Girls with mortgages around me, blind dates are the easiest to fail

Before the article starts, I want to ask you a question first: Do you agree that people with cars and houses are more popular in the blind date market?

In the blind date market of emotions first, cars and rooms are one of the hard currency.

But some friends told me that if a loan word is added behind the car and the room, the attitude of the blind date will change a 180 -degree change -especially for girls.

This made me a bit panic when I just embarked on the road of double loan: I had a tight life, and even my feelings would be different.

So, there are mortgages and car loans. What impact does it bring to life?

■ Given the lowest economic value?

A Yi remembered what happened when he saw the parents of his ex -boyfriend last time.

On the morning tea table, she got up and poured two cups of hot tea for her uncle and aunt. When she was talking about a house, when she was two bedrooms and one living room, the aunt opposite suddenly smiled and asked: So hard, don't my parents help?

Fortunately, what I have affordable, I don't want to spend my parents' money.

In the impression, the atmosphere of the morning tea began to be cold from this sentence.

After they left, A Yi asked her boyfriend why your parents didn't look very happy. The boyfriend only looked at the interface of the glory of the king on the mobile phone, and said without lift his head:

Maybe we are worried that we will get married and buy a house in the future. You have no money to repay the mortgage together.

When she was still designing her house with a chandelier or a non -main lamp, other people's parents were already estimating whether she could still afford the mortgage of another house.

She did not choose to quarrel with her boyfriend.

But the estimate seemed to be unable to stop.

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Since the mortgage of 8,000 yuan per month, Ayi will calculate the date with her boyfriend every weekend.

She tried to arrange a restaurant that can be available in the bus subway, as well as restaurants that WeChat Alipay had consumer vouchers.

On one occasion, Ayi happily on the accounting software. She saved 600 yuan in the interface for her boyfriend for more than a month. The boyfriend said: Congratulations, the 30 -year -old loan repayment career was over, and she was one step closer.

Originally, she didn't care much about her boyfriend's yin and yang, but the other party made up:

What about us? The house we lived after marriage, did I also search for money to search for money in the future?

A Yi has no attack. I just walked to the balcony silently and couldn't help crying.

She felt very wronged. Obviously it was the house I bought before love, and after falling in love, it turned out to be the reason why the other party criticized himself.

Later, A Yi proposed to break up.

When telling these stories, she was lying on the three -person sofa in the living room of the new house.

She occasionally remembered that she was picked up with her ex -boyfriend in IKEA. In the original plan, there were her, he, and the orange cat raised by two people, squeezing on TV.

But at this moment, she imagined that inviting friends to play games at home, or chat with the parents from her hometown, and this three -person sofa will not be wasted.

A Yi's house is expected to be renovated in the second half of the year, and she can live in her 28th birthday. She thinks it is the best birthday gift.

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■ Single girls and school district houses

Lulu usually likes to swim with friends.

When she surfaced, while holding the pool wall to rest, a friend who was not far away beckoned to her in the deep water area and joked: Why stay in the shallow water area, so afraid of death?

What friends said, Lulu was afraid of death.

This year, in order to ensure good health, Liu Genghong, who was at least twice a week, had a badminton bureau, and once swimming.

When playing badminton, a ball flew over, and he was about to touch the bottom line. Lulu was ready to fly. There was a sudden voice in my heart: Don't save it, keep your life tight.

After all, she adheres to the rule of health movement.

The reason is simple: no accident, don't want parents to repay the loan for themselves.

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When Lulu told me this, I smiled very well.

But when I knew Lulu's monthly expenditure, I didn't doubt the authenticity of these jokes.

At the end of 2020, Lulu, one and a half years after graduation, started her plan to buy a house in Guangzhou with her parents' urging.

The house she bought is located in the center of the old city of Guangzhou, with a larger second -hand house. This means that in addition to spending a lot of money to decorate the house, it also takes a lot of time.

During the 7 months of the decoration, Lulu had to rent a house in addition to paying 8,000 yuan, but also lived outside. In order to save money, the toilet and even aquarius were even the toilet.

Lying in the bed, Lulu has fantasized more than once: If you do n’t buy a house, according to the current income level, you can go to the musicals you want to watch every month, and 1000+ tickets do n’t have a blink of an eye.

