Parents are more and more hate their own baby?This feeling shows: What you hate is actually "this person"

Introduction: The neighbor Jiabao mother said that she hates his son and is not pleasing to see him. Children do not pay attention to hygiene at all, and often hit adults. Sometimes I want to say something well with the baby. When he saw that he was sitting there to watch TV, he was particularly angry.

Children are dragging and pulling, both in life and learning. Every morning, the old mother is busy jumping up, and the child is still wearing clothes slowly.

The mother said 10 words, the child said nothing, and a expression of nothing. The old mother said that she was not a person who valued the score at all, but the child had to drag for a long time. You want to tell him a question, the child will cry because your voice is too loud.

If you usually take a little time to learn, it will not be so score. You said where to play or buy toys, he immediately became interested.

The old mother said that she was particularly helpless and often thought: Why did I fail like this, gave birth to such a child, there was nothing to do, the learning ability was very poor.

In fact, the child does not have as many shortcomings that the mother said. The old mother always feels that she has been giving and did not see the return.

01. Parents should be clear that those who hate them are not children, but our own life and ourselves

When I was reprimanded, my mood was particularly bad and I felt disappointed and frustrated. If you think about it carefully, it is not difficult to find the scene of the child's fire. It is not because the baby's performance is particularly bad. More often, the mother is in a bad mood and a busy state, so that parents will be impatient with their children's impatience. psychology.

1. What is not pleasing to us is not a child

Many mothers will blurt out: you are just like your dad. Or you will say: You follow your grandpa and grandma. When Bao Ma felt dissatisfied with her family relationship, she was dissatisfied with her husband and mother -in -law, and often projected this resentment on the child.

So there will be a life in life, as long as the baby's behavior is a little like those who do not like, or the bad habits that cannot be tolerated. The baby's performance is a bit like a dad, like a mother -in -law, like a relative of their family, Baoma will feel angry, dissatisfied, and seeing the child is not pleasing to the eye. Then there is a rebuke.

The baby just activates the emotional memory of the old mother inadvertently. When the child is grinding and dragging, you will feel the anger and irritability when you quarrel with your husband.

When the child does not pay attention to hygiene, do not like to wash his hair, and wash your face, you will feel similar to your mother -in -law. In family life, the child has carried the "black pot" of mother's grievances and dissatisfaction.

2. I didn't study hard at that time ...

Many parents are not satisfied with the current state of life. They feel that they have not worked hard to study at the beginning.

For example, when children are young, they also like watching TV and playing with mobile phones, and we will feel angry, as if the child is repeating his life. Some people may say that our age also likes to play and does not like to learn. The old mother will immediately correct: the children are now different from us.

Just afraid that children will live an ordinary and imperfect life like us. What really makes parents unpleasant is not children, but in their own thoughts and ideas, they are not as good as others' psychology.

3. The child is not pleasing to see us

Things are relative, and the relationship is mutual. When the parents were not pleasing to the child, the child was just silent, and they were very frustrated inside. They felt that their parents were annoying. Many parents have adopted the rules, make sense, and used a variety of education methods, but in the end they could not be implemented.

No matter what kind of education method is used, there must be a premise that the relationship between children and parents should trust and like each other. Which family of many children likes, the grades will be particularly good, because the teacher likes to ask them in class, and communicating with the child on weekdays is also beautiful. This baby will also like teachers, listen carefully in the classroom, and work hard to achieve the best.

In the same way, if the child likes his mother, he will live like a mother, and family education will become very simple. The child hates his mother, and they will not listen if what parents say.

02. If you want your child to be well -known, the change of parents is very important.

There is a saying in psychology: The relationship between you and your child is your relationship with yourself.

First of all, get up every morning or before going to bed at night, giving the child a big hug. Said: I wish you happy today, this hug is not only for children, but also for us.

Secondly, accompany it carefully.

Many mothers take care of their children at home with all -time, and turn around their children every day, feeling that they have paid everything for their children. But companionship needs to be attentive, and to accompany high -quality. Do not protect the baby overly, give them moderate space, and let the children grow up.

Also, know your own questions. Parents should think in other ways and consider the problem from the perspective of their children. You can discuss everything with your children.

Put down the perspective of stubborn parents, get out of their own misunderstandings, look at the advantages of children, adjust themselves, and accept their true self and children.

Conclusion:

The child is a mirror of the parents, and you can see what he cannot see from all aspects.You can see the baby's bad, in fact, there are parents who look like it.Many times, parents are unwilling to admit that they have shortcomings.Try to change it, encounter a better self and children.(The picture source network of this article, if there is any infringement, please contact delete)

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