Dad has these nine characteristics, and the children will be better in the future!See how many in your house?

Author:China Education News Time:2022.06.19

Why the longer my father takes the child, the better the child, and we look for the answer together today's article ~

—— Uncle Kai

Liu Ye once said, "Many dads have no hands in their children's pictures."

Because dads are too busy at work, I rarely have time to accompany the children. In the children's memory, Dad is like a shadow and can't catch it.

Are you (your spouse) a qualified father?

Here are 9 suggestions for dads, let's take a look.

Want the child smart, dad is playing like this

In order to study the meaning of "playing", psychologist John Monton used monkeys to do a famous experiment.

He isolated a few little monkeys alone to prevent them from playing with their companions. As a result, these monkeys who were deprived of the right to play were more lonely than other monkeys in adulthood, and some were sensitive and angry.

This game makes educators realize that playing is of great significance to children.

Most of the children's learning is played in play. The game can not only expand children's cognition, but also improve their minds.

Compared to the conservative game of mothers, Dad takes children to take risks and explore the broad world, which can improve the children's exercise, cooperation spirit, and frustration. It can also exert the enthusiasm and creativity of the child, and grow smarter!

If you want your child to love, your father must learn first

There is a sentence in the CCTV documentary "Mirror": Every child is born with a piece of white paper, and the parents are the painters.

What the white paper eventually became, the key lies in parents.

There is a video circulating on the Internet. Dad returns home from get off work and urges 5 -year -old son to go to study. The son suddenly broke out, crying and questioning his father: "Let me learn every day, have you learned it yourself? You get up early every day and play the game with your mobile phone. thing!"

Yeah, blindly asking children to learn, and never hold a book. How can such education persuade?

What Dad exposed to the child is what the child looks like in the future.

When a child is rebellious, dad should treat it differently

When the child enters the rebellious period, he will unconsciously sing against the adults. Father needs to be more patient with the interpretation and explain, telling the child how to solve the problem.

The child's three backgrounds, dads also have to distinguish: Around 2 years of age, the baby's rebellion period, dad needs more understanding and patience, let the child make choices, and at the same time keep his own boundaries, do not compromise without a bottom line.

At the age of 7, when the child was rebellious, Dad needed to evaluate the children of this period carefully, trust them, and at the same time treat the child with a mouthful.

After the age of 12, the rebellion period of youth. During this period, dad must pay attention to the way and methods of communication, reduce control of children, and give children sufficient respect.

For children, father is a strong symbol. Give guidance at key nodes is to give them the most decent love.

The child makes a mistake, Dad has to do these 4 things

When your child does something wrong, dad can pass 4 steps through "non -violent communication", which will not hurt emotions and solve problems:

1. Speaking of the scenes or events you have observed

"I saw you throwing food into the trash can."

2. Tell me how you feel after seeing the scene or event

"This makes me sad."

3. Tell your own needs and hope

"I hope you tell us directly that we don't like food, so that we can improve the cooking skills."

4. Say your specific request

"Can you communicate directly with adults next time?"

Dad’s authority depends on small things to accumulate

Mr. Lu Xun believes that the three most important aspects of educating children are: "understand me", "treat me equality", "make me independent".

Lu Xun once invited to dinner at home, and one of the special fish circles received unanimous praise from guests. However, the son Hai Ying ate a sour, and he ate a saying that it was not fresh, attracting his mother to blame.

Lu Xun did not scold the child. He picked up the remaining half of the fish in Hai Ying and tasted it, and found that his son's fish Yuan was really not new.

Such a seemingly unusual thing not only maintains the child's honesty, but also gives him the courage to explore unknown.

In a family, the authority of his father is not inherent, but accumulated by things.

Only by treating children as independent individuals and treating children equally and respect can the child's trust and respect. If you are not sure if you have a respect, you start with the wrong thing to say "sorry" to the child.

To make the child have the power, dad must take the responsibility first

Earlier, a video of an Internet addiction dad became a fitness of fitness people, which moved countless people.

This dad told reporters: "I am a heavy game enthusiast that can play until one or two o'clock every day, but the child is about to go to elementary school. I cannot affect my son."

The famous psychologist Geldi once said: Father is a unique existence and has a special force for cultivating children. From his father's body, the child observes what is a man, what is a husband, what is father, and at the same time think about what is independent and brave.

Father is the first role model in the child's heart. Dad's tenacity, tenaciousness, and sense of responsibility are the best textbooks for children. The king of educating children is to cultivate themselves persistently.

07 Let your child be grateful, Dad can do these 3 points first

To cultivate a grateful child, dad must first do:

1. Persist in principles, do not obey your children 2. Believe in words, so that children can trust

3. Ordinary, respect the elders from the bottom of the heart

Teach children to look at things with a grateful heart and see the value of others can improve their children's ability to perceive happiness and have a wider life.

Dad is best to accompany the child to do these 7 things

"Busy Dad can also be a good dad" wrote: "No children who have been accompanied by dad are well affected the sound development and behavioral cognitive ability of the child's personality; these children will generally suffer from self -confidence, anxiety, anxiety, anxiety, Psychological problems such as loneliness. "

Studies of WHO also found that the average children who live with their father for more than 2 hours a day have higher IQ and emotional intelligence.

Father's love is not absent, which plays a vital role in the growth of children. Be better with your children to grow, start with the following 7 small things!

Dad can never say these 7 words to the child

There is a "internalization" psychology in psychology: children will unknowingly believe that parents' negative evaluations of themselves, and transform these evaluations into negative hints on themselves and live in the shadow of self -humiliation.

Li Meijin also surveyed 1,000 children. The result shows that children who are often scolded by their parents at home have the greatest chances of character defects. 25.7%of children are "inferiority" and "depression", 22.1%of children are cold, and 56.5%of children are often irritable.

Putting down and talking well, it is a compulsory course for every dad. If you really affect your child's life!

Psychological research shows that lack of male education often makes boys show the characteristics of sentimental feelings, cowardly personality, cowardly fear, and lonely personality, and inferiority.

For girls, Dad even affected emotional development. When dad is like alcohol, daughter will feel that not to drink alcohol is a good man; when dad has family violence, the daughter will feel that not to fight himself is a good man; when the father does not love to go home, the daughter will feel like a good man who is willing to accompany himself. Native

Conversely, the better my dad is in the heart of her daughter, the lower the probability of her daughter encounters the scum man in the future.

A person has inevitable connections with the native family, and the influence of father on the child may last a lifetime. I would like to use this article to encourage your dad!

Qualified dad

Is the biggest treasure of the family

Transfer from | Uncle Kai story story

Editor in charge | Zhao Li

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