How did you grow up as a "985 waste" since childhood?

120,000 young people gathered together and claimed to be waste. This is the true portrayal of the Douban 985 waste introduction plan.

If you dive in this group for a few days, you will find some common traits in the team members:

校 Excellent grades, famous school halo, exaggerated from an early age, a typical children of other people's houses;

在 But the glory stopped abruptly after graduation, and the most hard -working person even started to rot;

， The inner conflict is extremely conflict, and the pride and unconfidence in the bones fight against each other.

These days, the pride of the sky grew up by his parents, and received a lot of attention and praise, but he did not move towards the road of successful people (expected), and he still suffered a huge torment.

Aside from the factors at the real level, today's article wants to talk about psychologically. How did you destroy a child?

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These compliments are toxic

In the eyes of most people, compared to those children who have been abused or ignored by their parents, children who have received more attention and praise should be more confident, brave, and have stronger achievements. This is a good thing to praise.

But in fact, some inappropriate compliments have a negative impact on children, which is often said to kill, such as the following

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