Hot search first, Hong Kong's 5 -year -old boy's "Baby Incident" reversed and stabbed how many people's hearts

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Recently, I observed a very interesting phenomenon:

Those who can be respected and trusted by their parents in their childhood growth, their mentality when they grow up are often more active and optimistic, and they have achieved greater achievements.

Many times, parents' unconscious actions, inadvertently, may have an impact on their children.

The famous psychologist Adler once said: "Lucky people have been healed by childhood, and unfortunate people have been healing their childhood throughout their lives."

What happened recently also gave me a deeper understanding of this sentence.

Some time ago, a photo was circulated in Hong Kong, which caused heated discussion.

This is the case.

On the weekend, a pair of parents took two sons to the toy shop to hang out.

The eldest son is 5 years old, the younger son is 3 years old, and the family of four is still wearing parent -child outfits. It was originally happy.

Unexpectedly, a sudden noise, her mother turned her head and found that a 1.8 -meter -high golden antenna baby fell to the ground.

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She was standing next to her eldest son. The child was overwhelmed and panicked. The clerk also rushed over and said to his mother:

"Your son kicked the doll and it was broken."

The father who had called at the door also hurried over, and the couple immediately apologized and took the initiative to express compensation.

But at first glance, it was stunned, and it took 52,800 Hong Kong dollars ... After the negotiation, the cost price was more than 30,000.

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After buying the order, her mother crossed her arms and looked very angry; my father's hands on his hips seemed a little helpless.

The son who did something wrong, looked down at the broken antenna baby.

You can feel the child's sadness through the photos.

The original thing was over here. Everyone thought that this was a story of "bear child destroying" to spend money to buy lessons.

Unexpectedly, a surveillance video suddenly flowed out on the Internet, and the incident reversed an amazing reversal.

The picture shows that the little boy did not play dolls at all, but the shop was too crowded.

When he dodged the crowd, he accidentally touched the antenna baby back.

The antenna baby fell immediately, and the little boy immediately turned to pull the doll, but it was too late.

After watching this video, my mother knew that she had wronged her son.

She posted on the Internet in anger:

"At that time, I concentrated on seeing the product and didn't pay attention to the incident. The first sentence of that clerk said that my son kicked the doll.

"There is no fence around such an expensive doll, I really feel outrageous.

"Compensation for 30,000 Hong Kong dollars is simply eating people with blood buns, which makes me psychological pressure. I dare not go shopping in the future."

Indeed, some netizens pulled out the previous photos and found that the baby was on the platform when the baby was displayed last year, and was surrounded by surroundings.

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I don't know why this year, the guardrail was withdrawn, and such a expensive doll was on a crowded aisle. It was really suspected of touching porcelain.

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Netizens who knew the ins and out of the dragon rushed to the social platform of the toy store to leave a message and accused them of accusing them.

Children are innocent and have not been smashed. They are already lucky and should not pay so much money.

After the incident was fermented, the parent company of the toy store apologized urgently, returned the money to the parents of the children, and collected all the dolls over 1 meter in the store.

A small storm finally calmed down.

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But the little boy in the incident could not be erased in a short time due to the psychological shadow of this storm.

Some media found the child's father, and his father said that the little boy seemed to be scared.

I dare not move that day, I dare not speak when I get home, and the parents dare not talk about it.

After that, the little boy also asked his father three times "why dolls are so terrible" and did not go to school for several days.

Parents are also uncomfortable and feel that they should not blame their children.

The performance of the little boy is a bit like "trauma sequelae".

It is greatly lethal to be misunderstood and wronged, especially for children who can't be fully argued by themselves. This kind of grievances and uncomfortable are doubled.

If his parents could squat down at that time, ask the frightened little boy clearly, and soothe his emotions, maybe this incident would not leave such a big shadow.

There are many parents who love their children in this world, but few parents who trust their children without conditions.

There was such a thing before. A 13 -year -old girl in Shaanxi was abused by various unbearable words at the school teacher in the school.

I have been silent for half a year and dare not resist. Although she also told her parents, her parents did not trust her and thought that the teacher was criticizing and educating their children.

The girl couldn't stand it anymore, crying and said, "You don't believe me, I can recording, you believe it when you hear the recording."

Within a month, the girls recorded hundreds of recording, and the total length of more than 20 hours was an unbearable abuse of the class teacher.

From the morning reading to the evening in the morning, as long as he has his class, he basically scolds girls.

The girl's family finally realized that because of her distrust, her daughter had to obtain evidence himself, which hurt her.

Parents, should be the child's umbrella and a shelter. If even the closest person does not believe in himself, he can also expect anyone in the world to stand on his side?

Zhihu has a hot post, stabbing many people's hearts: "What is the feeling of not being trusted by parents?" A respondent told his story.

In the third grade of elementary school, because of her delay, her mother thought she deliberately did not tell her parents.

So her mother called the school teacher one by one in front of her child, and she was completely crying and crying.

In the sixth grade of elementary school, she had a cold, her chest tightness and shortness of breath, but her mother said she was to skip class.

Later, when I went to the hospital for examination, the doctor's diagnosis was a heart problem, and it was recommended to stop the class immediately.

But the next day her mother asked her to go to school.

In the end, the child's myocarditis did not go to the clinic because of the first time in the symptoms, and almost missed the best time to treat treatment, leaving sequelae.

After adulthood, this situation has become more and more intense, and the mother's distrust has made the respondent more and more inferior and sensitive.

This phenomenon is described in the book "High EQ":

"If the child is not trusted by his parents, he can't feel the love of his parents, and he can't get the power of growth. Gradually, he will become no confidence, cowardice, inferiority, and shrinking and hesitating."

There are tens of thousands of stories in the comment area, and I can't help crying:

"In the fifth grade, my mother put the 50 yuan in the drawer, and I suspected it was it. I said no, but everyone did not believe me. I did not use my various explanations. "

"In the second grade of elementary school, my dad could not find a mobile phone charging cable, and found that there was a cut charging cable in the corridor trash bin. I thought I cut his charging cable and hit me. Later, he was in himself in himself. I found his charging cable at the bottom of the bed. At that time, the feeling of desperate explanation and the feeling of being trusted, I would remember it all my life. "

The dislike of parents, the damage effect caused by the child is far more than the present. It runs through the life and is tied to the child's mind like a needle.

Writer Xiao Hong wrote about Lu Xun and his son Hai Ying in "Recalling Mr. Lu Xun".

One day, Lu Xun's family invited a bowl of meat made from the dishes called by the Fujian Restaurant.

Hai Ying is not fresh as soon as he eats, and others do not believe it.

Because some of the balls are fresh and some are not fresh, others who eat their mouths just happen without taste.

Mr. Xu gave a sea baby again, and the sea baby ate it, and it was not good, so he shouted again.

Others ignored it. Only Mr. Lu Xun took it in the sea -baby dish and tasted it. It really changed.

Mr. Lu Xun said, "He said it is not new, there must be his truth, and it is wrong to erase it if you check it."

The feeling of being trusted and being deeply loved is an indispensable nutrient in the growth process of every child.

I really like a paragraph that Mrs. Mai says to McDull:

"People all over the world do not believe you, and I will believe you too. I love you and love to the heart, I believe you believe it."

Love and trust are the best gifts for parents to give their children.

mutual encouragement.

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