Now, she hasn't watched the musical for a long time ...

During the 7 months after buying a house, Lulu really realized what it means to be overdraft and in exchange for the future.

After experiencing a dry toilet, she gritted her teeth and changed into a smart toilet when she was renovating her house.

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Unlike A Yi in the first story, Lulu has been single for a long time.

Interestingly, the house she bought is not far from the place where work, located in the city center of the old city of Guangzhou. At first, her father insisted on buying the old house in the city center instead of the large suburbs, which was the educational resources here.

Anyway, it is a school district house.

I always feel that half of my house is repaid for future children. But for many years, Lulu has already found the object, and it is behind the to do list.

Is it a proper choice for a single girl to buy a school district house?

We don't know the answer.

Our dialogue also stopped here.

■ A romance that does not require calculation

Do you know that when you buy a house before marriage, you have the confidence of not getting married.

When I took Ayi and Lulu's story and found the third friend Polly, this was the first sentence she said.

She just ended her seventh blind date. The other party is a boy introduced by her colleague's husband.

In the previous six blind dates, she realized the resistance encountered as a single person with a house and a loan. The opponent's lines include:

I have also seen the house over XX recently. Buy alone, the pressure is not small haha.

Oh, if two people live, it is two mortgages.

Uh, will you have a plan to pay off?

Polly said: I just talked a few minutes after I was fighting the Ruyi.

Recently, Polly met the boy at the coffee shop. After the afternoon of working on the working day, holding the sincere attitude of not wasting everyone's time, Polly said when drinking the second coffee:

Oh right, I am providing a house. In Yuexiu District. 9000 per month.

She stared at the boy's face and captured the retreat at any time. Once captured, she can get up and leave without wasting time.

But the boy just paused, and then said: I am too. But I bought it in Haizhu District, and the location is not as good as you.

Polly put down a stone in his heart. This cup of coffee in front of you can drink it.

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Others calculated that Polly was also calculated that when the blind date, the conditions of the person opposite the other side did not match themselves.

Polly received a salary on the 5th of each month. When I habitually opened the bank APP, and transferred the 9,000 yuan in the salary card to the card to repay the loan, she always felt a solid heart.

At least no matter how late it is, open the taxi app, there is always an exact positioning in the destination. She can click OK without thinking about it. The address kept changing the address like I just graduated.

These topics were talked to the boy who had a blind date. When I was about to leave, the boys stood up and said that it was more than 6 o'clock. I simply went home from get off work.

Polly said happily, me too.

Two young people who work hard in first -tier cities returned to their respective loans every month after a simple date.

Polly feels a strange, strange, unpredictable romance for a long time.

It doesn't matter if you can do it or not get married or not. This seems to be a confidence of young people who have a loan before marriage.

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at last.

It tells the story of these young people around me because of recently, I recently held a small loan party in Guangzhou.

There are not many people who have participated. A girl encountered a business trip, and a boy was temporarily arranged to meet in Shenzhen and could not come back. I sent a WeChat only one hour before the party and told me: I probably can't go here. I might go to dinner to accompany them to make money. [sigh]

As a person carrying a loan every month, he can fully understand the mood of this friend cherishing the opportunity to make money.

What about the rest? Some people came from the subway station, and some people came out of the outdoors with a temperature of 38 degrees in the afternoon. All to save money.

After buying a house, will the quality of life really improve? At least from this side, I can't see it.

So when I heard a girl with a mortgage, I became more angry when I was unpopular in the blind date market.

In this era when everyone lives very hard, people who can afford a house and have courage to repay the mortgage are already amazing. Why is there a house that belongs to its own, and still be looked at the secular vision like the blind date market?

Fortunately, Polly's story dispels this disappointment for me.

Like those who are worried about the blind date, people who put themselves in the secular vision are destined to be difficult to be happy.

Conversely, if we can find our own home when we receive a salary and take a taxi every month, we can find our own home and lying comfortably on our own sofa on the weekend afternoon in the busy city. With peace of mind, our efforts are meaningful.

We always find this meaning.

Reproduced / I want WhatYouneed

Author / ACHER

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