Behind each rebellious child, there are parents who are unwilling to grow up ｜ Select

Touched by a father's approach.

His son had a quarrel with Grandpa at home, and he picked up his son.

After getting in the car, the son cried and told the cause and consequences of the quarrel. Dad listened silently. When the son calmed down, his father took his son to drive a few laps. The chat was not a quarrel. After an hour, Dad stopped. Car, ask your son: "What do you think about this?"

The child realized that he was a bit out of control. Dad asked his son if he would apologize to his grandfather, and his son nodded. The last farce was resolved.

Dad won the child with patience, respect and understanding. If you fight or scold, you will inevitably jump a chicken flying dog.

A educator once said that behind each rebellious child, there were parents who refused to grow up.

Rebellion is not a child's fault, but reminding parents to still work hard.

Children rebelled from we want him to be obedient

When children are rebellious, we are used to saying, "Why are you so disobedient?"

Because we want children to obedient, listen to us, obey our arrangements, so the child's mistakes and troubles become rebellious and disobedient.

When the child was criticized and reprimanded, and his expectations were getting rolling, so we felt that the child was rebellious.

In the TV series "Come on Mother", Su Qing, who is a lawyer, is busy with work, and a young son with asthma. She hopes that her brother can be obedient and sensual, and let herself less snack.

But the younger husband's results declined, and people were very rebellious.

Not only smoking, lying, rewarding anchors, but also deliberately stealing into the Public Security Bureau; conflicting with classmates, being asked by the teacher to ask the parents to impersonate their father and so on. This child who was obedient, sensible, and good grades suddenly was not normal.

But without children like rebellion, the surface of rebellion always expresses her inner demand, just like a husband, but the rebellion is just because of desire to be seen.

Only when you make mistakes can his mother go to school to pick up him from school; only when it is troublesome, the mother will care about seeing him.

Su Qing began to reflect on: "Is we because we are parents, so we think that we are too self -righteous to impose our own ideas to their children. Have we always feel that we are right because we are parents."

We ask the child to east, and the child is going to the west.

Parents want their children to listen to me, and the child is eager to be independent, so he starts to resist.

When removing the fence of "you want to be obedient",

Rebellion disappears

A netizen laughed at himself without a rebellion period: Once he said that he wanted to get hot, his mother took him away, not only to give him hot head, but also encouraged him to dye. A few years later, the mother asked him, why did you have not come yet?

When we remove the fence of "you want to be obedient", the child's rebellion disappears.

Parents should understand that children obedient can make us worry, but children may develop into highlights.

It is always required to listen to us and do not increase the authority of the parents.

On the contrary, giving children space, discourse and choice, knowing how to respect children, will win more love and respect for children.

With such a parent, children do not need to rebellion

Children's rebellion is not a problem, and parents need to work hard to resolve this rebellion.

控 Keep your mind and control your emotions

The emotional irritability of the parents is easy to stimulate the child's rebellion. The parents' emotions are stable, and the rebellion can spend it steadily.

Maybe every time when I was irritable, there is always a kind of anger that arrows have to be posted on the strings, but we only need to stop for a second, take a deep breath, gently pull the corner of the mouth of the smile, and move the pleasant nerves to avoid a chicken flying dog jumping The farce, avoid cracks of parent -child relationships.

家 Take the child as a child of someone else's house

From now on, the child's child is opened with the distance from the child, and the beauty is here, and the parent -child relationship has become better.

Take the child as a child of someone else's family, maintain a sense of boundaries, respect more, have enough space, and contradictions can be reduced a lot.

能 unconditional love cannot be absent

Psychologists say that the psychological motivation behind the rebellion is helpless and the essence is also helpless.

Parents' unconditional love, understanding, and tolerance are all good medicines for ironing all sadness and pain.

No matter what the child does, what is wrong, you want to correct it wrong, but please tell the child that I love you just because you are my child. In any case, please don't be afraid, parents are always your hard armor.

Even if the rebellion appears, it will leave the scene elegantly, without rebellious children, only rebellious parents.

May we work hard to become a non -rebellious parent and harvest the sunny and healthy children.

This article is reproduced in | Uncle Kai's story (ID: Kaishujianggushi), condenses 60 million families, brings good hope to parents, so that more children have a happy childhood.

Author | Mu Man

Illustration Author | Wang Rongjia

Editor in charge | Du Runnan

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