When the reform of Henan wedding customs is underway, the goal is to point out "Zero Gifts"

Cai Li's money is more than 100,000 yuan or even hundreds of thousands of yuan. At present, in some areas, especially in rural areas, there are many wedding customs "etiquette". Comparison, big operations, demand high -quality gifts, vulgar marriage and other bad habits, many people hate it, sometimes helpless, many families, many families, many families, many families, many families, many families, many families, many families, many families. Therefore, there is a heavy economic burden.

Wedding custom reform is imperative. On July 25, 2022, the Henan Provincial Government website released news that after local application, investigation and inspection, comprehensive assessment and other working links, the Henan Provincial Department of Civil Affairs agreed to recognize 20 regions including Kaifeng City, Pingdingshan City, Baofeng County, Ye County, etc. The province's marriage custom reform experimental area.

Frozen three feet is not a day's cold. Cai gift money is also the traditional custom that the people have been circulating in my country for a long time. How to change the reform of marriage customs and how to change the old concepts of some people? With these issues, the reporter went deep into the front line of the Henan grassroots to conduct an investigation and interview.

● Marrying a long -term marriage is the custom of inheriting the thousand -year marriage. However, in some areas, especially in rural areas, the wind and comparison of color rituals are intensifying. In addition to buying a house in the city, the man generally gives the woman's family of 2.3 million yuan. , Cai Li is even as high as 40,000 to 500,000 yuan. High -priced gifts have caused many families to fall into a constraint. Once the marriage contract is lifted, it is easy to cause disputes and cause social contradictions.

● The wind of marriage has polluted interpersonal relationships, promoted the extravagance of extravagance, and affected the happiness of the masses. The Henan Provincial Department of Civil Affairs has recognized 20 regions as the province's wedding and custom reform experimental zone, explores deepening marriage custom reform, adapts to local conditions, and adopts measures such as establishing rules and regulations, three -dimensional publicity, and typical leadership. Save, civilized and noble lifestyle

● Marriage and custom reform should be compatible with the level of local economic development and cultural traditions, fully consider the degree of acceptance of the masses, pay attention to methods and methods, and prevent traditional customs from mixing with scholarship. We must be good at finding the entry point from the hot spots and difficulties that the masses care, and use the concept of law and innovative thinking to promote reform.

□ Our reporter Zhao Hongqi

"We grew up with a piece of bare buttocks, you went to college, I worked outside. If not, I would not let you open this mouth ..." Not long ago, Xiao Zhang, who worked in a large enterprise in Zhengzhou, Henan, received " Send a little "Xiao Wang's phone.

What tangled Xiao Zhang was not to borrow money, but that Xiao Wang immediately carried a heavy gift debt. Xiao Wang said to him: "The trustee introduced me to me. I am very satisfied, but the money of Cai Li has a headache. In addition to the money accumulated at hand, there is a gap of nearly 200,000 yuan."

Xiao Zhang calculated the account for Xiao Wang: Xiao Wang's working monthly income of about 5,000 yuan, except for rent and daily spending, can save up to 2,500 yuan per month, and it will be 30,000 yuan a year. Only 200,000 yuan is only 200,000 yuan The gap takes 7 years.

"Marriage custom reform is the most effective way to curb the unreasonable winds such as high -priced colorful gifts, big operations, and comparison with ritual comparison." After learning that Henan Province Civil Affairs Department confirmed 20 regions as the province's wedding custom reform experimental zone, Xiao Zhang went to this. It is very supportive. "Rural is the hardest hit area for high -priced gifts. The reform of rural wedding customs is more difficult than the city. It solves the problem of rural areas. The new fashion of civilization and customs in the whole society can be initially formed."

"The goal of marriage custom reform is to achieve 'zero -color gift', frugal marriage, and inherit the development of outstanding Chinese marriage and family culture, and advocate the formation of the correct marriage and family value orientation of the whole society." The reporter said in an interview.

Cai Li Name is constantly refurbished

The wind of comparison is intensifying

On September 10, a video of a video of a "guy who was deceived for 180,000 colorful gifts and driving a banner to find people" was quickly spread online. The video shows that a young man in a white T -shirt drove a car sticking to a banner and walked back and forth in the village. , Be sure to polish your eyes and think twice to prevent being deceived. "

The young man said that his parents urged him to get married early. He met Zhang through a blind date. The two had a good relationship during the relationship. However, after receiving the gift, Zhang's attitude changed and no longer met him. He asked the other party to return the gift and filed a lawsuit. The court ruled that Zhang returned the Cai Li, but she refused to implement it.

Similar disputes are more common in rural Henan.

The reporter learned that in Shangqiu, Zhumadian, Zhoukou, Luohe and other areas, when the local young men and women were married, in addition to buying a house in the city, the man generally gave the woman's family of 2.3 million yuan. Forty -five million yuan. This has caused many men's families into a heavy economic burden.

