"Who is with, it is really important!"

There is a saying in the book "The Prosecution of Hedu to Young People":

People who are lower than you are jealous of you, doubt you, judge you, negate you, attack you;

Those who have the same energy, like you, appreciate you, affirm you, cherish you, accompany you;

People who have higher energy than you understand you, tolerate you, support you, guard you, and achieve you.

This is the well -known energy law.

Everyone comes with energy, some people are full of energy, and some people negative energy burst.

With active people, we can get along with our hearts and warmth; while with negative people, we may be trapped in anxiety and more troubles.

It is really important to be with whom.

Those who consume you, stay away

01

The book "Nothing to Life" wrote, "Do you have the courage to end any relationship that consumes yourself generously."

The most important thing is comfortable and mutually nourishment; if your kindness, in exchange for endless consumption, it is better to stop loss in time.

San Mao wrote about her relationship with the Saharaway neighbors in "Fang Neighborhood".

A Saharaway who was a male assistant in a nearby hospital, because of the baptism of civilization and hygiene, he no longer grasped meals with his family.

As soon as the meal, the male assistant's son must come to find Sanmao.

The borrowed knives and forks were returned, but she was disturbed every day. Sanmao couldn't stand it. She was so distressed that she simply bought a new set of knife forks for them.

Unexpectedly, two days later, the boy appeared again.

Sanmao asked: "What about the set I gave you?"

The little boy replied, "My mother said, that set is new, it is collected, now my father is going to eat ..."

"What is your dad going to eat me?" In the end, San Mao couldn't bear to ask.

Indeed, people's patience is limited, and no matter how good the temper is, it will not be consumed again and again.

Some people say: "Whoever walks into life, you can't choose, but whoever stays in your life can be controlled by yourself."

People who have lower energy than you like to consume unilaterally and consume your money, time, energy, resources, or emotions. They have never thought about what they should pay.

Once they are not available, they may in turn deny you and attack you.

Although goodness is the best quality of the world, goodness should bring their own sharpness. For this one who will only consume you, staying away is the best success for each other.

Those who nourish you, approach

02

It is very important to agree with who you are with who you are with in real life. It can even change your growth trajectory and determine your life or failure. What kind of person will have what kind of life will be with what kind of person. "

The interaction between Lao She and Xu Dishan explained this well.

Lao She, who graduated from high school, was taught at Yanjing University when he first met Xu Dushan.

Lao She thought that Xu Dishan, who was six years old, might have scholars. I did not expect that he was very approachable.

For a while, Lao She wanted to study religion, and Xu Dishan patiently explained it to him. Unfortunately, Lao She progressed slowly.

Therefore, Xu Dishan suggested that Lao She said: "Choosing a career is important to be near. I advise you to write a novel that you can be a novelist."

After listening to my friends, Lao She used a student of 3 pence and a student practice.

When Xu Dishan came to see Lao She, Lao She took out the manuscript of the novel and asked Xu Di Shan to give a opinion.

Xu Dishan read the novel and kept laughing. Lao She asked him what he laughed. He said, "I really didn't expect you to write so humorous."

Then, Xu Dishan recommended this novel to the then editor -in -chief of the Novel Monthly, Zheng Zhenduo, which was really published in two or three months.

Since then, Lao She has been out of control, and has published works such as "Zhao Zi" and "Two Horses" one after another, becoming the most glorious star creation in the May 4th period.

Lao She recalled: "Without the help of Mr. Xu, there is no me today."

Moderator Yang Lan once said: "Evaluate the essence of a relationship depends on whether the two people in the relationship become a better self because they are together."

Everyone's life is not smooth sailing, and often encounters embarrassment and pain. If there are people who have higher energy than you, it will be very lucky.

When you are at a loss, they will give you guidance; when you work hard, they will cheer for you; when you succeed, they will share happiness with you.

In the process of struggle, they will open a new perspective of life for you, help you get more new skills in life, so that you can accumulate and get brilliant.

Life is like a brigade, with the people who nourish you, regardless of the future, they will make you clear and optimistic.

People who understand you, travel together

03

To truly understand and care for a person is to be the backing of each other from time to time, and help each other.

I couldn't help but think of Jiang Nansun and Zhu locks in the novel "The Golden Years", and their friendship moved a lot of people.

Jiang Nansun has a good family in his childhood, lives a princess -like life, and has been well educated.

Zhu Lock has sent people under the fence since childhood, eager to warm family life, spicy personality, and affection.

Two Shanghai girls are middle school classmates and only daughters. From the first meeting, they have become good friends who have nothing to talk about.

Although their life trajectory was completely different, there was no gap between each other and supported each other, consistent. The Zhu locks that walked into the society early, undulating in the red dust, after being fell in love with the rich second generation, they were abandoned. They would be discussed and slandered in the metropolis.

At these times, Jiang Nansun always stood beside Zhu Luo and gave her understanding and reliance.

Later, Zhu Lock had his own little family. When he encountered a marriage problem, Jiang Nansun also warmly accompanied him to help Zhu Lock successfully get out of the predicament.

Similarly, during the period when Jiang Nansun's family encountered changes, Zhu Lock spared no effort to help them one family, solve various difficulties such as clothing, food, housing, and transportation. Like Jiang Nansun accompanied himself, he would never give up.

In the book, Jiang Nansun said: "Locks are the rare all -weather friends. I succeed, she is not jealous; I am sluggish, she does not despise it, and her life is enough."

Encounter is rare, knowledge, and even more valuable.

Life is always the time when the scenery is the most friend; when you are down, your friends are the least.

When you are in adversity, most people will give you away, and there are very few help at any time, and there are fewer that you can help you rely on.

Those who understand you will never leave you when you are lonely. On the contrary, they will guard in silence, accompany you to overcome difficulties, and solve your sorrow until things gradually get better.

In this life, the happiest thing is not Gao Peng full, and he is famous, but people who have the same frequency during the trough are accompanied by you.

The mountains and rivers are not heavy, focusing on the confidant.

04

Some people say: Those who are upright are increasingly linked, and those who are evil and soft are damaged.

It means that you will make progress with friends who are upright; you will retreat every day.

Understanding the friendly friendship does not necessarily accompany each other at all times, but can keep the heart of each other; the friendship consumed, despite the entanglement of everything, just wants to take it up.

Life is very short and time is very expensive. We must be with those who have positive energy.

May the years see what you see, all of which are tender;

About the author: Ruo Ping, half of the fireworks, half poetic.

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