Get your emotions outside the door, and your home will become the return of happiness

Author: Insight on onetong

One person is unhappy.

There is such a fragment in the American drama "Little Sieton".

Due to suffering from school at school, he played a small temper at his family after returning home.

At this time, his father came over and told him about the unlucky things he encountered this day:

First of all, he was criticized by the principal, and then was abused by the parents of the student. The students were discouraged in the locker room. They were accidentally injured by mistake.

In the end, Dad said long -term focus:

"Everyone is very hard, but it is the most basic responsibility to lose my temper to those who love you."

Take it seriously.

Home is not an emotional vent, but a hedge of the soul. When the emotions are located outside the door, the home will become a happy return.

01

There is such a question on Zhihu: Why are we always polite to strangers and getting temper to dear people?

One answer is impressive:

Our tempering temper to intimate people is actually a very clever waywardness. We realize that the other person loves ourselves in subconsciousness. However, all evil words are a kind of consumption of love and intimacy, and they will push their families further and further.

There is such a scene in the tiny novel "The only person you dare to offend".

In the past six months, "I" can hear the accusations of the neighbors every day. The reason for his fire is usually some trivial matters:

"I didn't bring the key, why did I open the door for half a day?"

"Give me the remote control, watch Korean dramas every day, it's annoying."

Until one day, after knocking on the door, unexpectedly, the man didn't question, but yelled in surprise: "Mom, why are you here?"

The mother came out and stopped her son in the corridor.

"Why are you at home, another one outside?"

The man smiled bitterly: "Outside, it is for work. I shouted with the boss, and the boss would quit me; I shouted with the customer, and the business could not be talked about; I picked my colleagues' problems, they would say bad things. Home venting. "

In life, many people spend the grievances that have been suffered outside like this man, and the sullenness of life is vented on the family.

But doing so, not only cannot solve the problem, but also consumes each other's feelings, leaving scars that are difficult to remove in the heart of the other person.

Listening to a doctor's friend said a case.

A strong male young man is usually no different from normal people, but when he drives, every time he drives, his body shakes to one side.

For more than ten years, you have been seeking medical treatment for many people, but have no effect.

Finally, he found the source of the disease with a psychologist.

It turned out that when he was 7 years old, he was bullied at the school one day, and returned home to cry.

Unfortunately, the father was scolded by the company that day, and it was hard to get rid of it. He came back to see this scene, threw the handbag towards the sofa, and rushed up to do a kick.

Although he did not really kick, he was scared lightly. His father's action left him a lifetime shadow.

William Benard wrote such a sentence in "Harvard Training":

"Don't think that your family will not mind your damage. The damage is like nailing on the fence. Even if you pull out the nails, you will leave traces."

Everyone in life can't say it, when you can't speak, but this is not the reason for you to pick up the knife of the language, lift the mood's garbage, and throw it to your family.

02

Sister Li has a warm and harmonious family. Her husband is generous and kind, and the child is polite.

When I went to her house as a guest, I found a wooden sign hanging on her door, which read:

Before entering the door, please throw away your troubles; when you go home, please bring a smile.

I asked curiously: "I often remind my lover, don't go home with resentment, but she always feels like a wooden sign. Is it really useful to remind you?"

She smiled and explained, "I don't remind them, but once I saw a tired face in the elevator mirror, the frowning brows, and my sorrowful eyes, which scared me a big jump."

The words of my friends make me feel quite like a mirror. The expression when you enter the door will affect everyone's mood.

The ancients: one person is 座, and the seating is not cheerful.

There is no shortage of happy families in this world, and what is lacking is those who know how to enter the door.

I have seen a very touching story.

In a poor family, unfortunate things occurred in three consecutive places. First, the children's scores were not enough. Entrances need to pay a high school selection fee. After that, the father was laid off and broke the economic source.

The mother and son were silent for a long time, and the whole family was all over the clouds, but in the face of sudden changes, the father was always calm and calm.

Because of the age of age, his father was looking for a job and hitting the wall. However, when his mother asked him about the situation, he answered with a smile, "It's almost the same."

Later, my father bought a tricycle and gave people the goods. Once I accidentally turned over. The refrigerator of the guests on the car broke, and the father cried in Voldemort. ,fine."

In the end, the family survived the difficulty in the tricycle.

The child also studied hard under his father's infection and was admitted to a famous school.

Zhou Xiaopeng once said in the first episode:

"A family is unhappy. It is doomed from the moment you enter the door, because when you enter the door, you will determine the direction of your family."

Throw the troubles outside the door and leave the gentleness to your family. Life will naturally return your happiness and harmony.

03

In life, do you have such an experience: When you have differences with friends, you will nod in order to maintain the relationship, but you can return to your parents ’s sentences to make you furious;

When you encounter customers in the work, you will be able to swallow it, but you can return to your wife's concern, but let you find the reason for the vent;

When you encounter a conflict, even if others challenge your bottom line, you will maintain your own cultivation. You can cry when you return to your child's cry, but make you furious ...

Zhou Guoping said: "Circularity to close people is instinct, but overcoming instincts, so as not to be fussy about people who are close to those who are close. We must be alert to instinct and cultivate education."

Home is the nest of love and warmth, not a dump of stress and emotions.

People who are really educated will digest pressure and emotions outside the house.

Moderator Li Jing told the story when he was entrepreneurial.

In the early days of entrepreneurship, she was often too busy to drink saliva. She had to meet with a shaft, and to promote her TV show;

Drink and entertain every day. After the toilet, you have to go to the conference site immediately.

With lack of experience, she was extremely lacking in funds, and her anxiety and pressure were so hard that she often cried alone.

But whenever she returns home late at night, she always stands under a sycamore tree before entering the door.

Then he talked about the pain and trouble of this day in front of the Indus tree. After her mood was comfortable, she would push away the door happily.

Because in her opinion, home is the pure land that stores happiness and joy, and it is the happiest place in this world.

A mature person should know how to find a way to release the inner negative emotions, instead of venting a grievance to the person who loves himself the most.

Before entering the door, remove the fatigue, dry the tears, the best emotions, and it is worth giving the closest person. ▽

Shi Tiesheng recorded his story and his mother in "I and Earth Altar".

Since his illness, the whole person has become furious, and he has often lost his temper to his mother.

It wasn't until his mother died that he regretted it and regretted not restraining his emotions at the time.

He said, "This stubborn only left me for regret, and there was no pride at all. I really want to warn all the children who grow up. Don't come to this stubborn with your family. I have understood it, but I am too late."

Not long for a lifetime, you will not leave regrets to your family and Yan Yue.

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