Marriage, divorce, no marriage ... Regarding the nature of marriage, this article is all spoken

Mr. Qian Zhongshu said: "Marriage is a siege, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city come up with."

Marriage is beautiful and trivial. Everyone has different understanding and choices.

Some people bravely try and gain happiness;

Someone is not unusual, and separated halfway;

There are also people who live outside the city and are romantic alone.

Regarding marriage, divorce, no marriage, there is no absolute good or bad, they are divided into autumn in Bozhong.

Behind the different choices, everyone has their own expectations, perhaps as expected, maybe if they are lost.

Today, ten o'clock Jun will talk to you about marriage, divorce, not marriage ... how should we choose.

Some people often say: "The prerequisite for happy marriage is the consistency of the three views."

But the reality is that everyone has a different growth environment and has their own understanding of the world. It is accidental, and the difference is inevitable.

Two independent individuals form a family, which is more important than the three views, and is an emotional intelligence in marriage.

Blog@博 博 Share the story of parents.

For more than 20 years of marriage, like most husbands and wives, they often quarrel for their trivial life.

The difference is that Dad's emotional quotient is very high, and the atmosphere will always ease the atmosphere in time to prevent the conflict from deteriorating.

In the New Year, my mother's desire to shop broke out. I bought a dozen boxes of annual goods on the Internet.

Dad looked at the house courier, his expression was very serious, and he could see his dissatisfaction clearly, but his father did not stifle his mother's joy at the time.

When eating at night, my father calmed down and said to his mother, "You buy a little blindly recently!"

My mother must be strong in my life, how can she be able to bow their heads easily, arguing that she bought all the necessities.

Dad murmured: "Buy everything blindly. It's not all the money at home. I was going to buy it in a physical store.

My mother's face became dignified and a little angry: "You haven't tasted it yet, what qualifications to criticize me? Try to talk again."

Mom took out a bag of peanuts and threw it to her father. Dad ate a pretending to be more angry: "It's not me, you can buy it ... it's delicious." Then make a laugh Federation of expression.

Mom is still very angry, ignoring Dad, Dad went to find something: "How much did you spend?"

After listening, my mother didn't want to ignore Dad, but only said that she didn't remember, and Dad immediately attached to it: "You don't say how much money, how can I transfer it to you!"

Mom smiled, and Dad smiled cheaply, and a storm stopped.

Can't help but think of Song Dandan in the variety show:

"Happiness is not how good you are, how suitable you are together, but how you do not handle it."

There is a contradiction in marriage. It is not terrible. The terrible thing is that I do n’t know how to resolve it, and let the fissure of feelings breed.

Some people say that emotional intelligence is not everyone.

First of all, emotional intelligence will not be able to learn. Marriage depends on joint operations. The most afraid of knowing that the informed intelligence is not high, but it is always used to the opponent's accommodation.

Over time, the party will always be tired; for a long time, the enthusiastic heart will always be cold.

In fact, emotional intelligence is not as difficult to imagine. It requires a little bit of empathy, a little tolerance, and a little bit of pain.

When you really think about it for another person, you will find that the so -called emotional intelligence, but just attentive.

Being with high emotional quotients, contradictions will dissipate intangible, trivial can also be romantic, and the remaining years will accompany themselves.

There is a question on the Internet: "What kind of feeling is divorce?"

Netizen@网 网 said: "I finally liberated the marriage that consumed me, and the whole person was relaxed instantly."

Enron has been in love with her husband for 10 years, settle in calm for 3 years, and eventually divorced.

The husband is a university classmate in Enron. When the two are together, they have nothing, and even drinking a bottle of three dollars will hesitate.

But they never thought too much. Although the households were not supported, Enran still insisted on their choices.

After getting married, Enron and her husband worked together. With their own houses and cars, the family had nothing to say.

But I did not expect that life was just getting better, and Enron found her husband derailed.

An Ran wanted to divorce, and her husband refused to be, and the husband's family also accused Enron's bad temper, not gentle, and not prosperous.

An Ran felt angry and funny, but helplessly had to move out of the house first and started to separate from her husband.

During the separation period, the husband had a sum of peace and noisy. They walked into the Civil Affairs Bureau twice, but the husband temporarily regretted it.

Enron had also softened, but when she learned that her husband and Primary Three were still in touch, she was completely dead.

Enron and her husband repeatedly teared for three years, and were tortured and struggling. Fortunately, with her insistence, her husband finally chose to let go.

After the divorce, An Ran said: "If you work together, you will not be happy anymore.

Yes, the relationship consumed by each other does not have to be forced, the more struggling, the more painful.

If marriage is to run for happiness, then the divorce is to escape the misfortune. Whether it is rushing or escaping, it is a way to happiness.

The writer Su Cen said:

Regardless of love or friendship, if you want to be nirvana, there will be no exception, first stay away from those who constantly consume you.

You have the right to stop in any paragraph that consumes your relationship, because there is nothing in the world worthy of grievances.

Time is not wasteful, do things you like, and the person worthy of love, and work hard and hot, is the ultimate goal of life. Not long ago, I saw a video of Hui Yinghong after the film.

At a fan meeting, a 30 -year -old girl said that she had just lost love because she was confused when she was old.

Hui Yinghong comforted:

"Sometimes, forcing feelings will waste a lot of time and youth ... Feeling is to get married, and break up if you don't fit.

At the age of 30, there are still many valuable time. "

Hui Yinghong's words, just like her own emotional life, rational and curious.

In the process of growth, Hui Yinghong talked about a few loves, and the results became past memories.

Some people suspect that she is not gentle enough. Some people are not loyal to deceive their feelings. Some people have shocked time but suddenly left. Some people almost walked into the marriage hall with her, and ended up because of her family burden.

Fate and fate, Hui Yinghong's age is getting older. Looking at the people around her have her own family, she began to marry a little.

In her 30s, Hui Yinghong deliberately went to fortune -telling for marriage, but the fortune teller informed that she would not get married until the age of 60.

When Hui Yinghong heard this result, she cried in the park, but she did not compromise and still said firmly:

"I want to marry and I must marry love."

Without encountering love, Hui Yinghong put more energy into work, and became the Golden Award and Golden Horse Award at the age of 57.

Today, Hui Yinghong is still single at the age of 62. Although she did not wait for the right person, she could not hinder her life.

Hui Yinghong said:

I am not afraid of age nor the obstacles of the outside world. I chose my own career. The anxiety of cracking age is to do something you like, get more opportunities, and realize the value of yourself.

I would rather be alone, and do not make up. If the relationship cannot be successful, you may wish to make your career shine.

As writer Yu Guangzhong said: "You are an independent person, no one can wipe your independence, unless you compromise with the world."

Marriage is not the main theme of life. Age is not a catalyst for marriage. The secular vision is not a ruler. Everyone has the right to choose independently.

Even if it is unmarried for life, as long as it does not violate the heart, it is also a kind of happiness.

The path of life is not crowded and lively, and there is no scenery of quiet trails.

There are many possibilities for people in their lives that can get married, divorce, or not.

Xiao Bernard said: "Those who want to get married, go to get married, and maintain single if you want to be single. Anyway, you will regret it in the end."

Facing the road of marriage, no matter how you choose, you must not forget, the core of the constant is to live a good life.

If you are married, please run with your heart. Don't hesitate to escape. If you want to get married, you will bloom alone.

Choose the road that suits you, walking boldly, you don't have to envy the map in the hands of others, there are warmth and romance in front of you.

Light [watching], for the rest of your life, I hope you live a sober and transparent life, follow the guidance, and live a longing for life.

Author | Li Kemo, a personal public account, girl.

Picture | Visual China

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