What happened yesterday, let me know this truth, everyone may have encountered

This is the 111st day/200 days I continued to write

Hello everyone, I am Daming.

When my son drank water yesterday, the water cup was not stable and almost fell to the ground.

His son whispered that he didn't know why he hadn't stabilized, and almost fell to the ground.

I sat next to me and saw this scene, and the instantly angry emotions came out, feeling very angry.

So I glanced at my son and accused him of a few words.

But when I calmed down, I reflected, why would I have such a big temper for my son's mistake?

After thinking about it, I think there may be the following reasons:

1. Because I think my son was supported by me, I was his guardian. When he had a mistake, I had the right to criticize him.

2. I am a person who is afraid of trouble. My son makes a mistake, and it is likely that I will cause me unnecessary trouble and ask me to deal with it.

3. For me, my son is the weak. Even if I lose my temper to him, he will not resist me, let alone the consequences.

4. My son is my relative. I do some bad behaviors, and he will not blame me.

Therefore, this makes me comply with instincts, controlled by emotions, and do not know how to restrain my temper.

This makes me think that sometimes many people encounter the performance of things, as if they are doing instinct.

It's like a cognitive model in psychology: ABC model.

A happened

B your views on this matter

C you give the results given

for example,

A: I have been farewell to the car, B: We will be angry, C: I will find a way to go to the other, so that I will do it in the end; , Regardless of the other party's right, C: Immediately want to fight back; A: The takeaway time you receive is gone, and the soup is sprinkled out. ····· This is refreshing for a while, but what can we get afterwards? Moreover, we may also regret the practice just now.

Therefore, if we want to terminate some bad behaviors, we might as well change B, that is, our own views, get different results, and make different reactions.

In society, we should not do all things by instinct, we must understand how to restrain ourselves and change some ideas.

You can better get along with your family, friends, and colleagues, and get the happiness and happiness you do, not trouble and uncomfortable.

After the full text, it is another day of growth. I hope this article can also bring you some thinking and help.

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