"I'm sorry! My circle of friends blocked you"

I have started school recently

Believe a lot of classmates

I have experienced such a moment:

Step into the new campus

I thought I could finally "be beautiful alone"

I was interested in the first circle of friends in the new semester of the new semester selfie.

As a result, parents said in the comment area

"What is this shot, delete it"

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Let's discuss today

Will your circle of friends block your family?

why

A classmate in Beijing conducted a questionnaire survey, and about 82.6%of students said that they would block their parents, and only 21.7%said they would block the students. Among them, 73.9%of students said that the reason for the shielding was "publishing content that belongs to personality and emotion". Most of the students said that this is to not want parents and teachers to understand their other side.

Why not block, why can't you open your circle of friends? On the basis of investigation, students also interviewed students from different grades. They gave a variety of reasons. Let's take a look together-

#01

I have to block parents

"Ling Ling, are you falling?" The voice of his puppet came from WeChat in a hurry.

Xiaoling of the first day only found that it was a circle of friends that she just posted. There was the word "waste" on the compatibility of the emoticon package, which made me think that something was bad.

After a good explanation, I was relieved. However, she immediately asked: "What do you do to send this kind of circle of friends, how good!" 姥 asked Xiaoling to immediately delete this "ominous" circle of friends. The reason is that a certain old man she knew Tai Geely's circle of friends died in a few days.

Under the "order", Xiaoling deleted the circle of friends who just expressed their mood. But since then, she also blocked her. The reason is simple, in order to protect the "fragile and superstition" of the children.

I have the same experience as Xiaoling, and there are less than the first grade than the classmates. He shared the pictures of his birthday in Happy Valley in the circle of friends. The copywriting was: "The happiness of holding a pocket, returned full of loads." Little is more literary and vivid.

However, the "criticism" of Grandpa suddenly appeared in the comment area: "How can you make people understand this way? You should say that today with good friends to play with good friends to play for a day, with excitement, we have returned to full load. ! ""

It is less than thinking that this is a problem of generation gap and cannot communicate normally with Grandpa. He just wanted to share his daily life and express the mood at the moment, and did not want to be "stereotyped" like writing. Therefore, his reason for his grandfather is: when he can't explain, the dispute is not polite, and blocking is the best choice!

#02

The "real side" is hidden shallow

"If you are showing your own photos or videos, most of me want to block my parents!" Said Yao of Gao No. 1. He flipped through a video of playing basketball in the circle of friends, and photos of the president of the campaign. These were absolutely confidential to parents.

Yao believes that their parents are usually satisfactory people, and they do not like to make the limelight and speak. Therefore, he feels that he should also maintain a "stable" person, otherwise he will feel "shame".

And the teacher, many reasons given by many students, but in the final analysis, fear that the teacher will find his "other side", especially the "rebellion" side.

During the online class, the younger classmate of Gao Ding was named by the teacher. As a result, her answer and the correct answer were 10,000 miles away, and she also made basic common sense errors. She was embarrassed inside, and after class, she secretly sent a circle of friends: "I will never speak again in the future!" And with pictures of the cemetery.

"You said, how can such content make the teacher see it?" Xiao Ding thought it was funny, and she received the comfort of many classmates in the comment area, which effectively recovered the moment of "social death". She felt that if the teacher was not blocked, the classmates would not dare to speak casually, let alone comfort.

Xiao Xi, who claims to be "Social Fear", secretly blocked some of his classmates. This comes from her "painful" social death experience. One time, she posted a photo of her birthday in the circle of friends. One of them was the classmate's "sneak attack" of her lens, and the picture was happy.

It didn't take long for the circle of friends, and a bunch of comments were received below. Many friends laughed at this photo very "sand sculpture". Their bluntly hurt Xiao Xi.

"Maybe I'm not a strong person, it's a vision of a Italian family." Xiao Xi said a little depressed, she felt that if she was a real friend, she would not say those sad words, so she blocked those who laughed at herself. Students and friends, and rarely send their own photos.

#03

I long for a space for my own

"Do you think that only I block my parents? Actually, they have blocked me long ago!" Xiao Ding didn't think it was the indifference between parent -child, but a tacit understanding!

In an accident, Xiao Ding saw the real circle of friends of the parents from relatives, all of which are all kinds of food and children. She also took her mobile phone to "question" her mother, but her mother's answer made her angry: "We are to concentrate on learning!"

Later, she talked with her parents and finally decided to respect each other. The circle of friends was self -retained and could not be a place where they were inquiring and interfered.

The two generations "respect each other" can "be good". However, there are not many realities that can really reach this realm with their parents, and the reason why this state cannot reach this state is more disagreed with each other's practices. When asked, "Why does it block parents and teachers?" Xiaoling said his question: "Why do adult friends rarely reveal in the circle of friends of adults?"

She said: "This is unfair! Our circle of friends is all. What I want to say must be what I have in my heart, but the circle of friends and teachers of my parents and teachers basically forwarded it, or give people a" quiet years quiet The illusion of good '! "

Xiao Zhao's mother once emphasized with him that the content of the circle of friends should be low -key, and even do not send a circle of friends. This can better protect privacy.

After a certain exam, Xiao Zhao took the first place in the first place, and he released his score in the circle of friends for the first time. In less than a minute, my mother's call came over: "You get a good exam, but there is no need to send a circle of friends, everyone will think you are showing off!"

"My mother's point of view is that as long as the circles are, it is to show off and sting. In fact, for us, this is just an expression of mood, a way of sharing!" Xiao Zhao felt that his parents and his own understanding of the circle of friends, Obviously not a conceptual.

He feels that for middle school students, the circle of friends is a simple social circle, unlike adults to think complicated, and should have become a space for free expression. Through the Internet, more like -minded friends are linked.

Yao also agreed with this view. He felt that parents and teachers should look at the "friends circle shielded". The shielding is not exclusive, but is eager to have a space. Parents and teachers should open the pattern to help students create a social space that belongs to them.

#Today's topic#

The circle of friends you posted

Will you block your family and elders?

Source: China Youth Daily Client

Author: Student reporters from reporters from Beijing 101 Middle School (Xu Qing, Zhou Ningyi, Dai Leyi, Zheng Xihui, Han Yuzheng, Tao Yuzheng)

Picture source: Xiaohongshu Netizen

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