No matter how kind you are, don’t help these three kinds of houses, you can’t change your gratitude and complain about it.

Keeping a suitable distance is the long -term way.

Author: Philosophy Jun · Yimu

Source: Philosophy Life Network (ID: zxrsnet)

There is a paragraph in "Girls of Killing Quails", which means:

"When you are old, look back on your life, you will find that when you go abroad to study, when you decide to do the first occupation, when you choose an object, and when you get married, when you get married, it is actually a huge change in fate."

Take it seriously.

Due to the marriage of children, the two families who were unfamiliar came together, not relatives, better than their loved ones.

It is commonplace to help each other and cross difficulties together.

However, there are three kinds of busyness. You must learn to refuse. Some kindness may not bring good results. Not only is it not good, but he will be complained and giving birth to a gap.

This is especially true between pro -family. A small move may cause great changes in two families.

Don't be the master of major decisions

Major decisions, do not make the master for your own.

The more important the decision, the greater the influence of a family in the future.

Netizen@网 will be better about a friend's experience:

Just graduated, friend Xiao Zhao's parents were going to buy a wedding room for their son in the provincial capital.

At that time, the real estate was sluggish and the price was not high. Xiao Zhao's parents thought it was an opportunity.

Xiao Zhao did not have any opinion, and asked Xiao Zheng's girlfriend's opinion, and his girlfriend did not understand. He could only give a reference for his parents.

I thought of the parents directly, saying that buying XX new districts is a new national area, and the future development must be good. The house is set, and a good day will be selected to get married.

Later, the house price doubled.

However, the family couldn't get up, because on the main road of a plan, the developers were incomplete and illegally obtained.

As soon as the foundation was dug, it was stopped.

House prices are ten times, and it has nothing to do with them.

To this end, Xiao Zhao did not blame his girlfriend's parents. In the end, the two broke up.

Some people say that there are no points and no way.

Some people say that parents do not mix this and this is not the case.

It's just that everything is late now. The young man who talked about marriage was already on each side.

Little Zheng's parents are in the cause. The problem is the main cause of the house. The core is the gap between the two couples. Even if they are barely together, the life after marriage will inevitably conflict.

Between the prospective family, the big deal is not the same.

Isn't it more difficult for the two sides to do if similar things happen?

The small family will inevitably jump the chickens because of this.

Major decisions are a kind of wisdom and a long -term vision without making the master for your own family.

What can be mixed and what cannot be mixed, there must be a score in your heart.

The greatest wisdom of helping people is to grasp the scale and do not exceed the moment.

Family contradictions do not need to be mixed

Family affairs are private. Even if you are a family, do not mix with each other's family contradictions.

As a family, it is a third party. It is not a person who is a person. If you are familiar with it, you are just looking at flowers in the fog. It is difficult to see the land really, not to mention that the family affairs are complicated.

I have watched a program that mediate family disputes:

The two brothers Lao Ding had a very unpleasant trouble because of the house sites in their early years. When their parents were alive, they maintained their surface and qi at least.

After the parents went old, the two brothers had no walk.

However, the brothers' wives are not fuel -saving lamps. They like to pour dirty water for each other, and they always chew their tongue roots in their backs.

Over time, contradictions are getting deeper and deeper.

The daughter was married, and when the grandson was three years old, she returned home once a year.

The father -in -law and mother -in -law were not assured and sent the baby grandson to return to the foreigner.

After the father -in -law knew the distress of his relatives, he was willing to be a middleman to resolve each other's contradictions.

Brother Lao Ding does not sell face, his niece's father -in -law, or foreigner, how old is it? What kind of strength is messed up?

The father -in -law was eating, and his face could not be over. If he couldn't help it, he was about to beat each other.

Brother Lao Ding is also a temperament and was bullied to the head. This cannot be tolerated.

After that, he was summoned by the police because of fighting.

Since then, the relationship between the old Ding family and his younger brother has become more tense.

In the past, I chewed the roots of the tongue secretly, and now it is clearly scolding, and even the younger generations have quarreled and fight ... Finally, the TV station to mediate family disputes to mediate.

There is a cloud in the old saying: difficult to break the housework.

It is the same reason.

The same reason is the same, but it can be said clearly, but it is difficult to say.

When the tongue and teeth are fighting, the family will be a bit contradictory.

Once outsiders are involved in it, they often only cause more contradictions and bring more pain.

Writer Bondrev said: "All the root causes of human beings originated from lack of boundaries."

It is particularly important to have a border between pro -home.

Keeping your own bottom line and not interfered with other people's family affairs at will, causing more accidents, it is a great achievement.

Murakami Haruki said:

"The things that are not good at are barely, and they must do what they can do when they can do it. This is a valuable lesson."

This is the same.

Don't force things that you can't do, don't agree with things that can't be done.

After all, the personnel are small and the personnel are large.

Do things and learn to do what you do.

Friends have shared a story:

The old man opened a cement plant in his early years and made a lot of money.

Later, due to environmental protection and other reasons, the equipment was upgraded. The old man thought that his children had become a family. They didn't need to be so hard, so they simply went out.

Of course, the fat and water did not flow out of the outsiders, and gave it to my own family.

The pro -family has developed, and my daughter follows the blessing?

In the past few years, the business of my pro -family business was getting bigger and bigger.

However, a few years of good times. Due to an accident, the cement plant was investigated by the regulatory bureau. After the penalty was fined, the business collapsed.

Seeing that the family was scorched, the debt was high.

The old man Gao wanted to help.

As a consultant who do not pay, bring funds into the cement plant and try to turn the tide.

However, the problem is much more complicated than the old man. He has not been in this industry for many years. He made a mistake several times. He blindly transformed the business line and pushed the cement plant into the abyss.

Instead, the old man not only could not help the cement plant to return to life, but instead put the old -age money in, and the financing of the Gao old man's guarantee was also consumed.

My pro -home also went bankrupt and had a debt.

The relationship between the two suddenly fell to the bottom.

The old saying often advises the world: Li Wei Wei is loaded, and Yan Lightless persuades people.

In fact, even if the ability is outstanding, this sentence is still used.

People, the most important thing is to recognize themselves and have a clear positioning for themselves.

The family does not know that the family is difficult.

Family relationships are the most complicated, and there are many cases of good intentions.

Do not easily cross the border, master the size;

Do not surpass the moment, grasp the scale;

Don't blend blindly, control the distance.

Between the pro -family, there is a degree of politeness, but the indifference is chilling, but the interference allows each other to have a gap. Keeping a suitable distance is the long -term way.

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