Never be worthwhile in life that is not worthwhile

Napoleon once said: "People who can control their emotions are greater than the generals who can win a city."

In life, we will inevitably encounter some nasty people, and bad emotions often accompany them.

But one life is more important than happiness.

Blindly angry, not only can't solve the problem, but also wastes life in meaningless consumption.

Life is short, why bother to be worthwhile to be worthless?

Before you are angry next time, think about these 3 sentences.

I have heard such a sentence: "The person you love will not make you angry; the person who does not love you is not worth your anger for him."

Because every time you are angry, it is often not others, but our own body.

Those who really care about you will not be willing to make you angry, nor will it be indifferent to your reaction.

I have watched such a video online:

In the video, a couple quarreled.

The girl was very angry, and the guy did not coax all kinds of methods.

Although his heart collapsed, the guy was still reluctant to go his temper to his girlfriend, so he found an excuse to buy food.

At the downstairs, the more the guys thought to feel more and more aggrieved. In order to vent their emotions, they started to punch and kick the air.

And this scene happened to be seen by the girl upstairs.

Looking at the funny look of her boyfriend, the girl was no longer renewed, and she also used her mobile phone to take this funny scene and keep it as a memorial.

Later, after the video was on the Internet, someone asked the boy's follow -up.

The boy replied: "After getting angry with the air at that time, I was really much better. In my life, I rarely became angry with her. Generally, I apologized when I quarreled. It was easy to solve it under the steps of each other."

Indeed, it is difficult to find the two people who fully fits the soul in this world.

Even if you have a close teeth and tongue, it will inevitably have time to bump together for a long time.

But a long -term relationship is never the same in three views, but does not fight for right or wrong.

If you care about you, you will not take the or wrong or wrong when getting along, but to put your emotions first, and always take into account your feelings.

When a conflict occurs, you leave him with a face, and he will naturally take a step for you.

As Qian Zhongshu once said to his wife: "There must always be one in the world of two people, one laughed, one quarreled, and one coaxed."

In contrast to the person who loves, the baht must be compared; it is better to calm down and make concessions in a timely manner.

Let go of a moment of grievances, the relationship will not be harmonious for a long time, and the relationship can continue to heat up.

There is a popular question on Zhihu: "How to reduce most troubles in life?"

A high praise replied: "Do not follow the ignorance people, and not be angry with the stupid people."

Sometimes, concessions do not represent cowardice, but a wisdom of life.

Moderator Chen Ming once shared his own experience:

One year Children's Day, he carefully selected a few photos of his daughter and sent it to Weibo.

But just after the release, I received a bad review: "This child is so ugly, but it is no wonder, after all, it is the gene of Hubei village goods."

Chen Ming was angry and immediately wanted to scold each other in the comment area.

But his wife asked him back: "Do you think of the consequences before arguing with this person?"

Chen Ming suddenly realized that he would jump out and tune up no matter what he said, no matter what he said.

With this qi, not only can you not compete, but also spend his effort in vain.

Choosing to ignore is the best way to fight back.

At this point, Chen Ming turned off his phone immediately and left more time to accompany his family.

There is a "trash law" in psychology, referring to some people like a garbage truck. They are full of junk emotions such as frustration, anger, jealousy, calculation, and hatred, and their body is full of anger.

As the "garbage" piled up, they urgently needed to find an exit to release, so they seized all opportunities to touch porcelain, find faults, and vent their anger.

Just like those who brushed evil reviews under Chen Ming's Weibo, they never feel ashamed to anger others, but they will be complacent because their negative energy is successfully transferred to others.

When you encounter such a person, if you are entangled with it, it is like fighting with a dog.

It is not glorious to win, but it must be unlucky when I was bite.

Faced with the hard work of others, turning your face is an instinct, and it is a ability to turn it.

When you choose to ignore it, the higher the other person jumps, the more like a crowded jumping clown, and it will eventually become a laughingstock of everyone.

Schopenhauer once said: "Angered by others' behavior, just like a person who has a big temper with a big stone."

For the unwavering life, it is just paying for the mistakes of others.

Have seen such a story.

There was a little monk sitting in the yard unhappy.

The master asked him why, the little monk replied: "I have been thinking why the chubby said that I am ugly, and I always target me, stealing my meals, and grabbing my stuff. I am very angry."

Master smiled and said, "Remember the bad of a person, that is to punish yourself with other people's faults, so that you can only make you live in unhappy every day."

Facing those who have hurt us, of course, we have the right to choose not to forgive, but they are angry, but they cannot change the established facts.

However, in reality, we can easily fall into an emotional trap like a little monk:

For a takeaway that is delivered over time, I lost the mood of eating;

Due to the whistle of the rear car on the road, the beauty of the road was missed; being cut into line by others at the entrance of the scenic area, forgetting the scenery of the journey ...

Many times, no one torture us, but we are unwilling to see it.

But whether we are angry or not, we must live as usual.

The frowning face is a day, and the day is also one day.

We can't control the behavior of others, but we can switch our mentality at any time.

A few days ago, I went to work with a colleague with a colleague.

When passing through a crossroads, seeing that the green light time is almost left, the driver is about to accelerate.

Unexpectedly, the left car suddenly changed in violation of the rules and forcibly inserted it in front of us.

As a result, neither side could pass, and almost caused a rear -end.

This is the fault of the driver of the front car, but the other party shook down the window and yelled at us.

However, the taxi driver not only did not return to him, but smiled towards the other party.

My colleague and I were instantly convinced, marveling at the calmness of the driver master.

The driver's master smiled and said, "When I was just on the road, I would tear it with the other party when I encountered this situation, but later found that this not only wasted for time, but also delaying my pick -up to make money, and slowly watched it."

Indeed, many people in life are like the owner. Even if they are wrong, they are habitually blamed others.

But as there is a saying: "Often compete with your fellows, don't talk about the fools."

In the world of adults, everyone's time is extremely precious.

Instead of waste time on meaningless arguments and anger, it is better to smile.

The heart is big, and things will become smaller.

In psychology, there is a well -known "Fastein Ge".

Refers to 10%of life consisting of what happened to you, and the other 90%is determined by how you react to what you happened.

Life is alive, the biggest sadness is 90%of the time, less than 10%of the unwavering life.

The real wise man has already transferred the rest of his life into a "shielding mode", and invited people with worthless people and annoying things.

The rest of my life is very short, and less is not worthwhile to leave more time to more important people and things.

Finally, give you a paragraph of Mr. Yang Yan:

The most noble punishment is silence, the most reserved revenge is ignoring; less entanglement in bad things, less worthwhile life, and making yourself more expensive; learning to let go, you can better move forward.

For the rest of your life, I hope you will be entangled with bad people and not distressed by bad things.

The owner of his own emotions, live a life -threatening life.

With friends.

Author | Mumu Lin, use the right love and investment, do a good job of writing

Picture | Visual China

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