"Living into the last generation of the family's post -90s, gradually increased: The root of the family may be broken

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China has ushered in the fourth wave of single now, most of the data from them comes from women, that is, more women are unwilling to get married and unwilling to give birth to children. Although the proportion of men's marriage and children is still higher than women, it is also in a downward trend.

As far as the current social situation, single, unmarried, and Dink have become the attitude to many young people, and even this psychological state has extended to high school students.

The essence of these three phenomena is gradually increasing to the pressure of society, and the cost and responsibility of marriage and breeding cannot be assumed.

When this manifestation gradually increases, it indicates that the decline in the marriage rate and the decline in birth rate, but for the parents of these young people, their thinking is still relatively traditional, so for young people's choice of not having children to have children, the choice of not having children to give birth to children In the eyes of parents, they even thought it was filial piety.

Because in the traditional Chinese concept, the family concept is very strong, and the consciousness of the family's root is also deeply rooted.

If the child infertile the next generation, then the blood of the family cannot be inherited. For the older generation, there is no tradition of a child, which means that the root of the family is broken.

So why are young people's family concepts gradually decreased, so as to lose the "root" of the family? Mainly because people's sense of happiness is reduced. From the perspective of psychology, explaining happiness must be explained from two aspects: subjective happiness and objective happiness.

The subjective happiness was proposed by Diller in 1984. First of all, the subjectivity is in the existence of individual experience. It is not only worthless to exist without negative feelings, but also includes positive feelings.

Finally, it refers to the narrow evaluation of a certain life field and the overall evaluation of its life. If a person's individual happiness decreases, it will affect his life choices. One of the more important aspects is marriage and fertility.

Dou Wentao once said: "Values ​​actually say that everyone should have their own positioning, but we rely on a simple logic to squeeze all of us in one place and use a standard and the same values ​​to abduct each other In the end, it will only make each other crazy. "

In the traditional concept of parents, "home" is the harbor of the Chinese. Both men and women have family tradition responsibilities and genes. It will be buckled with a "filial piety" hat.

When no generation of people go to the traditional family blood, it means that the blood of this family is broken.

The psychological concept of "Chuanzong's successive generation" is actually the traditional concept left over since the small farmers' society. It is the law that conforms to the continuation and reproduction of human labor. idea.

Because the rapid development of the current social material society has spawned the new concept of life, this new life concept and lifestyle are destined to have a strong conflict with the old traditional concept.

Especially now the younger generation of the post -90s generation, they choose "living alone", "not marry", "Dink", "one person to live a life", because for them, life is their own, and the meaning of life itself is also the meaning of life itself. It should be lived to live for yourself, and parents are raising themselves, so they have the responsibility to take care of their parents for their parents.

But whether the "child" is completely his own choice. If he does not have enough power to take care of his child, is it a irresponsible behavior to let him be born unilaterally?

Therefore, this change of thinking of "changes in ideas" is actually the different cognition and evaluation of life of each generation. Perhaps for a generation of generations in the 60s and 70s, there is no family consciousness, and the inheritance of "family root" is just Selfish choice.

But for the current society, is it a big deal with the tradition? Or must the tradition of "family" need to be passed with blood?

Without sufficient economic strength and economic foundation, it is not a harm for the child itself to give birth to a child to give birth to a so -called "blood inheritance"?

There are many ways to continue to inherit the family's roots. Of course, "fertility" is the most basic inheritance method, but the social requirements of the current era also define the generation of this new concept, especially the spiritual pursuit of young people, especially the spiritual pursuit of young people Essence

Everyone has their own choice of lifestyle. We cannot change everyone's different ideas, because it is not the same life, and then choose the right life.

"Fertility inheritance" and "family blood inheritance" without responsibility is actually the embodiment and behavior of irresponsible to the next generation.

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