When you are confused, read these 10 sentences of Sanmao

How old will it really penetrate the meaning of life?

People often say that they stand in thirty and forty, but in many cases, at different stages of life, when they encounter different things, there are always confusion.

Regarding feelings, career, or life.

These seemingly broad and profound propositions are actually the easiest issues in our daily life.

If it is difficult to find the answer, you may wish to take a look at the words of San Mao, because there are the most authentic answers here.

Occasionally complaining that life may be a vent of emotions, nor must it. But habitual complaints and not seeking changes are not smart people.

In a training class, the teacher asked: What are you doing the most useless thing?

Many students answered in unison: they complained.

Indeed, in the process of complaints, except to add trouble and deepen internal consumption, it has no meaning.

Instead, it presents its own weaknesses and makes it easier to look down on.

In life, no one can do everything, but most of them know how to face, solve, and then accept and change.

Remember, don't make complaints a habit.

Don't be irritable in trouble, learn to change your thinking, good luck will always approach you.

Don't be afraid to refuse others. If his reason is right, when a person speaks request, he has two answers in his heart. Therefore, give him any of the answers, it is expected.

A few days ago, in the "Sister of the Wind", when discussing the design of the performance of the costumes, I saw the drawing display.

Yu Wenwen directly talked about "I can't control it", expressing his "rejection" attitude.

In the process of discussion, she also insisted on her thoughts. She did not fear conflicting with her teammates. Instead, she tried to accept the results in more detailed communication.

Yu Wenwen said in the interview: "Because of our different personalities and different ideas, there will be a collision."

In reality, this kind of "collision" is normal. There are no two same leaves in the world, and it is difficult for people to maintain the consistency of ideas at all times.

So don't be afraid to refuse others.

Because, only if you dare to tell your own thoughts, can you get a truly satisfactory ending.

When you learn to pretend to be stupid and know how to dress up, you will suddenly find that things that know clearly, in fact, you don't have to say that those who are inherently needless to disassemble. Do not practice yourself in your hearts, do not force others in your own heart.

Many times, the alienation of people's relationships is because of "speaking".

I can't help but evaluate others, which will inevitably expose the shorts of others and poke the pain of others.

When a friend bought a house, he went to say how much money was loaned;

When colleagues have been promoted, they will talk about the relationship;

Relatives made money, so I went to say who the light I borrowed ...

If you say more, even the facts will change the taste.

It does not make us look better and better.

Unwise, it is not worth it.

I hope that after we can understand the world, we can learn to be silent, know without comment, and see it without saying.

Life is short, there is no time to waste, and everything should be pursued hard. How others think of me is so insignificant.

In the interview, actor Song Jia said such a paragraph:

"When I was in my twenties, I was very unhappy, very nervous, very restrained, very confused, very worried, I was afraid that others didn't like me.

But now I am very comfortable, I don't care about how others are, there is a ability to really make myself happy. "

Such a mentality is the transparency of years.

After experiencing grievances and tangling, he learned to loosen himself and no longer cares about the expectations of others.

Instead, you know what you want, and then please yourself frankly.

You don't need to perform for anyone, just do it yourself.

The friend is intimate, and you must not be lost. He thinks you are familiar with it.

A few days ago, my cousin and my girlfriend who had been with each other for more than ten years quarreled, the reason was just a box of cakes.

The girlfriend took the child to the cousin's house. When I went back, I took the pastry on the table. I didn't ask the girlfriend if it was useful, and I didn't even say it.

But it was a cousin who lined up specially, and the sugar -free cake bought for the sick grandma was sent to it the next morning.

Although it is not a valuable thing or a big deal, it makes the cousin uncomfortable.

Many times, we will inevitably do this:

After getting along for a long time, I regarded the consent as the default, and used the permission as a casual.

In fact, no matter how close the relationship is, it is necessary to maintain a proper distance.

Grasp the relationship before the relationship can last long.

Life is like a train. Some people get on the car, some get out of the car, and no one will accompany you to the end.

When people are middle -aged, the more they experience, the more they find out. Many relationships are inadvertent, and they become fading, cold, and alienated.

This reality is ruthless, but we can't escape.

There is such a sentence in the movie "The Old Man in the Mountains and Rivers":

"Everyone can only accompany you for a journey, sooner or later, you have to separate."

Just as our lives, colleagues who have been with each other for many years suddenly changed;

The classmates who agreed to work together turned to the country.

People who thought they could have been on the same way for a long time, but they changed their directions at an intersection.

Therefore, the people around you, cherish it when you meet, say goodbye when you leave. This journey in life is not easy to meet. Remember, treat everyone's participation in life seriously.

No one can abandon you, unless you abandon yourself, because we belong to ourselves and do not belong to others.

Some time ago, a video of a takeaway brother participated in the college entrance examination and touched many people.

When the electric vehicle stopped outside the test room, everyone thought that Shuai Chen was here to deliver meals, but he took out a stack of test materials from the takeaway box.

At this moment, he is a candidate with a firm step with light in his eyes.

Although life is very hard, he still has not given up, as he wrote on an electric car:

Not blown down by the wind.

Yes, in this world, as long as we do not give up ourselves, there is nothing, which can block our efforts.

Believe that we belong to ourselves, even if we chase the wind barefoot, there will be a clear sky.

I believe that God does not give me, no matter how my ten fingers are tightly, I will leak; give me, no matter how I lose my hand, I will have it.

People often say: "Sometimes there must be in the life, and the life is not forced."

If you look too much, you will drag yourself.

As long as you work hard, as for the results, just accept it.

Time is fair, it records every step we have taken, every word we write, and every drop of sweat flowing down.

What we have at the moment is the accumulation of the past;

Today's dedication will also return to us in the future.

Don't obtain it, don't get trapped in loss.

Hope, we can gradually mature, and we can be fearless after doing our best, and let it go.

Everything will pass, and everyone will go their heads again tomorrow. Life does not matter, it doesn't matter the joy and sorrow, it doesn't matter, love and hate. Everything goes, like those flowers, those flowing water.

Su Shi wrote in "Dingwu": "Back to the head has always been a small place, returning, there are no wind and rain and no sunny."

Life is like this, there will be wind and rain, and it will be fine. No matter whether good or bad, it will pass.

Even if you have encountered bumps, even if you have climbed the top of the mountain, it will become experience.

The important thing is to face what kind of mentality do we have to face or learn to heal.

People often say: "Guan Guan is sadly closed, and the road is also long."

No one will always sink at the bottom of the valley, and no one will stand at the peak forever.

Therefore, at any time, we must maintain a normal heart, in the vulgar world, watching flowers bloom.

I don't remember the past as possible, because the road when I came could not turn back.

The reason why it used to be called the past is precisely because it has become a story.

No matter what we think about, we will not change anymore.

The reason why it is called the future is precisely because of its unknown that we do the present.

Time pushes everyone to move forward, and when it has become a past, it has gradually become our coming.

We don't have to immerse in the glory of the past, nor do we have to be desperate for the past.

Because, those are all grown marks, we just go forward.

Life is long, and anyone will be confused, but we will inevitably grow in the middle school.

No longer complain about life, no longer afraid of refusal, no longer sensitive panic, but knowing how to relieve and accept it.

Then, not afraid of wind and frost, grow inward.

I hope that in the future, we can be more confident and brave in the long water life, and find our inner answers.

Author | Liu Xiaoshang, loves text and life.

Picture | Visual China

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