After a trip, I realized the secret of happy marriage

I took my child to a trip this summer, and our husband and wife almost made trouble.

The cause is two boxes of instant noodles.

At noon one day, I asked my husband to buy some lunch.

After waiting for a long time, he only brought back two boxes of instant noodles.

Three people and two boxes of instant noodles, I was angry instantly:

"Who eats two boxes of instant noodles? You buy some drinks and biscuits anyway!"

Speaking of my angrily pushing, a box of instant noodles fell to the ground.

"Can you respect the labor of others? There is no need to get angry." Husband was angry.

For a while, both of us were burning in anger.

I left the sentence "I don't eat" and ran out of the room.

After calming down, I was a bit not a taste in my heart. It was just a little bit of things. I shouldn't be so irritable.

Just as I pondered how to remedy, the phone rang.

"Where are you? Come back, make your face soak you."

"Okay, I'll go back now."

Bad in time, saved in time, the quarrel did not upgrade, and the family's interest was not affected.

After the husband and wife quarrel, it is important to know how to give each other steps.

Marriage, use microscope to find shortcomings, are all sores; using magnifying glass to see the advantages can be perfect.

Once a trip, I understand the fundamentals of the happiness of marriage:

The stability of marriage depends on love, but it is better to depend on the harmony of daily life. It is the result of the three aspects of feelings, rationality, and will.

No matter how trivial frictions, if it is not resolved in time, it will become a big contradiction between stifling feelings; no matter how small the small beauty, knowing how to guard and cherish, you can finally harvest the happiness of white -headed old age.

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No matter how small emotions, you can't control it is a big deal

Such a story happened around me.

Xiao Li and his friends eat and drink at home, and have three patrols. My friend asked to eat onions, and Xiao Li ordered his wife to cut.

At that time, the wife was busy looking at the three young children, and rejected her husband's request: "I want to eat myself, don't eat it, I don't wait for you."

The words of his wife made Xiao Li feel that he lost his face in front of his friend.

Subsequently, he quarreled with his wife, the more quarrels and fiercely, and finally, everyone couldn't persuade him, and he went directly to divorce in anger.

The most terrible thing in marriage is to turn all bad emotions into the weapons of wounds and wield it to the closest people.

The biggest tragedy in the world is that two people love each other, but they cannot operate marriage well.

In life, what causes the relationship between husband and wife to break down is often not a big contradiction in principle, but a small bump in trivial.

Many times, the more we face the familiar people, the more we release the bad emotions in fear.

Couples who cannot restrain negative energy will only blame each other and vent their emotions, and will spend all their lives in the tug -of -war consumption of each other. And most of those husbands and wives who can stay with each other, mostly learned to "solve emotions first, then solve problems", not tangled for bad things, and not being affected by emotions.

Between husband and wife, more tolerance of each other, less suffering from each other, happiness can last long.

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No matter how small changes, accumulation is growth

Before getting married, the eyes were good; after marriage, it was uncomfortable to see the other party.

In fact, it is not that the other half has changed, but the way we look at feelings are different.

Before the marriage, there was only the wind and snow, and after the marriage, it was full of chai oil and salt.

There must be running -in in life, but the running -in is not to fight for you wrong, but to be able to grow up synchronously.

In the TV series "Our Marriage", there is a clip that makes me remember.

After Shen Coming returned to the workplace, many things in the family could not take care of them. Her husband Sheng Jiangchuan had to do it by himself.

For example, his daughter was not taken care of, and he was forced to take his child on a business trip; no one was washed in his clothes, he could only learn to use the washing machine; no one had done sanitation, and he had to sweep the floor, vacuum, and change the garbage bag.

As a result, in the process, Shengjiangchuan was getting more and more work on housework. He began to help his daughter wash his hair, learn to classify clothes, know to buy thick garbage bags ...

At the same time, he began to understand his wife's past, and he also understood the difficulty of his wife.

In our lives, we treat our partners like a clumsy child -while complaining, while helping him to do what he should do, and then tell him "you are really useless."

Zhou Guoping said: "Marriage is not only tolerance and accepting the other party, but also changes with the marriage and grows together."

Give each other enough room for growth to get closer and closer.

Lu Xun wrote a sentence in the novel "Bad":

"This is true, love must be updated and created from time to time."

Zi Jun and Juansheng were once lovers and even more confidants.

But after living together, the two did not have the tacit understanding of the past.

Zijun was herself with a housewife. She no longer read a book. She just thought about how to make daily meals. When did poultry feed?

Although Juansheng, although he could not bear his heart, the two were busy, and no one really put into action to change.

In the end, each other gradually drifted, and when they were unbearable, they were scattered.

There is a saying good:

"Love is accompanied and fulfilled with each other in a considerable dimension. It is not only a cane that is accompanied by each other, but also the light of chasing the wind and waves."

There is no perfect marriage in the world, but only the happiness of operating with the heart.

Two people are consistent and growing together, which is the secret of long -term feelings. Source: panoramic vision

No matter how small the disadvantages, you can't accept it, it is torture

See a question on Zhihu:

Why does the disadvantage of lovers become increasingly unbearable over time?

There is a praise answer:

The wife talked about her husband lost her socks as soon as she returned home, and they always quarreled. Later, she realized that it was just that love enlarged the other party, but the marriage exposed her shortcomings.

There was another sentence in the answer that touched me:

"You can see well, and you can see bad; the sun rises as usual, and life must continue. So socks, let it continue to lie there. Even if it is old, it is just a pair of stinky socks. We must learn to live a life. ","

Marriage life is not a game. There is no need to be tit -for -tat.

There is a line in the TV series "Xiaomin Home":

"Love is a process that constantly discovers the advantages of the other party; but marriage is different, it is a process that constantly digests the disadvantages of the other party."

When marriage is more, it is the shortcomings of the other party. With the "bad" side of each other, we can resist the long and windy storms.

Although Qian Yanshu is talented, it is a mess in life. Today, the ink bottle was overturned, and the table lamp will be broken tomorrow. However, Yang Yan will comfort him and say, "It doesn't matter, I will wash it", "It doesn't matter, I will repair it."

Life is inevitable to fall into the cliché, nor can it avoid dissatisfaction because of trivial matters. Fortunately, you accept his shortcomings. He tolerates your shortcomings. The two know how to appreciate each other, be considerate of each other, and give up.

In fact, real love starts from entering marriage.

When you have experienced trivial disciplines and still do not change your original intention. When you are willing to operate and grow with each other, that is the real maturity of love.

Otherwise, no matter how strong you love it, you can't afford the washing of the years after all

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A good marriage is the accompaniment that has precipitated in a trivial life.

Respect each other, negotiate together, there are problems, no duty; work together, grow together, you move forward, I catch up;

Behind the quiet years is that someone is willing to face the fineness of life with you in life, willing to be compatible with your shortcomings, and willing to move into a wider life with you.

Although the days are trivial, some people accompany the left and right; in the time of chai oil and salt, enjoy peace of mind and practicality.

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