Five tips to improve your social emotional quotient instantly

Voltaire once said: "Since the emergence of humans in the world, mutual communication has always existed."

Whether we chat with family and friends or colleagues, we cannot avoid social and socially. However, some people not only are often passive in social networking, but also often say wrong, offend people without knowing themselves. In the end, there are fewer and fewer friends.

How to deal with your social relationship?

If you want to change the status quo, you may not be incentives, but a habit!

Kate Gladdin, one of the "most influential women" in Australia, in Australia, gave the following 5 social skills in the book "Small Change, Big Impact" to change your social habits and let you be in Socially like fish!

01

communicate

Unsable communication habits are not conducive to our happy and valuable relationship. If you ignore your preferences, needs, and desires in order to make others happy, isn't it just to meet? Of course, it is a good thing to take care of others, but if you do not pay enough attention to your needs at the expense of your own needs, and hide your ideas in your heart, the problem will follow. Your recognition of self -worth will be greatly discounted because you are suppressing true self.

Of course, when we communicate with others, we must not just express our thoughts and feelings as we want to express their existence, let alone the existence of others, let alone aggressive. This is another extreme, which will inevitably cause contradictions and conflicts. Others will complain about us and alienate us, because we have not given him the respect.

How to maintain a healthy and balanced relationship? The answer is to strive to be firm and confident. You should honestly express your thoughts and feelings while respecting the views of others.

Friends and family members can support each other when they are in difficulties, and they can become each other when they are frustrated. This is exactly the precious place of these relationships. Together with a difficult time, the relationship can make the relationship more tough, because you once rely on each other.

But the premise is that you have to learn to open up your heart, even if you just feel something wrong with a little bit, you must immediately express your inner thoughts and feelings. This can make the other party feel that you can see each other frankly, liver and gallbladder, and the trust and connection between the two parties. That's it.

02

Resolve conflict

Everyone's personality and preferences are different. Opinion of opinions during contacts, and conflict conflicts. If you do not control, you come and go and tit -up, and finally develop to roar and scold each other, it will inevitably have a adverse effect on the two parties. Therefore, when the opinions with each other are not uniform, what should I do to avoid conflict upgrade? You should choose a calm and rational treatment method to find a fair and win -win solution.

The brain is very sensitive to potential danger and will respond quickly. So when you want to prove that you are correct and the other person is wrong,

We are likely to suddenly blame and even attack each other. This not only violates our beliefs, but also severely destroys the relationship between the two parties.

However, good news is that we can overcome the natural reactions of the brain, learn to make big things small, small things, and maintain healthy interpersonal relationships.

Resolution of conflict is a vital social skill. With the skills of resolving conflicts, your relationship with your family will be more harmonious and close, your relationship with friends will be stronger and stable, and your relationship with teachers, coaches and others can become smooth. If you can't accept different opinions and can't endure criticism, it is likely to be the "stabbing" in the eyes of everyone.

Of course you don't want that, don't you? You should learn to argue with others constructively to cultivate your own way of thinking. This not only allows you to get along more with teachers, coaches, and colleagues on the future of life, but also bring you more valuable opportunities and promotion opportunities. If you want to be an excellent leader, resolve conflict is even more essential.

03

Positive relationship

In the process of growth, we must choose to associate with who to associate with. I remember to please my friends, I used to do something that made myself disgusted, because at that time, I felt that good friends should be "two ribs" for each other. However, real good friends will not let you do what you can't accept yourself, and will not intentionally destroy things that are of great significance to you.

Real friends should be able to awaken your best side. He can not only play with you, but also provide a shoulder that you can rely on when you need it to listen to your troubles. When choosing friends, in addition to seeing whether the two parties have common hobbies, they also depend on whether they are the same "three views" and have similar personalities.

In this way, you can help each other and grow together to become the ideal self. This often means that you must not only establish friendship with your peers, but also establish affection with teachers, coaches, and other trusted adults.

I strongly recommend you to find an adult that you particularly admire as a life mentor to help you spend the ups and downs of adolescents. A rich, smart and wise adult can give you guidance for you and give you the power to overcome difficulties. You may be able to conflict with this suggestion, fearing that adults will only preach.

But most of the reason why life mentors are willing to help help because they see what they are when they are young. They were also young, struggling in pain, and had to help.

If you meet a trusted adult, talk to him about your mind, and build a firm emotional bond with him. He can be your good teacher and friend, and become a bright lamp on your life. One day you can also become a life mentor for others! 04

Go out to socialize

When you are lying on the sofa with your mobile phone comfortably, you receive a message, and your friend wants to ask you to go out to play together. You sighed, because at this moment you really don't want to wear a lot of chapters, let alone trouble your mother to drive you. So you reply to your friends: "No today, can you make an appointment for the day?" However, don't rush to reply to your friends first, try to listen to my views.

The above scenes may not be unfamiliar to you.

You may prefer to send information about socially, because this makes you easier. You don't have to worry about looking for nothing to talk to people, and you don't have to worry about your clothes and appearance. In this case, why do you have to find trouble and force yourself to participate in social activities?

The data shows that the average length of the American teenagers on mobile phones is 9 hours a day, but they often feel lonely. It is true that the Internet adds a lot of fun to interpersonal communication and let us immerse themselves, but we still have to strive to maintain interaction in real life. Studies have shown that if young people around 15 years old can establish intimate relationships with friends who are similar, he has a lower possibility of anxiety and depression after 10 years, and has a stronger sense of identity in self -worth.

The deepest memory in his youth comes from the time with the Communist Party of China with friends in real life. Social media and online chats can add icing on the cake between friends, but they cannot completely replace interaction in real life. Sometimes, maybe you feel embarrassed and awkward when facing others, but in the future, you are likely to establish affectionate friendship, maybe you will also become a close friend of the Communist Party and the same way. If this is the case, what is the awake and awkward when you first see it?

05

Be a kind person

Everyone has a superpower, that is, kindness. If human beings can often use this superpow also to do good deeds, we will not be so painful. Any kind of good deed reminds us that there are still good things in the world, so that we will smile in difficult days. Therefore, do not take goodness without being small. Studies have shown that if teenagers can do good day, 6 weeks later, his happiness index can increase by 40%.

It is easy for us to take the goodwill of others as the goodwill, especially from the goodwill of parents and teachers. We may think that this is the right we should enjoy. However, no one has the obligation to be so good to you. If we always take the goodness of others as a matter of granted, it is very likely to be a person who is "forgotten".

In the process of growing up, when there are more and more things that determine independence, we must pay more attention to treating others and respecting others, including adults who annoyed us from time to time. Most of the reasons they annoyed us were rest assured that the starting point was usually good. If we can show the greatest goodwill, listen patiently, and help maintain a healthy and pleasant relationship with them.

You may resist such suggestions, and you may say: "People who do not respect me also want to get my respect." In fact, do you think about their behavior, shouting, or making other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions, or other reactions. It is your own choice, which has nothing to do with their right or wrong. If you choose to return your teeth, it is yourself that you will be punished. You will feel unhappy and be more dissatisfied with the world.

If we do n’t want to become pessimistic, then start from ourselves, take the first step, and prove to the world: even if the world kiss me in pain, I have to report it; even if the world does not treat me well, I can do it, I can do it To "resentment with virtue". Remember, treat others forever. Use your kindness to bring others like a spring breeze!

Each of us is not an isolated island, and social networking is everywhere.

Social treatment can be done with less effort.

Li Yu is wisdom, respect is education, and good is the character.

Mastering these social skills, I hope you will be more likely in the future circle.

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