"How outrageous is the blind date arranged by the mother?": There is a kind of "cheap sense", which is given by the parents

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A few days ago, the post -90s blogger@毛 posted a video to share the wonderful blind date experience of a high school female classmate.

The mother of a female classmate is happy to let her daughter blind.

Whether it is a boxer who plays Taijiquan, a dancer who dances in the square or the chorus teammate, anyone who told her that there is a resource of a single male young man in hand, and to introduce her daughter, she only needs to hear a few key information, It will immediately say, "That's suitable to have my daughter."

For example, if there is one, my mother only heard two information, so Zhang Luo wanted to introduce his daughter:

First, the economic conditions are good; second, the height is more than one meter eight.

As a result, the female classmate saw the boy's photo that the appearance could be said to be dare to compliment.

The female classmate described that that person was not just as simple as simply ugly, but it was "unhealthy" in the past.

She is still a person who values ​​looks more, so she can't accept it. The blind date ended in failure.

A few weeks later, her mother called and scolded her:

"Introduce you to good objects, you don't cherish it.

Where is it unhealthy? The wife's wife is already pregnant. I think you are a dead girl, when will you choose! "

The boy did become a family quickly, and his wife gave birth to a child a few months later.

But what is unpredictable is that a month later, the boys had a sudden illness, and they were in full swing.

Er Mao Tongzi said that if a high school classmate really married him at that time, "send her a red envelope a few months ago, and she will send her a white bag in the next few months.

My classmate has a father and a mother, but she is the first one. "

This sentence made netizens laugh.

But after funny, people can't help but think about it. If marriage is a gambling, then this is too proud.

Soon after, her mother introduced her to a blind date.

This boy said without saying a word and directly introduced a personal short film.

The content inside fully fits the mother's preferences.

He is not only a fellow hometown, but also a high student who graduated from Nanjing University.

Boys introduced their work and are mainly responsible for foreign trade, as well as foreign leadership security work;

The working environment looks very tall, and there are a few photos with international friends, coupled with the straight appearance of a suit, highlighting the appearance of professionals everywhere, in the heart of mother's heart.

However, as a female classmate looked at this short film, she felt wrong.

Sure enough, she discovered that whether it was a graduation photo or a photo of the office, the photos of shaking hands with foreigners, etc., all the photos appeared in the short video were made by boys.

Screenshot source:@坨 子

Not only that, his personal experience is all fraud.

It is said that he graduated from 985 colleges and universities. In fact, he read a college;

It is said that it is a foreign trade in a listed company. In fact, he is a security guard ...

The difference between this day and the ground is simply treating others as fools.

When the female classmate told her mother that the boy was deceiving, the mother said, what kind of deception:

"Isn't it just moisturizing? You don't know how P is also P. Two people still have to meet and see the feeling."

"Don't you want your daughter to be happy?"

"What happiness? A girl is not married at the age of 30, that is, she is sick, how happy she is?" Mom said.

In addition to making people laugh, the experience of female classmates has resonated with everyone, and everyone has exposed their own wonderful blind date experience.

Some blind dates, as soon as they met, they closed their mouths and closed their mouths "TMD". It is difficult to not be afraid;

Some dads introduced their daughter to a object that looked older than himself;

Others encountered scammers, and the verdict was found online ...

This makes people wonder:

Why is the blind date introduced by parents so unreliable?

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What is even more irritating is that even if it is not reliable, when the children propose "this kind of person is introduced to me", parents always start to degrade their children very uniformly:

"Look at your own conditions?"

Parents think that their children are getting older and bigger, and the conditions are average. It is necessary to choose a kind of one, and even some people are good; but children cannot accept such arrangements.

This is exactly the biggest contradiction between parents' marriage and children, and this phenomenon will be more likely to encounter.

Like the experience of a netizen:

Because she didn't look at the object introduced by her mother, her mother began to derogate from the aspects of height and long -term work. Netizens were very sad. She asked:

"Even if I'm not good, at least I don't want to harm others, do I generally collect garbage?"

Under the comments similar to experience, they are basically full of doubts:

Is there such a pit daughter's parents?

Parents choose to hang honestly on their mouths.

Sometimes there is a set of theory for wealth, "Men will deteriorate when they have money, afraid that you can't control him."

At first glance, these words seem to be the experience of "good for you".

But the problem is that there are never any scientific basis and data that can show that ugly is higher than the handsome moral level and more loyal in marriage.

In fact, in the final analysis, the root of the problem lies in the definition of self -value.

How to define the value of a partner is determined by how we define self -worth. In the same way, how parents choose their daughter -in -law or son -in -law, which is determined by how they define self -worth and the value of their children.

In the minds of the parents who are accustomed to degrading their daughters, their daughters are not talented in their appearance, their age is getting older, and the value is naturally not so high.

I even feel that my daughter has a gender for men who should be satisfied with the life.

They cannot see the true value and real needs of children, and even more requirements are all agithebones.

And this seems to have something unspeakable. I just hope that someone will give up the standard and principles to find objects, and it will only make others feel "cheap".

The end result is that they often do not respect and love, but more likely to be unscrupulous and unhappy marriage.

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So, in the face of parents often introduce ourselves to ourselves, what should we do?

What I want to do is to do non -violent communication.

Reading the Grand -General Dictionary "Non -Violent Communication" says: This is a kind of clearing, feeling and desire to clearly expresses themselves honestly, but also respects and listen to others' communication methods.

It contains four elements: observation, feel, need, and request.

For example, if you want to fully express anger, there are four steps:

① Stop, take a deep breath, don't do anything.

② Think about what the idea makes us angry.

③ Appreciate your needs.

④ Express your feelings and directly say that we need.

So don't use "how do you always introduce me to such a person?" To express your resistance.

Instead of replacing:

"These objects you introduce to me seem to ... (observation)

They do not meet my mate selection criteria. You introduce me to such people, I feel a little sad (feel),

Because I want to spend a lifetime with me, I must ..., never ... (need)

Next time you introduce the object, can you not continue to touch your luck like this? (Request) This is too wasteful. "

Most importantly, firmness and clarification of your own standards and attitudes.

If your parents still can't listen, then use action to prove themselves.

If you don't worry about getting married or who don't want to get married at all, you can see that even if you are alone, you can live well;

Those who step into the marriage on the agenda can be taken through the order by themselves. But in this process, you still cannot get married for marriage.

Choose the person you think is right, live a life you feel worthwhile.

After all, life, the most important thing is to make you have real happiness.

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