Why is my life so painful?

Author:Simple psychology Time:2022.09.02

I really don't know what happened recently, it seems that everything is not smooth!

This is Xiao Qi, who is sitting next to me, sigh today. In my impression, she has never been the kind of person who likes to complain, and even her mentality has collapsed recently.

Not only her, many people have not been very good recently: friends around them, background readers, everyone has experienced some bad moments more or less.

Sometimes this world is really heartbreaking. We have nothing wrong, but we just can't avoid the pain that we should not bear.

After watching a circle of comments, the following 7 friends were impressed by the bad moment. After seeing the pain of TAs, you may find that many times we are facing common problems in life.

*Real sharing from readers. The text is a pseudonym or anonymous.

Everyone can do anything about your job

@心心

I sent a circle of friends. I originally looked forward to a dozen people liked me, and found that there were only two people who liked it.

The emotion suddenly came up: I didn't pay much attention to me.

@ @毛

Find your boss to communicate with some things and fight for some benefits.

As a result, the boss said: Everyone can do it.

A deep damage directly caused me to fall into my long -term self -doubt, and the enthusiasm of the original work was all extinguished.

@anonymous

There is a colleague who is always wrong in the work of my work. The key is that every time she reminds her to change, she will make mistakes next time, and I have been reminding.

So that I can now predict what she will make wrong, and I can avoid it as much as possible. In this way, she can still make mistakes! The accident made you unexpected! I really caught off guard.

What is even more irritating is that every time she made a mistake, she still described it very well, saying, "I changed it, you continue."

I couldn't bear it that day, and her emotions broke out with her.

I was still struggling with myself afterwards? Shouldn't she just quarrel with her because of her provocative provocation?

Because of her, I have been repeating labor, delaying time, and low efficiency. Once I also had a oral warning of a boss because of her backpot.

We are right, you are wrong

@noob

The postgraduate entrance examination conflicts with parents when choosing a school.

Parents want to choose a platform that can give me better development, but I want to choose a school I like and teach me.

They didn't consider my feelings at all, and did not listen carefully to my thoughts.

They said that I don't understand anything now. After I come to work in society, I will know the importance of platforms and first -class schools.

Just want to emphasize that they are right, I am wrong.

I was unhappy, and it lasted for four or five days.

@anonymous

I was chatting with my girlfriends in the group, and inadvertently talked about a person's object, saying that she was so happy and sweet! She suddenly became angry, spoke in our words, and then retreated. Although there is a sincere explanation, it does not seem to work ~

Unexpectedly, a harmless joke would become a bump in friendship. This incident suddenly made me realize that every joke may make the boat turn over; every sentence will become the fuse of friendship rupture.

Obviously, he was a good friend who had a good friend who had eaten, drinking and playing together, but said such a heart -harassing words. He retired from the group regardless of friendship, and suddenly felt the nothingness of friendship.

After that day, because I felt outrageous, I also felt very lost, or even scared. I reduced the frequency of speech and no longer asked about the situation of that little friend. Although the meeting was still as usual, the psychological distance was separated.

Starting reflection, did you have been closer to your friends, did he actually put pressure on the other party? Or are we not suitable to be friends at all?

@ @北北

Emotional is obvious, what is me.

Eating with his boyfriend, he went back to the news of his friend. I felt that he was not polite and disrespectful, and quarreled with him.

Originally, he talked to me with a hippie face and made him admit his mistake. Instead, he pulled down his face and said that he was right. I was even more angry. I immediately packed up and walked away.

You say that it is not big, not small. Emotionally, he was very angry.

@anonymous

After the test on Friday, I turned on the phone and found that my relatives sent a message, saying that I asked me to introduce me to a boy. The age is the same, and the same hometown. I think the height of the boy and the place of work are not suitable, but if you think about your parents' daily marriage, the way to know the boy is less and less. If you think about it, try to talk about it first.

The introduction of a blind date said that I have an introverted personality, so I also introduced me to the same honest boy, and when National Day meets directly. At that time, I was very unhappy. I didn't like others' evaluation of me. I only had an introverted personality. It was also a honest person who didn't like the other party. This seemed to be saying that we had no characteristics and advantages in the eyes of others.

Send WeChat to vomit with friends, saying that she was tired, she didn't want to persist, and asked her what she was doing.

My friend returned one hour later and asked me what was happening. I said that I was busy today, and I didn't rest at noon.

I can only say that it's okay and let her go to rest.

But I obviously saw an hour ago, she still commented on others in the circle of friends.

Simple psychological sayings:

This is life, full of variables and painful lives.

The sudden death of friendship and feelings, the malicious injuries of parents, the cold and attacks of the workplace ... These are reality. No matter how we resist, reality will not change more because of our innocent. However, we don't have to be frustrated because of this and choose to go against it.

Although it is painful, it does not mean that we must face it alone. Our ourselves are full of strength, and we can also draw the required power from a good relationship.

Speaking is the best treatment. Find someone to talk about your pain, you will find that all the dilemma is actually out of the way.

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