Create better conditions for people who meet "right" for young people (new perspective)

Young people are the main body of marriage and childbirth, and their marriage attitude has always received widespread attention from society. A few days ago, a survey of "China Youth Daily" facing college students across the country showed that nearly 60 % of the respondents hoped to enter the marriage hall at the age of 26-30. In another set of data, the Chinese Youth School media launched a questionnaire survey for young people on the topic of blind dates. The results showed that 44.84%of the respondents accepted blind dates.

The above survey results indeed subvert the intuitive impression of many people. After all, in reality, my country's marriage rate is declining. According to the latest announcement of the Development Statistics of the 2021 Civil Affairs of the Ministry of Civil Affairs, the marriage rate in my country in 2021 was only 5.4 ‰. One side is that many young people want to enter the marriage hall, but the other is the decline in marriage rate and delay of marriage age. Why is there such a contrast?

Those who "want to miss" may not be "in love", and those who "want to knot" may not be "dare to end." The reason for bringing such contrasts is multiple aspects: there are existing individual reasons, such as some young people are influenced by individualism, the self -consciousness is prominent, or the expectation of the partner is too idealized and missed the opportunity to marry and love; there are also family reasons, such as parents and relatives The fancy "reminded marriage" and "remarriage" attract young people's dislike of marriage and love; there are social factors, increasing competitive pressure and rising marriage and childbearing costs, making many young people in love talk about marriage On marriage, "discouraged".

The development of the Internet has promoted the anxiety of young people. The younger generation of the Internet grows up, and many of the awareness of marriage and love comes from the Internet, and the massive and fragmented characteristics of online information can easily make people a perceived bias and stereotypes of things. In recent years, "love replacement" such as virtual lovers has become popular among young groups. If a person depends on the Internet to understand the knowledge of marriage and love, once he enters the reality of marriage and loves the negative experience of life and the negative information of the public media spread, it is easy to form an irrational thinking about marriage and love, and then the emotion of "fear of marriage".

Although young people now have a lot of troubles on marriage, we still have to see their longing for beautiful love and marriage. It can be said that many of their contents in their marriage views just reflect the development of the times and social progress. Nowadays, the light people choose spouse, and they look at the same "three views", and they choose the same fun. Many people think more about the combination of spirit and emotions when choosing the other half. Shu Ting's independence, equality, and storm love in "To the Oak" is not only pursued by young people at the moment, but also becomes more and more realistic. It is not difficult to find out from the popular love film and television drama in recent years that the concept of "marrying chickens with chickens, marrying dogs and dogs" is difficult to resonate in the younger generation. The love of respect and understanding, mutual support and progress has become the mainstream of the screen, and is highly sought after.

Each generation has the concept of marriage and love, and cannot be brought to compare simply. For the changes in the contemporary young people's marriage and love concept, we should see the active elements of them and give full tolerance and understanding of their personal diversified choices.

Of course, getting married is not only a personal behavior, but also inseparable from the development of economic and social development. Relevant government departments, families, schools, society, etc. should face up to the emotional needs and expectations of young people at different stages. On the one hand, they guide young people to establish a correct view of marriage and love and gradually alleviate the anxiety of marriage and love. More support guidance, creating better conditions and atmosphere for those who meet "yes", so that "unreasonable", "fear of marriage", "dare to end" of "unreasonable", "fear of marriage" "".

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Laiyuan: "People's Daily Overseas Edition" (September 05, 2022)

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