The hot search of the "roommate electric car" incident attracted the public. I saw a chilling scene between people.

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A few days ago, I saw a question of a female netizen.

The girl said that she had to go to an internship with her roommate, and she needed to ride an electric car to the subway station, and then went to the subway.

There are four people in one dormitory, and the other two roommates have discussed to buy electric vehicles;

Netizens asked another roommate if they wanted to buy one. The roommate rejected her, and she bought an electric car herself.

At the time of preparing for the internship, the roommate naturally rode a netizen's electric car and took her to the internship location.

The girl said that the roommate didn't have any gratitude:

"Hurry friends are not very good to me, and I should go with her."

The electric vehicle is out of power, and it has always been charged by netizens.

Now that the work is arranged, she and her roommate have different time to go to the internship location.

Sometimes she needs to go in the morning, and the roommate does not need it. Sometimes she does not need to go early, but the roommate needs.

When she does not want her roommate to go early, she will be forced to go early together, or when she does not need to go, the roommate takes the car and ride and causes it to travel.

The girl said she didn't want to tie with her roommate again:

"I want to use my own car, not to mention that the roommates still look at it."

She asked:

"Do you need to share everything with your face with your face?

Can I directly propose that they don't want to go to work together? "

Although everyone can't understand what's bad opening, she is very distressed.

She is very worried that if she just goes straight into the ground like this, it will cause her roommates to be dissatisfied:

"Will this directly to her, will he offend her?

We graduated immediately the next year. Will she be angry with a research group? "

Not only that, they need to use iPad in internships, but the roommates are still "head iron".

Because the two people have to re -over with the time of the iPad, girls are now worried that if the roommates come to borrow it, how should they refuse themselves?

When netizens saw this, they all felt aggrieved for this girl, and hated her "bun" personality.

"Do you like her, or did she save your life?"

"Every time I see this kind of post, my anger is ..."

"Do you talk about these things, are you specializing in qi netizens?"

"Speak directly, don't be too buns. This is my electric car, it's my iPad, if she needs, go to buy it by herself."

"You don't give her the key to her, how can she drive? When she borrows it, you say you want to use it too. Don't be afraid to offend people, after all, you are not a bodhisattva."

Hundreds of replies are not having to hesitate.

After seeing it, the girl said that she would not wait for the roommates to leave together in the future.

As for why she can endure it, it is mainly because her parents have always persuaded her to help others, don't be stingy, and I feel that there are no big problems.

Until now, she gradually felt the indifference of her roommate, and she began to be uncomfortable.

02

Girls' help to roommates is not once or twice, but the help has gradually changed back to more and more obvious indifference. No matter who watch it, it is not worth it.

The performance of the roommates also reminds me of a small story in "Isso Fables".

On a storm, a poor man came to the door of the rich.

He said to the servant who looked at the door, "Can you let me go in warm? I can bake dry clothes next to your stove!"

The servant thought that this request was nothing, so he let him go in.

Then, the poor asked the kitchen to lend him a pot in order to "cook some stone soup and drink". The chef who was curious about this agreed.

As a result, the poor took out a stone picked on the road from his pockets, and washed it in the pot to cook.

He joined the water in the pot, and then said to the kitchen mother, "But, should you put some salt?" The kitchen girl felt that this was fine, so he gave him some salt.

Later, the poor said, "If you add some vegetables in the soup, the taste will be better." So the kitchen lady gave him some vegetables.

Then, the poor said that if there is a bit of meat in the soup, it is the best deliciousness in the world.

The chef also wanted to taste the most beautiful taste in the world, and gave him some minced meat.

In the end, the soup was finally boiled, and it really was a "stone soup" with good taste.

The poor people who were hungry and cold drank a bowl of delicious broth with only a stone.

The reason is that he stepped up step by step, and the requirements of each step were not high, which prompted the kitchen mother to promise his request step by step.

In psychology, this is called "threshold effect".

If people accept the insignificant requirements of others, they may accept greater requirements, so this is also called the inch inch effect.

The reason why roommates have increasingly regarded the help of girls as a matter of reason because girls did not refuse properly.

It can also be seen from "Parents persuaded her" that she has actually had a lot of dissatisfaction with the behavior of her roommates, but she has not expressed it, which has made the roommates intensify.

Sorry to refuse others, it will only make others get into the ruler, and make himself the old good man who is habitually observed.

03

A netizen uses personal experience to persuade girls:

"I am also this kind of flattering personality. I am afraid of rejecting others. I always think about the problem from the perspective of others. In the end, I am suffering from myself. It's very unconscious. There is no need to continue to get along with such people, so you can find a few more excuses to refuse, see what attitude she is! "

Yeah, the humble you are. The more you have no self in front of the other side, it will only make people look lighter and lighter to you.

Don't care about any face, worry about offending, and sometimes "annoying".

As mentioned in the book "The Disdish Courage":

"The existence of each of us has its own special value and mission. You don't need to please anyone, but you need to be hated courage. After all, the multi -facetedness of life requires you to do it alone.

In the process of being hated, you may lose something, but you can get real freedom.

Because you will pay more attention to ‘at this moment’, you will live seriously every day. "

Living in this world, trying not to be hated by others, this is actually very simple. Because you only need to disguise yourself, compromise, and give up.

However, knowing that he will be hated but still to adhere to your own life, it is difficult to do.

Facing their own hearts, do not care about their eyes, and never make up lies. This kind of living method is estimated that many people can't even persist for a day.

However, we must have the courage to practice this life, which is also the courage to get happiness.

mutual encouragement.

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