There is a filial piety in front of the sick bed

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Changde Daily reporter Cai Wenlong Feng Shunqian Correspondent Wang Jia Dong Weiwen/Picture

In the summer, the "autumn tiger" continued to make power, and the outdoor temperature was 36 ° C. On the same day, when the reporter walked into Zhao Lanzhen, Zhao Lanzhen, Zeyuan Community, Wuling District, she was feeding eggs for her mother -in -law Xu Jiaying with a spoon, pinching her legs, and scrubbing her body ... In the room, the air conditioner temperature was displayed at 26 ° C, which was very cool.

"Obviously there is an old man who eats and drinks Lasa in bed, but he can't smell a little." Liu Xu, a staff member of Zeyuan Community on the side, said that "there is no filial son in front of the sick bed", but this good daughter -in -law Zhao Lanzhen for ten years for ten years For example, to serve her mother -in -law, let the 77 -year -old Xu Jiaying's spiritual spirit, and enjoy happiness in their later years.

Zhao Lanzhen washed his mother -in -law.

She became the mother -in -law's nursingist

"Are you tired of taking care of for so many years?" The first question raised by the reporter made Zhao Lanzhen, a 54 -year -old Zhao Lanzhen instantly.

"Tired is yes. I take care of my complaints and regrets on weekdays. I also have to endure the crying, noise, and abuse of my mother -in -law when I get sick. I can only put grievances in my heart. I know she is a completely dementia patient." After her mother -in -law was ill, her mind was similar to her children. Every day Zhao Lanzhen coaxed her to eat, dress, sleep, and sleep ... and when she talked to her family to take care of her grievances, she was also criticized by her family. "She is a patient, you and you and you and you and you What she cares about. "

Why do my mother -in -law be like this? This starts from 10 years ago. One day in July 2012, when the family was preparing to have dinner, Zhao Lanzhen found that the posture of her mother -in -law walked was strange and shaking. "Not good, I'm afraid it's a stroke." This idea flashed in Zhao Lanzhen's mind. She quickly asked her husband Fu Zhongyong to take her mother -in -law to the hospital. The mother -in -law was diagnosed with "stroke".

After the illness, her mother -in -law had difficulty in living. This year, the father -in -law died of illness. After the death of the father -in -law, the mother -in -law's condition became more serious. The mother -in -law gave birth to two sons and a daughter. The younger son was in the field. The daughter also had her own family. As the eldest son, Fu Zhongyong decided to provoke the heavy responsibility of taking care of the elderly.

In 2016, her mother -in -law suffered from Alzheimer's disease and completely lost her ability to take care of her own self -care. At first, the couple invited a nanny to take care of the elderly. But her mother -in -law often hit and make trouble, and she made her shit and urine. In just 2 months, the nanny could not bear to leave.

After the nanny left, in order to facilitate the care, the couple moved a single bed into the mother -in -law's room and guarded day and night.

Zhao Lanzhen feeds her mother -in -law.

During the interview, Zhao Lanzhen revealed the bed where her mother -in -law was sleeping. One layer, two, three, and four layers on the bed sheets, each layer also had purse pads. Zhao Lanzhen said that her mother -in -law had incontinence. Although she got up twice or three times at night, she called her to the toilet, and her mother -in -law would still urinate shit on the bed. She changed the layer of her mother -in -law. Zhao Lanzhen said that only when she changed clothes and mattresses in time, her mother -in -law would not give birth to bedsores. Over the years, my mother -in -law is good and bad, but the mental state has been very good and has not had a bedsore.

This summer, Changde continued to be high temperature. Zhao Lanzhen did not pad a urine tablet for her mother -in -law. Every time she wet her mother -in -law, Zhao Lanzhen was cleaned for her and changed her clothes in time.

The four generations of Zhao Lanzhen lived in the same building, and there was only one washing machine in the family. For a long time, Zhao Lanzhen's wet dirty clothes Zhao Lanzhen first washed with hands, and then put it in the washing machine.

Fu Zhongyong said: "Over the years, I want to make money to support my family. The dirty and dirty work at home is doing my wife, she is really not easy."

She uses action to interpret filial piety

Patients to take care of Alzheimer's disease are a long -lasting "tug -of -war", and as the disease worsen, the burden of taking care of care is also increasing day by day.

Due to the inconvenience of her mother -in -law, it was very troublesome to ask someone to send it to the door. When the weather was good, she pushed her mother -in -law to the yard with a wheelchair and cut her hair for her mother -in -law while basking in the sun. When the weather was cold, she cut her hair for her mother -in -law in the bathroom. "She will move like a child. I want to coax and deceive, and it takes half an hour to cut a hair." Zhao Lanzhen admitted that she had hurt her mother -in -law because of her mother -in -law, but with the skill of technology, she cut The hair is fast and good. Her husband also laughed at her, "Wow, hair is not worse than the barber shop, her mother is several years younger." The mother -in -law lay on the bed for a long time. In order to avoid her mother -in -law's muscle atrophy, Zhao Lanzhen often massaged her. From the top to the bottom of the feet, rubbing her legs, she patted her mother -in -law different acupoints. "This was when my mother -in -law was hospitalized in the hospital, and I followed the care of the workers." Zhao Lanzhen said, pressing more than ten minutes each time, three or four times a day, her hands were often sour and painful. Especially in the summer, a set of turning over and massaging is often sweating, but she still persists for many years, "as long as the mother -in -law is comfortable."

Zhao Lanzhen massaged her mother -in -law.

It is even more strenuous to take care of the elderly in winter. Due to the cold weather, the speed of the mother -in -law's metabolism gradually slowed down, and the symptoms of cold hands and feet appeared. Zhao Lanzhen bought Chinese medicinal materials and foot barrels, soaking her feet for her mother -in -law, and making her feet sole massage. After soaking his feet, Zhao Lanzhen also had four hot water bags in the mother -in -law's bed, letting her mother -in -law warm and falling asleep. Zhao Lanzhen also prepared 10 sets of cotton clothes for her mother -in -law for her to change. Because the clothes were washed and rare, she had to bake clothes for her mother -in -law every day.

In order to take care of her mother -in -law, Zhao Lanzhen lost her normal social cooperation. She even danced in the square at the door of the house at night. She had to hand in with her husband to go out. Dancers often "complained" her, "This is all about to end, how can I come?" Over the years, Zhao Lanzhen only went to Beijing with her husband's encouragement in 2019. Five days later, she hurried back. "My mother -in -law is so old. I should take care of her as a daughter -in -law. This is also my obligation." In this case, she always hangs her mouth.

Zhao Lanzhen was highly recognized by each member of the big family for the filial piety, love, carefulness and patience of her mother -in -law. Under the influence of Zhao Lanzhen, daughters and son -in -law are also very filial to the elders. They often take the initiative to share housework and take care of the elderly.

Love is invisible, love is silent, and the good family style is inherited in virtual.

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