People's Daily: What China needs to educate is not children, but dad

Father should be participants, not bystanders.

The child's growth is only once. It is the responsibility of each father's inconceity to give him the best companion and education.

Director Li An once said:

"I am a father and a gentleman who is a family, which does not mean that I can naturally get their respect.

You still have to earn their respect every day, and you have to meet a certain criterion. This is a reason why I do not slack. "

It is not a physiological to be a father, and the child will naturally kiss you and love you to respect you.

How can we become a qualified good father?

The People's Daily has given 10 suggestions, which is worth sharing with all dads, and read it repeatedly.

The first step of a good father is to be a childhood playmate, understand his horses, and appreciate his innocence and romance.

Feng Zikai has seven children, all of which are outstanding.

Since childhood, he likes to accompany his children. Many "bear children's acting" in the eyes of the world, but in his eyes, the child's unique creativity and imagination.

The roof of the house can be demolished for easy seeing the plane;

Sleeping beds can be required to have flowers and plants, fly butterflies, just to play;

Barefoot stools also need to put on shoes ...

He will not interfere with the child's "noise" or remind the child to "be careful."

On the contrary, he will bend his waist, walk into the child's world, and accompany him to accompany him crazy.

This is not indulgence, but the wisdom of entertaining.

Psychologist Piajie said that childhood was a critical period for children's cognitive development, especially their daily activities, and it was also the best way to educate them.

When playing with the child, the unique adventure spirit and exploration spirit of the father can release the child's nature, stimulate the child's exploration, and awaken more possibilities.

A father who is not big or small, full of childlike fun is the biggest luck of the child.

A father liked to drink and went to the town tavern to have a drink every day.

One day, with the heavy snowstorms of goose feathers, he walked towards the tavern as usual.

Suddenly, he found someone behind him followed him.

Looking back, his son under 8 years old was stepping on his footprint, and he was particularly excited: "Dad, how thick is this snow, I am walking on your footprint!"

His son made his heart rectify. From that day, he never went to the tavern to drink, but entered the library in the town to read a book.

Many educational issues seem to be on children, but "roots" are adults.

You are lying on the sofa every day to play with your mobile phone, and you will also gain a child who is lying on a mobile phone and swipe videos.

You do n’t get to sleep in the middle of the morning every morning, and you will gain a child with a upside -down day and night.

Strive to be a learning -type father, because the example is more effective than reprimand.

His father is the "important others" in the child's life and the first role model for children.

Father's tenacity, tenacity, and sense of responsibility, each label will become the best textbook for children.

Just like Dong Yuhui, from no one to ask, to explosive fires on the entire network, he has thanked his father many times.

"I became more and more like him, it was my father affected my values."

In his eyes, the father of a peasant, as if a wise man, led him to countless times.

When he collapsed, he warned himself: I can't be glassy. His father has suffered much more than me. He didn't complain, and I was not qualified.

When he wanted to give up, he hinted that his father was still reading with a hoe. What reason did I have to complain about?

His father's diligence, simple, and optimistic, gave him unyielding fighting spirit, courage to face the difficulty, and the determination to never give up.

Father's love contains huge courage and strength.

The father's attitude towards life is the best nourishment and demonstration of children.

There is a father who only gives an order to the child and suppress the child with the attitude of adults.

"I am your dad, you have to listen to me everything!"

"What do you know?"

Wang Zengqi once severely criticized:

"It is stupid and abominable to use his ideal model to shape his child's father.

A modern and humane family must first get along peacefully. While parents teach people awe, they must be treated equally. "

If the child hides you and is afraid of you, when you mention you, you shake, and you dare not tell you when you are in trouble. Then you are definitely not a good father.

Love children is an instinct, and respect for children is a kind of education.

May wish to squat more, listen to the child's voice, understand the child's thoughts, respond to the needs of the child, and accept the child's emotions.

Only in this way can children get close to you, respect you, feed you, and have an endless heart to you.

A child who is in adolescence deliberately does not write homework, and his teacher has a mouthful, or even escapes.

One day was caught by his father in the Internet cafe. The unexpected thing was that his father did not beat or scold, but brought him home. He said, "There is no child who does not teach well, only dad who can't teach! I know the question lies in me On your body. "

From that day, his father changed his work and insisted on picking up the child every day.