"Cai Li's money is just one of them, and the wedding custom really needs to be changed." Lao Li, a cadre of Henan Village, who did not want to name, said, "engagement, house, car, etc. have to spend money."

Lao Li said that the engagement was arranged by the men and women after the introduction of a blind date, and the woman in the direction of the men paid the color gift to initially set the marriage between the two sides. At present, Caigi money is generally 158,000 yuan and 168,000 yuan, and remote towns are higher. At present, building a house on rural houses is the most basic. It is also popular in the county to buy a house, and some have to buy a car about 100,000 yuan. "Marry a marriage, that is, the man given the woman's colorful gift, which is the marriage custom of inheriting thousands of years in my country. With the development of economic development and the improvement of people's living standards, the amount of gifts in many areas rose high, and the name of the gifts is constantly renovated. The wind has become more and more intense. High -priced gifts have caused many families to fall into a difficult life. Once the marriage contract is lifted, it is easy to cause disputes and cause social contradictions. "Wang Hongwei, a member of the Judgment Committee of the Intermediate People's Court of Shangqiu City, said.

On March 17, 2014, Wang Hongwei, then the dean of the Ningling County People's Court, advocated the establishment of the first family court in Henan Province. At that time, cases about marriage gifts accounted for nearly one -third of family cases.

In 2020, the Shangqiu Intermediate People's Court specially issued a document "The Military Court of the Shangqiu Municipal Intermediate People's Court on the trial of the trial of a case of marriage contractual disputes (trial)" clearly stipulated that when returning the colorful gift, the full return of over 100,000 yuan, 100,000 yuan 100,000 yuan, 100,000 yuan The inside is returned in proportion and determined the scope of colorful gifts, including but not limited to meeting gifts, hiring gifts, getting on the car, getting off the car, the change fee and the value of the valuables, electrical appliances, communication tools, and transportation tools.

"Cainea dispute cases are legal in laws' marriage contractual property disputes", which is more common in rural areas. "Wang Hongwei said that the introduction of the above documents clarified the lawsuit of the marriage contract and property dispute, the identification standards for life difficulties, the distribution of proof liability, and the return of Cai Li returned. The form, etc., provide a reference for the trial of the two courts.

Fully brave exercise to do crooked wind

Move the customs and customs to change the concept

“今天是个大喜的日子！这是一场简单的婚礼，没有彩礼、没有花车、没有伴娘、没有司仪、没有舞台、没有音乐，可以说是新事新办，一切从简。”前不久，在宁Wu Houfeng, the secretary of the village party branch, hosted a wedding.

"Wedding is just an external form. The key issue is that two newcomers can hold their lives happily." The relevant person in charge of the Ningling County Civil Affairs Bureau said that the county actively explores a new way and new measures for the reform of wedding customs. Widely participated in various measures, and the fierce operations were fucking crooked.

Ningling County specializes in the leadership group of marriage and funeral and customary reform of the county party committee secretary, 13 departments, and 14 townships as members. It is not higher than 30,000 yuan, the red things do not exceed 350 yuan per table, and each table does not exceed 200 yuan. The county's 364 administrative villages in the county use the village regulations and the people to move the customs and customs as the construction of spiritual civilization and rural revitalization.

At the same time, Ningling County dedicated the "red line" to public officials, incorporated civilization and frugality into the management of party members and cadres and the work of the village. Higher than 100 yuan, the scope of the guest is limited to relatives.

"In the past, the wind of wedding operations contaminated interpersonal relationships, promoted the extravagance of extravagance, and affected the happiness of the poor. Some people even poverty due to marriage." In accordance with the social sentiments of "reducing human conditions, controlling colorful gifts, reducing meals, and anti -paving", comprehensively promote the reform of marriage customs, and adopt measures such as establishing rules and regulations, three -dimensional publicity, and typical leadership to guide the masses to develop a life -saving, civilized and noble life. Methods to continuously improve the literacy and rural civilization of the masses.

Ningling County, townships, towns and county units "first leaders" conducted special interviews to make commitments in the face of society; advocated the county's signs of signing the customs and customs commitment to guide party members and cadres to take the lead in moving customs and customs; , People around them talk about their own affairs, teaches people around them ", so that people are educated in their ears. The county actively carried out selection activities such as "Xiangxian, filial piety", "good family style, good family training", "good mother -in -law, good daughter -in -law" and other selection activities. Essence

"The concept of marriage customs of the masses has changed. Now the atmosphere is much better than before. Everyone does not talk about the powsing and is more energetic. Zhang Guanghui, a member of the Red and White Council of Sunian Village, Shiqiao Town, said cheerfully.

Today, through the continuous launch of the new style of moving the customs and trees, Ningling County has a "five more or five less" gratifying situation: the newly -handed event, the more funerals, and the less operations. More harmonious, less quarrels and fighting; dancing, fitness, leisure and entertainment, less playing cards and gambling; active fighting for the stars, taking the initiative to get rich, less poverty; self -employment, returning home to start a business More, there are less idle. More than 90%of the administrative villages in the county have realized the standardized operation of the Red and White Council. From the past, the pavilion, the bi -color ritual, the dowry, and the more gas, to today's filial piety, more income, civilization, frugal, village, village, village, village, village, and village. The wind is full of wind and righteousness.

