"Love Mom Group" lights up the candlelight in the child's heart

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The word "mother" has waited for most people with feelings such as "warmth" and "safety" since childhood. However, there are some children who can only look at the distance of childhood alone, silently walking in the lack of motherly love, and walking lonely on the way to grow.

In Juye County, there is such a "love mother group" composed of female employees in the transportation system. They hope that they can become a candlelight, a bouquet of lights, and illuminate the childhood of children.

On September 1st, the reporter interviewed several "caring moms" in this "love mother group" and listened to them telling them that they had been with the children over the years.

The moment they heard the child shouting "Mom", they felt distressed

Zhang Qin is a member of the "Love Mom Group" of the Da Ye County Transportation Bureau. She and her colleagues first saw those left -behind children who were timid. They participated in a pairing assistance event in 2017. They found that these children have a common characteristic, which is very introverted and refusing to communicate.

As a result, these "caring moms" tried to communicate with the children while actively learned the knowledge of children's mental health education through books and the Internet. Sometimes they also shared and communicated with each other. relation.

Zhang Qin said that his son had participated in the work and knew that he was very supportive after he participated in the activities of helping left -behind children. "When I participated in the event for the first time, I heard that these children's situation, I felt that they had a lot of grievances compared with their children! I want to work hard to let the children know that the big family of society has not abandoned them!"

Before he really came into contact with these children, Zhang Qin had never thought of some children since he was a child. Zhang Qin told the Mudan Evening News all -media reporter that when she was a child, her mother died very early. She knew how to lose her mother how she longed for motherly love during growth. Now that she has the ability to reach out, she wants to make children who lack mother love feel a little from the warmth from the world.

"I don't dare to mention their parents with my children, because I know the taste myself, and every time I let the children remember to deepen the harm to them. I have never learned a professional psychological counseling. Grandma knows some of the situation at home. "Zhang Qin said.

She paid for every child who "paired", but the personality of each child was different, and the response to her was different. Some children of Mu Na are silently accepting and grateful. A lively child will hold her shouting "Mom", making her feel comfortable and sad.

"Xiaoming's father disappeared, his mother remarried, he lived with his grandpa and grandma. But the child was more good at expressing it. Once I brought him the clothes of the season, the child was particularly happy, shouting me 'mother', I can understand the child’s The heart was really distressed at the time, holding the child with tears ... "When recalling the scene at the time, Zhang Qin was quite touched. Later, Zhang Qin participated in the front -line epidemic prevention and control work as a grid member. After knowing that, Xiao Ming still "told" her to pay attention to safety on the phone.

Understand the suffering of the native family, they do their best for their children

"Love Mother" Sun Qiuwen told reporters that in frequent contact, the children gradually became familiar with these "caring mothers" and finally "dare" to express their feelings.

Sun Qiuwen remembered that once they took the children they helped to visit the county, before leaving, a little boy who had been pairing with her for a long time ran to her and told her reluctantly: "I am very happy, my aunt, I am, I am, I, I I feel that you are the best except your mother! "Sun Qiuwen always remembered that moment, the feeling of being simply trust and like by the child, the feeling of the little child who took the initiative to open his heart after the long -term companion Her life.

In May 2019, the "Love Mom Group" of the Dawan County Transportation Bureau formed a support for the left -behind children of the county Boai School. Facing Sun Qiuwen, Xiao Yue, who was only 10 years old, was also sensitive and introverted with his father's death, his mother remarried, and living with his grandparents. He was unwilling to communicate with others.

At that time, Sun Qiuwen had some experience in how to communicate with left -behind children, such as avoiding the topic that children care about most, and carefully pay attention to maintaining children's self -esteem in words, and in words. Such communication requires a lot of time and energy, but Sun Qiuwen and colleagues have never stopped such efforts. They feel that even if the child is willing to say more to himself for a month, it is already progress.

"Once, Xiaoyue told me on the phone that she missed her mother very much." Sun Qiuwen said that this was the first time Xiao Yue took the initiative to express her feelings to her, which gave her more confidence. In this way, the communication became more little by little, and the sense of trust has accumulated little by little. Xiaoyue's academic performance with more sense of security has gradually improved.

