a better life, tied into work, and sprinted desperately.

In those years, she was busy day and night, and she was upside down day and night. Irregular diet was commonplace. It was too much pressure, which eventually caught her body overwhelming.

When a serious illness came, she suddenly realized that she had desperately pursued, and returned all over the night.

And those achievements and wealth she had been proud of, in the face of disease, is not worth mentioning at all.

The greatest sadness of life is that you change your life in the first half of your life. When you need to use money to change your life later, you find that God has already closed the door to exchange.

After editing "Fashion" magazine, Yuan Xiaojuan suffered from gastric cancer, so warned everyone:

"In modern fast -paced life, people instinctively chase material and wealth. How many people forget that the greatest wealth they have is actually healthy and life."

Either the head, or the waist entanglement, if we lose the foundation of health, everything we have will have nothing to attach.

When people reach middle age, they should understand that a good body is the most advanced wealth.

Unnecessary wine bureaus can be pushed, and you don't need to be able to do it.

Take care of your body is the most wise investment in the second half of his life.

02 Don't take your face as a container

Moderator Tu Lei once said, "When Face is not supported by strength, it does not exist, because there is no container."

When we were young, we had nothing except ourselves.

It wasn't until the reality was destroyed, recognized the counseling, and began to hammer, and then realized that the face was just the shame of the loser, and the real strong people lived out.

In the novel "The Water of Canglang", the protagonist Chi Dawei was a cynical idealist.

In the unit, he couldn't see his colleagues, and he never disdain to deal with the humanity.

I would rather stay in the Institute of Traditional Chinese Medicine, which is unattended, and one mix is ​​three years.

In the past three years, the people around him had already paid off the clouds and jumped into his boss, and he didn't care.

Until the child was born, because of the low position, they could not divide the house, and their wives and children could only squeeze with themselves in a forced room. The son was scalded and cried, but he couldn't even get the money in the hospital.

Since then, he is no longer arrogant, but has begun to study various interpersonal skills that he once looked down on.

He also learned to give gifts to give gifts, laughed at his face, begging for a house, and letting his son enter the best kindergarten.

The philosopher Santayner said: "Our dignity is not what we do, but what we know how to do."

The teenager who once disdainful of "folding the waist for the five buckets" will be rushed to the crowd in order to break the silver.

I once hated to climb the power, and finally learned to push the door and pull the chair and the tea to pour wine, just to ensure that the family's life is worry -free.

Complaints to reality are not cowardly, but a wise choice after weighing.

Put down the face to live a good day of chai oil and salt.

03 Don't treat your family as an outsider

Writer Yishu said that people's most likely mistakes is to be kind to outsiders and getting temper to people who are close.

Once we rely on family's unconditional love to do whatever they want, they thought they would be tolerant forever.

When the damage has accumulated enough, no matter how good his temper is, he will leave without returning.

In the variety show "Four Famous Assists", a wife charged her husband in tears, and was a "two -sided person".

He is an old man in front of his friend, and his friend wants to borrow money. He said nothing about it immediately, and his friend went to the airport late at night.

But at home, he was like a walking gunpowder barrel.

With a little discomfort, he lost his temper to his parents. His wife bought new clothes. He said with a sour irony, "People are old -fashioned, what do you do?"

Over time, his parents moved away from his house, and his wife was cold, and he refused to live with him again.

When people reach a certain age, they will really understand Wang Xiaobo's phrase, "We have nothing except family members in the world."

At the moment of life, the person who once shouted for your two ribs, maybe you do n’t see the eye in the blink of an eye, but the family who is usually regarded by you as the air has become the most firm support in your trough.

To middle age, the friendship between friends needs to be maintained, and the temperature between family members needs to care more.

04 Don't take social communication as the ability

When we were young, we said that our friends were full of the world and thought that lively was a necessity in life.

After 30 years of age, he learned to close your heart, block the noise of the outside world, and focus on your own life.

Huang Yongyu once wrote the story of Qian Zhongshu's family in the book.

He said that every Sunday, the Qian Zhongshu couple and the daughter -in -law's son -in -law will take a book in a corner to read a book.

Yang Yan rarely attended the event, and Qian Zhongshu could push the person who came to visit. In the free time, they are immersed in their own small world, or they are fun to tease each other, or study various dishes together to make their lives loud.

Smart as they understand, the paintings of life cannot rely on others to color after all. The essence of life lies in the richness and tranquility of the heart.

Ma Dong also asked Xue Zhaofeng in a program: "Will you often attend some gatherings?"

Xue Zhaofeng said no, "because the time cost is too great."

For him, instead of spending time in the lively, he is better to study academics quietly or stay with his family.

Most of those who are self -sufficient are transparent because they know how to choose.

Thirty or forty years old, we have already needed a meal to contact the feelings, and they have been drinking the age of the righteousness by drinking.

Shouning to his own life can not be tired of the outside world, nor is it annoying to the annoying relationship.

Three or two confidants, family members are the most graceful scenes of middle -aged life.

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In the half -slopes of life, the main theme of life is already fixed, and there is no need to be too complicated.

After middle age, let go of the face, streamline the circle, take care of the body, and run the family.

Only in this way can we live well in this earth and vulgar world.

Source: Incight (DJ00123987)

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