After a few years, the child was admitted to key universities.

His father's patience, warmth and kindness pulled a rebellious child from the edge of the cliff.

Li Meijin once emphasized that his father must be "kind".

Because his father was powerful, his father was loving, and the child thought it was supported by someone, and the sky could not fall.

She also pointed out that her father's love should give the child two feelings:

Give your child a kind of mind. Tell him that it is a big deal in front of this matter, and it is not a big deal to look back. I have power, but I don't want to abuse it casually. It feels like a friend as a friend. Suggest to the child and tell him what to do.

The father of the child as a "student" is a stubborn father and a father who does not know how to grow.

When the child says that the sky is pink, he is anxious to correct it;

When the child gets dirt, he hurried to stop;

When the child thinks that cats and mice are friends, they scold him naive.

Many fathers are always high, trying to use their own life experience to command children and control their children.

I do n’t know that if a father does not have a humble mentality, he is not educated.

The best father is a teacher.

As psychologist Piero Feruch said:

"Parents, you are given the privilege of taking care of a child, and the possibility of growing up again."

Do not wear colored glasses to look at the child's question, do not take the standard of the child to imprison the child's thoughts, admit your shortcomings, and see the child's advantage, is the really wise father.

There is a video of the three father and son dialogue on the Internet, which is an excellent example of the father's positive discipline.

The cause of the matter was that his brother did not do well and was criticized by his mother.

The two brothers did not accept the discipline and thought that the mother was wrong, so she found her father's sue.

The child is so naughty and difficult to control. Dad did not rudely scold and scold, but served people:

"There are always causes and effects, and your things do not get angry without doing well."

"Everyone is unwilling to do. If you don't do it, the society will be messy."

"Is the traffic police uncle willing to stand on the road to eat? Will the medical staff be afraid when the epidemic is the worst? But they are still reckless."

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Putting the facts and reasoning, analyzing the child in an orderly manner until the child is convinced.

Good father knows how to follow the temptation, let the children understand the reason, and discern right and wrong.

Good education is in a good and firm atmosphere, teach children to do things and do things.

Sun Yunxiao, a well -known education expert, talked about his own experience.

One day, he carried a taxi on the streets of Beijing.

The driver is a middle -aged man and looks good, and the two chatted.

When the driver heard that Sun Yunxiao was doing children's education, his expression was surprised: "What kind of children's education do you do?"

Sun Yunxiao learned that he had a 9 -year -old daughter and asked him "Do you care about the education of your child?"

Who knew he didn't take it for granted "hi": "Educating children is a fucking business, I just need to make money."

This father is precisely the epitome of most Chinese absence from his father.

The psychologist Hu Shenzhi said: The shortcomings of 90%of life are from the absence of father's love.

Every father, be sure to pay attention to the "important moment" of the child's growth, so that he can feel loved and valued.

Children's birthday, please celebrate together;

Children's performance, please applaud for him;

Children's sports meeting, please accompany him to participate.

The father was the one who determined the personality of the child and laid the trajectory of the child's life.

Researchers at the University of Newcastle in the United Kingdom have conducted 11 years of tracking and investigating 17,000 babies.

The results show that children who often get along with their father are often smarter, more energetic, and more good at communication.

No matter how rich the substances can replace the role of Dad;

No matter how capable, the mother can't replace the role of Dad.

There is no clever skills to educate children, but love and companionship.

Don't think that these trivial matters are not important, it is related to the happiness and future of children's lifetime.

Psychologists have summarized such a law:

In the same sentence, if the father said, the influence of the child is 50 times that of the mother.

The father's mouth is the child's way.

If you give your child a blow, criticize, and accusations, the child is destined to be full of thorns and darkness all the way.

If you give your children encouragement, praise, and affirmation, children often harvest flowers and light all the way.

Some people say that what China needs to educate most is not children but parents, especially their father.

If you have a child, you can't "return". If you are a father, you must be responsible to the end.

A good father, the way to get off work is the way home.

A good father can understand that educating children is effective.

A good father will work hard to cultivate his own role models.

No matter how busy his father is, he must also work hard to become a good father and a child leader.

Source: People's Daily

Editor -in -chief Li Darong

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