I like to be with "playing straight ball"

Author: insight allergy

Unconscious, not moving.

Hu Shi and Huang Kan had a public discussion: How to refuse a job you don't want to do?

For a long time, Huang Kanxun thought about it, and finally thought of euphemistically and refused: "Being out of learning is shallow, maybe it is hard to be able to do so,"

Hu Shi didn't think about it, and the three words were extremely simple: "Can't do it."

The teachers and students in the audience stunned, and then applauded.

This reminds me of a very hot word on the Internet: Straight.

Straight goals were originally the meaning of "straight line" in baseball terms. Now it is also used to describe direct expressions. It is sincere and simple to treat others.

Those who love to play straight balls do not twist and do not cover up.

Get along with them, don't guess and guess, avoid unnecessary internal consumption.

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Psychologists once said: "99%of life troubles are caused by people who have nothing to say."

You do n’t say, I do n’t say, both of them suspect each other. You think I understand, I think you understand, and no one understands it.

There is such a story in the book "Non -violent Communication".

A lady saw her husband busy at work every day and rarely at home, so she wanted her husband to go out for more time to accompany herself.

So she wanted to tell her husband that he hoped that he could spend less time to work and go home to accompany herself and children.

However, due to love, the second half of the sentence was not able to say.

Husband readily accepted the wife's proposal.

But he thought that his wife made himself less time to work in order to make his life less monotonous and cultivate more hobbies.

So, three weeks later, the husband was really not so busy with work, but used the extra time in the golf game.

His wife never said "I want to be accompanied by myself", but I felt that she had been expressing clearly.

She blame her husband to be so ruthless and began to fight with her husband.

When the husband saw his wife's temper, he was very aggrieved. He felt that he had done what his wife said, but she was still dissatisfied.

The relationship between the two became worse and worse, and finally fell into the freezing point in the silence all day.

Living a unicorn, the idea in my heart can only understand the other party.

When Yang Yan and Qian Zhongshu first met, Qian Zhongshu came up with a straightforward: "I have no engagement."

After listening to Yang Yan, he said a generous sentence: "I don't have a boyfriend."

A response to a word, which made a passive story.

Writer Yan Ju said such a sentence:

"Learning to say something straight, for the Chinese people who are accustomed to it, it is a kind of outstanding talent."

In our lives, we often do too much useless tests for the so -called safety and face, and waste a lot of hot feelings.

But with those who play straight, you will find that there are not so many tangles and considerations in the world.

There is no implicit implication, no hopes to cover up.

Get along with them, even you will be brave.

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Writer Huo Hui once said that he worked at a joint venture.

Tina, the only female vice president of foreign parties, is a Swedish who speaks very straightforward.

At the conference where many executives participated, she criticized the progress of a project in a blood -stroke: "This is the worst project I have seen!"

When hearing those delayed projects, she was never polite, simple, and often said three sentences:

Why didn't you complete this work? What are your recovery measures? If the goal cannot be achieved, what is your existence value?

The hearing she hosted was not long every time, and something was talking about, decisive and concise. No one dares to push the skin and perfunctory responsibility.

Westo said: There is something to say that it is the most positive attitude in life.

One thing will not be resolved because of the corner of the talk, the surface and the atmosphere.

Frankly, put the problem on the table to find the solution more efficiently.

The founder of Bridge Water Fund Dalio told such a story in the book "Principles".

Once he was lectured as the meeting, the whole process, he thought he was in a good state.

Shortly after the meeting, he received an e -mail from an employee.

The email mentioned that Dalio talked a lot of irrelevant matters and affected the meeting.

He speculated that Dalio was not fully prepared before the meeting, which caused the logic during the discussion.

After reading this email, Dalio did not jump, but appreciated him.

On the one hand, he is frank and dares to be out of words about the poor leaders.

On the other hand, he did not interrupt himself at the meeting and influenced the process of the meeting. Instead, it was easier to accept the problem through emails.

Later, Dalio improved the form of the meeting through this email, and the employee also valued the leadership.

The old saying: The lip gun and the tongue sword are not terrible, just afraid of people's hearts.

To interact with others, it is better to deal with people with a simpler and more direct person, and try to avoid interacting with people on both sides and three knives.

They may be smart or excellent, but they may not be suitable for friends and colleagues.

On the contrary, he intersects with people who play directly. If there is a problem, he will say clearly that if he has opinions, he will boldly raise it.

There is no intrigue, no left and right.

In this way, you can make yourself less harmful and more at ease.

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Liang Fengyi, a well -known Hong Kong writer, was invited to report to Peking University.

As a result, a traffic jam was encountered on the way, and he was late for an hour. After the meeting began, the host repeatedly emphasized: "Teacher Liang is late because of the traffic jam."

But Liang Fengyi, who walked to the podium, said directly:

"Dear classmates, I will apologize to everyone here! Beijing traffic jam is common, but I should not make excuses for myself. I should calculate the time of traffic jams and make full preparations.

If there are a thousand classmates here, this hour I am late, for everyone, is a waste of a thousand hours of production power and affecting the mood of 1,000 people! I can only look forward to your forgiveness! "

Her sincerity not only won the warm applause of her classmates, but also won everyone's respect for her.

Hegel once said that the greatest truth and the simplest, the simplest people are the most rare.

Getting older, watching more false routines, more and more valuable and valuable.

Mr. Huang Yongyu, a generation of ghosts, has always been upright and directly.

The greetings between celebrities always like to hold each other and compliment each other.

But he once wrote to the drama master Cao Yu, and bluntly pointed out:

"I don't like the drama after liberation, and one doesn't like it. You are not in the play, you are mistaken by the momentum."

So sharp, pointing directly at the other side of the pain.

Cao Yu not only mounted this letter to warn himself, but also wrote a reply:

"You hit my key, I hope that the lost is not far away, and you can recover the past time ..."

Sincere is more useful than any routine.

As "Zhuangzi" said: "True, sincerity, not good, uncomfortable, and not moving."

In our lives, we will meet many people.

Some people treat each other frankly, some are deeply attentive; some people are warm and kind, and some people are indifferent and selfish.

After dealing with the kind people, I found out:

In life, the most rare is those who play straight balls. The easiest is to meet the straight ball.

They are simple, treat people simple, and have a sincere heart.

Deeply interact with such people, you don't need you to maintain hard work, nor do you need to cater to it, you can just be yourself.

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There is a saying: "In -hand with the good, it is as bright as;

Choosing a friend is to choose a lifestyle.

Instead of exhausting their minds, to deal with complicated people and things. It's better to be simpler, get along with people who play straight, stay away from disturbance, and gain sincerity.

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