The marriage custom reform of Yuwangtai District, Kaifeng City has also been widely recognized by the masses. In this area, the district has promoted new folk customs in different groups and places, and the targeted transmission of "storms and rain, each other, responsible responsibility, and respect for each other", and regularly carry out "good mother -in -law, good daughter -in -law", "wedding customs new style most beautiful family" series of selection activities , Drive the reform of marriage customs into all corners, build a civilized wedding culture, and share the achievements of civilized wedding customs. "Traditional wedding customs have been in the hearts of the masses. It is not easy to shake and change in the hearts of the masses. It is not easy to change and change. The development of marriage custom reform is inseparable from the guidance of ideas." The relevant person in charge of the Henan Provincial Department of Civil Affairs said.

Reform conforms to the spirit of the rule of law

Institutional curing reform results

Henan is a large population province, and marriage custom reform involves millions of households. The reporter learned from the civil affairs department of 20 marriage customs reform experimental zones that the current situation and progress in various places are not the same.

"Actually, the publicity of folk wedding has always been carried out. In the future, it will continue to increase its efforts." The relevant person in charge of the Ye County Civil Affairs Bureau said that the specific plan for marriage custom reform has been introduced. At present, the publicity activities are underway. Congress, collective issuance ceremony and other activities are continuing.

"The situation of each township and villages is different. When remote towns formulating policies, it is mainly aimed at high -priced gifts." The person in charge said that Ye County selected 3 pilot towns and 40 pilot villages to play a leading role with points and faces. Responsible for supervision.

The Baofeng County, which has just become the Henan Wedding Customs Reform Experimental Zone, has issued the "Implementation Plan for the Pilot Work of Promoting Marriage and Customs Reform of the Baofeng County Civil Affairs Bureau". The person in charge of the County Civil Affairs Bureau said that multi -means to guide the majority of wedding and childcare newcomers to choose a new style of civilization, frugality, and solemn civilization, and to carry out comprehensive rectification of unreasonable winds such as high -priced gifts, wasteful wedding, vulgar marriage, and comparison. Create a good social atmosphere.

"Through investigation and research, combined with the actual situation of local economic development, population structure and customs, etc., it advocates that urban and rural residents 'colorful gifts are not higher than 60,000 yuan. By determining the" high standards of high gifts', to guide both parties to reduce the amount of gifts year by year. Or do not gift, eliminate big exercises, and promote the traditional virtues of diligence and thrift. "The relevant person in charge of the Mengzhou Civil Affairs Bureau said that the townships (streets) are in accordance with the above standards to guide the villages in the villagers to negotiate and reflect the principles of autonomy. In the case, the standard of refining the red affairs of the village according to local conditions, and the village red and white council is responsible for implementing and supervising.

Mengzhou Civil Affairs Bureau requires that 20%of villages (communities) in the townships (streets) have been determined in advance as the pilot of promoting marriage custom reforms, cultivating typical examples, and taking advantage of the premise of ensuring the initial results of the pilot village (community) at the end of 2022, to the end of 2022, to the initial results of the pilot villages (communities), to the end of 2022, to the initial results of the pilot villages (communities), to the end of 2022, In 2023, the scale of pilot villages (communities) expanded to 60%, and marriage custom reforms have initially realized institutionalization, standardization, and normalization. In 2024, the pilot village was fully rolled on the basis of the previous two years.

"Marriage and custom reform focuses on morality and maintaining social order and good customs. It is guided or guided by the government. Some of these problems have been reflected in the law, which is in line with the spirit of the rule of law." Li Liang, an associate professor of the School of Law School of the Central University of China It is clear that the civil code of buying and selling marriage and other interference in freedom of marriage is clearly stipulated by the civil code. If the woman and the parents of the woman actively propose or forcibly ask for high gifts, it is an illegal act.

"As a traditional custom that the Chinese folk has spread thousands of years, the existence of Cai Li also has a certain mass foundation. Marriage and custom reform should be compatible with the level of local economic development and cultural traditions. Together with Chen Jiyu Xi. "Li Jianwei, a professor at China University of Political Science and Law, believes that marriage custom reform should be good at finding the entry point from the hot spots and difficulties of the masses, and promoting new progress with the concept and innovative thinking of the use of laws and innovative thinking. The village regulations are in line with the spirit of the rule of law.

"Actually, marriage custom reform is a kind of behavioral specifications. It is necessary to establish a complete and perfect mechanism. Write the new wind of weddings into the village regulations and solidify it in an institutional form. The leading role of party members, cadres, villages, and wealthy leaders will intervene and discourage vulgar weddings by calculating economic accounts, cultural accounts, and social accounts. To curb the vulgarity of marriage in ideology, establish a new fashion of marriage customs.

Source: Rule of Law Daily

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