Reform of intimate relationships under digital media

■ Lin Yufei

Today, we are more likely to contact the lives, thoughts, and experiences of others than ever. Digital media sharing and long -term online characteristics make up for the state of the couple's body absence. Chat functions such as voice, emoji, video calls, and other chat functions have also enhanced the fun and real sense of online communication. Digital media has become a "intimate infrastructure". However, this has also produced a series of difficulty changes and troubles.

Understand the change of the perception of others

In psychology, the first step of establishing a relationship is always the same: interpersonal attraction, that is, eager to approach someone. Attraction does not guarantee the development of a relationship, but it does open the door of possibility.

In the past, the only medium of individual interaction was the body, and the body's perception system played a key media role in the entire process of receiving information, understanding information, and feedback. Today, as a digital aboriginal, we have long -term media exchanges. At this time, the body retreated secondly. We redefined ourselves through the symbol of the digital medium, and also changed the sense of perception of the other person.

In fact, there is a significant connection between the closeness of the physical distance and the interpersonal attraction. In the past, social interactions were usually affected by background factors such as appearance, occupation, ethnicity, and cultural cultivation. In digital network space, social agglomerations are more internalization according to interests and hobbies, aspirations, aesthetic tastes and emotional needs. The factors have enhanced our richness and autonomous selectivity in social media.

Compared with the social scenes present, the digital media breaks the traditional social barriers, but this does not mean that the behavior representation of the media is completely consistent with the real situation. The symbol expression of digital medium is often initially formed and unreliable "perception similarity".

Attachment damage in digital medium

In a partner relationship, the way of communication between partners is an important factor in the satisfaction of relations. In the past, the body's communication can be used as a response from voice language to face -faced look, to changes in the posture. Today, the flood of digital medium has made communication fragmentation, one -sided and interval, and may allow individuals in intimacy to make the other party ignore the other party because the other party fails to respond in time because the other party fails to respond in time. The feelings of being abandoned and isolated, thereby causing attachment damage.

The communication characteristics of digital medium, the theory of media synchronization can be explained to a certain extent. The theory distinguishes the concepts of information dissemination: "transmission" and "interaction". Transmission refers to the process of transmitting a large amount of information for later processing, and interaction refers to the process of exchange information that has been processed to create sharing significance. Whether it is response or sharing in real time, it is actually a process that requires timely communication and interaction (that is, interaction), and it is also a representation of a partner's attachment to each other.

Sometimes, "what happened" is not important, and the partner "what you feel" is more critical. "Instant response" is a way of understanding, affirmation, and concern of individual perception from a partner, so that people can feel the belonging and care in it.

Online others causing the quality of sharing to get along

Digital devices are like a shadow, and many people maintain uninterrupted contact with social networks. We often tend to give priority to "opponent on the screen" rather than "people who stay with us". Many partners have to endure the interference of communication devices when they get along face. The space that belongs to each other is forced to interrupt frequently, resulting in a decline in the quality of sharing space in each other.

At the same time, the increase in partners' home office has increasingly tied the work and personal life of office workers. The most obvious is that through the way of digital media, we are forming a phenomenon of "intimate work", and the strict boundaries between personal identity and professional identity are broken.

So what kind of action should we take? First of all, online exchanges do not have the foundation of deep intimacy. In the early days of establishing the idealization of the relationship, more offline and long -term communication and interaction have a more three -dimensional and comprehensive understanding of the partner. Second, understand the digital media in understanding the digital media In terms of the communication characteristics of the established existence, give the other party more understanding and response, or the establishment of both parties to consider consistent and effective communication methods; Finally, it is clear that the subject characters under different time and empty are in different time, whether it is personal space, work space, or family space, etc. Essence

(Author Unit: School of Social Work of Chinese Women's College)

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