Why are there more and more old people who remarry in their later years?The reason behind it is sad ...

Text/Ho Xi anchor/Xiaoxian

In the past two years, the elderly blind date show has become more and more popular.

Starting from the explosion of Jilin Satellite TV's "Fate Is Late", the elderly are directly, frank, and true. The way of blindness has led many audiences to open their eyes, especially the amazing quotes of the aunts:

"It's not my dish, I'm so frank!"

"Unreliable uncle, there are less unreliable guys!"

"If you can, you can't hold the next one!"

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The aunt's words were sharp, and the uncle hidden his mind. As soon as he came out of the small theater, he was moved to the Internet, and netizens saw it.

Fans even shouted:

"As soon as you turn on your phone, you want to see the blind date of the elderly. Is this normal?"

"I like to watch the elderly blind date show, and the chat is straightforward, and the sentences are all the focus."

Indeed, in the blind date market, the elderly are often more direct and sharp than young people. They have recognized their needs in the last period of the last or unfortunate or regrettable marriage. Now they are familiar with their older partners.

The matter of blindness, I have to say that ginger is still old.

However, when we tear up the lively and funny packaging, we still see the real state of the old people hidden under the appearance, in reality.

The seventh census data shows that the elderly population in my country exceeds 264 million, the number of households is close to 500 million, and the old man is nearly 50 million.

The separation of divorce, widowed, and households ... A reality coming from the face is that more and more elderly people are trapped in the vortex of "loneliness".

Zhang Xiaoju, the responsible editor of the column of "Fate Light", said:

"At present, many elderly people have a strong sense of loneliness because their children are not around. Many guests in the show have experienced the ups and downs of life, some middle -aged laid -off, some marriage, some diseases, some I often feel dead ... "

For half a lifetime, the elderly who are full of wind and frost can be maintained in material life, but in the Internet era, they scrambled to choose "secondary spouse".

In the needs of not being close to people,

There is no grievances in the Tao

Aunt Wang, 62, participated in an elderly blind date show.

For the other half, Aunt Wang brought two conditions: good character and no smoking.

Based on this, the matchmaker matched her to 63 -year -old Uncle Li.

Uncle Li retired from a mechanical factory three years ago, with a monthly pension of 2,700 yuan. Four years ago, after Uncle Li's ex -wife died of illness, he lived together with his unmarried son.

Now that his son is married, Uncle Li is deeply lonely and wants to find a wife for the rest of his life.

The two people who looked very matched, did not talk a few words when they met.

Not long after the two met, Aunt Wang showed a new requirement:

Buy a thousand yuan mahjong machine at home; buy more than 10,000 gold bracelets; pay half of the monthly salary.

After listening to this request, Uncle Li was confused: It's not so much, why do you have to "color gifts" at the mouth?

Netizens also said:

"This aunt, you are here to get a blind date, not to get married. Before the eight characters, the lion speaks, how can there be this?"

However, after understanding Aunt Wang's two previous marriage, everyone couldn't ridicule.

Aunt Wang had two failed marriages.

His first husband liked to drink, and he was violent at home as soon as he was drinking. When she was young, Aunt Wang couldn't control her husband, so she endured it silently and was depressed.

Forbearance did not get the gentleness of her husband, but the other party had settled her without divorce, and her behavior became more and more different.

Because her daughter was still young, Aunt Wang chose to bear.

"My daughter is only 8 years old. It is when I need motherly love, I can't go."

To her daughter's adult, Aunt Wang chose to divorce the first husband.

After experiencing a marriage, Aunt Wang consciously could "know the eyes". Unexpectedly, the second husband was even more scum.

The second husband was 4 years younger than Aunt Wang, and at the beginning, he was also honest with Aunt Wang.

After the marriage, Aunt Wang and the second husband gave birth to a son. After the child was born, Aunt Wang found that her husband had not only had the ability to support his family, but also betrayed the marriage.

"Others are lazy, do not work or have land, can't earn money, all live in me. I call me to buy a box of cigarettes today, and call me two bottles of wine tomorrow."

What's more, the husband's mind was so relieved that he had been derailed frequently.

Aunt Wang saw that her son was still young, and once again chose the family, but in the end, the husband left a letter and left the house. It took Aunt Wang for 3 years to cure her affection.

She was solemnly forbearing and dedicated the first half of her life to two unreliable men.

In the old saying, eat a stingy, long one wisdom.

Faced with the new chance of choosing a spouse, Aunt Wang had to be "greedy."

In the blind date market, a woman like Aunt Wang is not an example. They have been enthusiastically devoted to marriage, devoted themselves, and eager to have a happy family. But in the end, the partners' injuries deprived them of their last sense of security.

Now the aunt who is "first" is just a girl with "emotionalism".

Behind every unpopular needs, there is an unspeakable grievance.

The elderly lived for most of their lives and read the impermanence. Who has not eaten the suffering of "innocent".

For the elderly, the demand is not embarrassing and the grievances are embarrassing.

Remeained in his later years, he really wanted to understand the life, and you had to understand the real issue. reader

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Marriage partner vs free workers

Uncle Yang is 83 years old and his wife died due to illness. He retired 3,000 yuan per month.