Before the Spring Festival in 2022, the "caring mothers" sent new winter clothes to the pairing children. After Xiaoyue took the initiative to call Sun Qiuwen after the winter vacation, and said, "Relatives asked me who bought me such a beautiful clothes, I generously told them that they were a particularly kind aunt!" The warm self -expression made Sun Qiuwen almost forget that when he first saw Xiaoyue, the little girl did not want to speak.

"My own daughter has been in high school. She has always knew that I was participating in the" Love Mother "event and has always been very supportive. During the holidays, she also proposed to take Xiaoyue to eat together." Sun Qiuwen said, sensible, sensible The daughter seemed to want Xiaoyue to know that in addition to "love mother", there was a sister who was a few years older than her like her. "The child's mother was in the field, and I once contacted me by phone, crying and expressing thanks to me. I also understand that she may have a last resort to leave the child." Sun Qiuwen said.

Patient and meticulous, they silently support their children's interest development

Liu Yu, who is also "love mother", was very emotional when he was pairing with herself. She remembered that when she met for the first time, Xiao Gang was unwilling to tell her even half a word. For a long time since 2019, every time she sees Xiao Gang, Xiao Gang's expression is alienated and lonely.

However, Liu Yu was unwilling to give up. No matter how the child closed herself in her world, she tried to chat with him with a smile, and persistently called him on the weekend when Xiao Gang returned home.

Which child will refuse a person who works hard and carefully holds a sincere person? Even if the personality cannot become extremely cheerful, Xiao Gang has improved Liu Yu's attitude after many contacts, not only gradually smiling, but even after feeling the "attention", he began to study hard.

Liu Yu always said to Xiaogang: "If you have any difficulties, you can find me. I am your friend and will help you!" She told the Mudan Evening News all -media reporter, in fact, she dare not say " You can think of me as your mother. "She is afraid that the words" mother "will hurt Xiaogang, and they dare not touch the child's sensitive nerves to" mother ".

Liu Yu learned that Xiao Gang needed to help grandpa and grandma to release sheep when she was at home on weekends. Older people were unable to help their children's learning and development. She was anxious and could only try to find a breakthrough point.

During the process of taking Xiao Gang to the county calligraphy and painting home, Liu Yu observed that Xiao Gang was particularly interested in painting. In contact with the school teacher, she also asked her children if they usually like painting. After determining the child's interest, Liu Yu will also buy some painting supplies for Xiao Gang. I hope that this sensitive little boy who is unwilling to ask for help can develop this hobby.

"I also hope that through long -term efforts, the child’s personality can be more cheerful. Although Xiao Gang's sense of trust and dependence has gradually increased a little in recent years, his personality is relatively introverted. Laughing, this is already a very good change. "Liu Yu said that his child was silently supporting himself and would take the initiative to give the extra -curricular book to this" brother ".

"If possible, I still hope that more caring people in the society will pay attention to these children. I also hope that their relatives of children can pay more attention to their children's mental health and study." Liu Yu said.

66 "Love Moms" hold hands and 149 "lack of love" children

The reporter learned that in May 2017, the Dawan County Transportation Bureau established the "traffic love mother" volunteer service team of civilized practice in the new era, organizing and carrying out the care activities of children, orphans, and single -parent families in hand, which fully stimulated female employees towards the direction of female employees. The dedication spirit of goodness and beauty has created the volunteer service brand project of "transportation love mother" and conveyed positive energy to the whole society. As of now, the "Traffic Love Mother" team in Juye County has organized a total of 66 transportation female employees to join hands with 149 left -behind children, orphans and single -parent families, which has achieved good social effects.

In the New Year, these "caring moms" will visit their children with various snacks and nutrition products such as milk, cakes, and communicate with their children face to face. Compared with material assistance, they hope to make the mentality of left -behind children more healthy through their own efforts, and gradually change their learning and living conditions on this basis.

The "love mother" said that if they cannot accompany them like the children of the children, at least it can be a candlelight on the road of growth, warm and illuminating the child's childhood, supporting them to become broader, wider, A better distance.

Hu Yunhua, a reporter from Heze Newspaper (all children in the article are pseudonym. The photos are provided by the Transportation Bureau of Juye County)

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