+Sound | The way you look back on WeChat exposed your emotional intelligence

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Seeing a question: What can I do to enhance emotional intelligence?

Gao Zan's answer is only four words: talk well.

Although it looks simple, the four words are generally a manifestation of a person's personal cultivation, and it is also a manifestation of his emotional intelligence.

In modern society, many people will judge whether the person can make from the tone and attitude of the other party.

The same is true on WeChat.

If you look back on WeChat, you will also expose your emotional intelligence.

01

Reply in time to reduce misunderstanding

Chatting with friends a while ago, he said that his favorite behavior was that everything was explained, the pieces had a fall, and everything was echoing.

This is a word that he brought his master to him when he first entered the workplace, and he has always benefited a lot.

Whenever the news sent to him, as long as he was not busy, he would reply to "receive" the first time.

If you do n’t have time to reply, you will explain it after you are busy and explain the situation to the other party.

Over time, he became a reliable person in his heart, and he became a trusted person in his heart.

In fact, in this life, we will encounter countless people, experience countless things, and there will be intersections, but a few people.

Treat them, you might as well be patient, respond to each news carefully, and treat each relatives and friends patiently.

Requesting the message in time is a kind of politeness and a kind of cultivation.

02

Speaking, avoid contradictions

The more familiar people, the easier it is to hit the other party's pain.

Because you know him too much, so you know where he cares, understand the embarrassment aspect, it is easier to stab the other party in the knife.

Many people think that they have a good relationship with each other, and they always say what hurts each other.

But sometimes I said what I said, it would become a sharp blade, and stabbed to the other side's chest.

Even if the knife was pulled out afterwards, the wound in my heart needed time to heal.

You need to know that some people and people have some jokes.

There is a degree in my heart, and there is a ruler in my mouth to continue a relationship smoothly.

Such a person is a real person with high emotional quotient.

03

Grasp the score and protect yourself

In real life, the most taboo is to make a deep words.

Obviously the other party is not so familiar with you, but you tell him all the news you know, regardless of whether the other party is interested.

Thinking of the company's previous interns, because they did not understand the prophesered society when they first entered the society, they told the news that they heard.

Thinking of this can closer the relationship with colleagues.

Unexpectedly, it was a long time, and the relationship was not only closer. Everyone became more and more disgusted with her, and felt that she was a person who liked to make right and wrong.

Later, before the probation period, the department leaders ended her internship process on the grounds that they did not meet the expectations.

Speaking of which, I think of a story that happened to Socrates.

One day, someone hurriedly wanted to share a message with Socrates.

Unexpectedly, it was stopped by Socrates and asked him: Is the news true?

The other party replied: I don't know, I heard from the street.

Socrates went on to ask: Even if it is not real, it should be goodwill?

The other party answered: It is the opposite.

Then, Socrates asked the last question: So, the news that makes you excited must be important?

The other party said: It's not very important.

Socrates replied to him and said: Since it is not true, it is not important, so please don't say it.

The three issues in this story are called "three sieves".

Talking with people, especially when talking with people who are not so familiar, these three sieves are important tools for screening messages and also the best way to protect themselves.

04

Control emotions and prevent conflict

I have heard a word: Language is the most dangerous weapon. If the human body hurts violence, then the language and the harm are human heart.

Those words that are unobstructed when they are angry will leave scars in each other's heart.

So, if you are a person who is easy to get angry, then calm down for 3 seconds when you come emotionally, don't rush to say the wounded words, give yourself a little digestion.

Only those who can control emotions can control life.

I like a word very much--

Life is like an echo. If you send it, you will send it back, you will get whatever you plant, and you get whatever you give.

This is the truth.

How do you treat the people around you, you can harvest the other party.

What kind of tone do you use to talk to the other party, you can harvest the attitude of the other party.

This is the case on WeChat, even more likely to talk about face -to -face conversations.

Don't be alienated to each other because of the moment without covering each other, do not crook your own way because of the moment of unknown.

Life is alive, keep your mouth, and keep your heart.

May you and I maintain the most basic cultivation, pay attention to the right of speaking, treat yourself sincerely, and treat others with kindness.

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Today's "+sound" is over, thank you for listening.

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Source | Ten o'clock reading (ID: duhaoshu)

Anchor | Rui Kangfan

Recording | Chen Mingji

Edit | Hong Xin

School pair | Ju Weiqiang

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