Except for loneliness, there are no other problems. Children do not go home. Uncle Yang is alone every day. He is eager to find someone to speak.

Aunt Liu introduced by Hong Niang is 80 years old.

Aunt Liu's hair is dark and fashionable, and the whole person looks very energetic.

Uncle Yang met with a glance at a glance.

He hurriedly introduced himself to Aunt Liu: "I don't smoke, don't drink, have no bad habits, good morals, real people, don't lie ..."

Aunt Liu listened silently, and gradually showed a satisfactory smile.

I don't want to, Uncle Yang turned his words and went straight to the theme: "Can you serve me?"

After hearing this, Aunt Liu put away a smile: "Want to find someone to serve? Go to the elderly apartment, most of the people who serve you."

Uncle Yang was unwilling and asked, "What do you look like?"

Aunt Liu reluctantly returned: "It's good, can eat and drink."

"Then can you wash and cook?" Uncle Yang turned back again.

Aunt Liu glanced at him and said that Uncle Yang really dreamed of during the day, and the two were unhappy.

Another "Internet celebrity" Uncle Wang, who has been served by his dead wife for a lifetime. This time he came and said straightforwardly: "Just come to someone who waits for me and can wait for me to wait."

Netizens couldn't help but yelled: You are not looking for a wife, this is looking for a free nanny.

In the elderly blind date, the contradiction between the two sides is often more direct:

The aunt wants high pension and romance will coax people. Uncle wants to find young and beautiful, and he will work hard to serve himself ...

Remembrance in his later years often face more realistic problems, life is sleepy, and the foundation foundation is weak. Two people have to live together and often need to bear a responsibility.

Plato said: "The real partner is the fit of the soul, not the form of intimacy."

Whenever, good partners are excellent "marriage partners".

In addition to the two uncle who was stunning above, a elder brother in the show made people look forward to love.

Sister Lu is 57 years old. Although she is over 50 years old, Sister Lu is well -maintained, her skin is fair, and her body is firm.

Sister Lu hopes to look pleasing to the eye for mate, and the two have a common language at the age of 65.

The matchmaker found a 57 -year -old brother for the eldest sister.

The huge brother has done a lifetime business. Although there is no pension, he has saved the pension early.

After the two sides met, the huge brother was very satisfied with the cheerful Sister Lu, but when she saw the huge brother had obvious humpback, the aunt hesitated. Fortunately, the big brother had a good personality, and the aunt was willing to contact again.

Indeed, from the external conditions, the huge brother is a bit worthy of this sister Lu.

Seeing that the eldest sister hesitated, the elder brother invited the eldest sister to eat with the show group without saying a word. When I arrived at the hotel, the huge brother was not ambiguous. He ordered 7 hard dishes directly and arranged a good wine for the elder sister. Taking advantage of the gap in the food, the large brother went out to buy a handful of flowers and a box of chocolate ...

Romantic men really discuss women like.

This unexpected confession made Sister Lu shocked and happy, so happy like a 18 -year -old girl.

Lin Yutang said in "My Country and My People": "Marriage is like a carved boat, to see how you appreciate it and how to drive it."

Regardless of any age, no matter what age, people's logic of choosing a spouse is very similar.

If you do n’t make up for, really see your heart, choose one person to start, and end in one city.

For the elderly, only by double cherishing the last valuable years of life and become the "partner" of each other's life, this train will be perfectly sailed to the end.

Fine defense ending

Psychologist Eriksson pointed out:

"Only when you look back on your life, you feel that you spend abundant, created, and happy elderly people, can you be more frank and dying."

The reason why the elderly look forward to love is actually more cherishment of life.

Even if you grow older, people still want to be accompanied by others, even more needed than young people.

There is such an uncle in "Fate Come Luck".

He took care of his wife with careful cerebral infarction for 5 years. After sending away his wife for 23 days, he chose to go on a show.

The reason is that you can't stand loneliness.

In the show, the uncle met an aunt who had gone for 23 years.

Aunt said, "The loneliness of 23 days is the same as 23 years."

After years of care, he can bear it, but the emptiness and loneliness in the soul are unbearable.

On the second day of successful hand in hand, the two met and ate a breakfast together. When facing the camera, the two smiled sweetly, and they couldn't help feeling emotion.

Isn't that the happiness we pursue throughout our lives?

In the world of adults, the soldiers and horses are in trouble with unexpected twists and turns. No one dares to guarantee that the current pillow people will accompany us to grow old.

Stop the hand of the child, grow old with the son. If it is not complete, finding a person to share the wind and rain together will not be a wise choice.

"Southern Weekend" interviewed an uncle who participated in the blind date show.

The old man said, "A person slowly grows old, gets lonely, and finally leaves society."

As the poet John Don said, no one was an island.

Most of the middle -aged and elderly people who railly bumped in the blind date and blind date market are mostly lonely because of difficulty resolving.If the old man around you is also eager to find a partner again, as a child, I hope we can all see the real needs of the old man behind it.

Parents' lives, after all, are parents.

No matter how old they are, please don't ignore human instinctive emotional needs.

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