Breeding her daughter, parents cannot be soft -hearted, and the three "hard work" of cultivating her daughter will benefit from the future.

Hello everyone, I am a meal mother

The concept of many older generations thinks that adoptive daughters do not have to worry too much, and think that they only need to raise their daughters. Anyway, they will marry others.

However, such an old concept has gradually been eliminated. Now many young parents are more enthusiastic about giving birth to a daughter, and they also have to raise their daughters and let their daughters live a small princess.

In a hit TV series, I have seen such a scene. The girls in the play grew up under the pet from a young age, basically all clothes to reach out and open their mouths, and proposed what toys to buy. Also allowed them one by one, it can be said that there was no trouble in the process of growth.

But this situation changed after the girl entered junior high school.

Because the girls were basically studying when they were in elementary school before, they did not need to consider all the things faced in daily life.

After the girl entered junior high school, because the junior high school was far away from home, she could only choose to study, but after she officially entered the school to study, the girl showed all kinds of discomfort.

In addition to not basic life skills, the relationship between girls and roommates is not harmonious, and often conflicts with her roommates. The reason why this happened was to a large extent because her parents protected her too well.

Cultivating her daughter's "ruthlessness" can benefit her future

Having self -reliance

In this society, self -reliance is also very important for girls. I saw a message on the Internet. After a female college student went to college outside the country, a few large bags of luggage would be packed at home when they were on holiday.

These bags are contained in dirty clothes worn throughout the semester. The reason why she is packed and took home is to let her parents help clean, because she would not wash clothes, and she was worried that the self -service washing machine provided by the school was not clean.

Many parents are afraid that their children will be tired and encounter, and they are unwilling to let their children learn life skills. In this way, the children will not only become more and more lazy, but also take these things for granted.

Parents cannot accompany their children for a lifetime. One day, children will leave their parents and live independently. If the daughter does not have the ability to be independent, it is not only easy to be frustrated, but also easily causes trouble to others, becoming a drag in the eyes of others.

Have a ruthlessness in learning

On the Internet, a rural female champion of the college entrance examination attracted the attention of many netizens. The female champion admitted frankly when I was interviewed by the media that she was not so outstanding in IQ, and even felt a little stupid.

The reason why you get such a high score is that you are "ruthless" to yourself, insist on getting up at 5:00 in the morning and memorizing the words until 12 o'clock in the middle of the night. I have practiced my own disadvantaged subjects. It has been so storm and persistence for three years before becoming a rural female champion in the eyes of others.

For the importance of learning, I believe that many young parents now have a deep understanding. Only by working hard can we enter good universities in the future and will not take less detours in employment.

Especially for girls, good grades can not only find good jobs, but also have more advantages in terms of mate selection.

Parents must not relax their children's learning because they are distressed, and they must let their children understand the importance of learning to him.

Have a ruthlessness in life

A parenting expert once talked about the interview that the current child seems to be too fragile. Once a little setback is suffered, it is easy to lose or emotional collapse.

The parenting expert also gave an example saying that she was the daughter of her colleague. After participating in a piano game, she failed to get the corresponding ranking. Go to any piano competition.

No one can live smoothly throughout his life, and he will always encounter frustration in a long journey. For girls, the ability to resist frustration is very important, because girls are relatively emotional. When facing setbacks, they are easily thinking about it and get themselves into themselves.

As a parent, we must cultivate the children's resistance from a young age to make her understand that frustration is not a big deal. The most important thing is to learn lessons in setbacks and grow up step by step.

How to raise girls, parents should do these points

Let her understand what she is doing

Compared to boys, many parents will be more spoiled in the process of raising their daughters, for fear that her daughter will be hurt because of something.

And many dads and even daughter slaves. When the daughter made a mistake, as long as he always coquettish, he would become no principle. As everyone knows, this has harmed her daughter and made her more and more coquettish.

When her daughter was young, her parents needed to let her understand that she had to do it by herself so that she could gradually cultivate her sense of responsibility.

In the process of growing up, the most important thing for parents is to teach their children to do what they should do so that they can gradually grow, instead of helping the child to do what he should do, so that she will always rely on her parents.

Pay attention to the cultivation of personality

Personality is very important for girls. Now many girls will become very irritable because they are accustomed to raising from childhood. They are centered on herself, but if there is something that does not fit her heart, it will become noisy. No matter.

Perhaps this is not a big deal to parents, but in the long run, it will have a great impact on their children's future social socialization. No one will like a person centered on themselves. As a parent, we must pay attention to the cultivation of children's personality, learn to experience the feelings of others, and learn how to think in other ways so that they can make more friends and become a cheerful person.

Of course, it is not enough to raise your daughter to do these two points. If we want to better educate your daughter as a parent, it is recommended to see this "Nourishing Girl".

This book divides the nurturing girl into 5 stages, summarizing the effective educational methods of parents in the process of raising their daughters.

For example, the physiological problems encountered by girls in adolescence, psychological problems encountered during the growth process, etc., also supplemented with a large number of cases to help parents cultivate a strong and independent girl.

For example: In adolescence, my daughter pays more and more attention to her dress, wants to leave a good external image, and then ask us to buy her a lot of clothes.

After reading this book, I know how to communicate with my daughter in a way that my daughter can accept, so that our daughter knows that our dress does not have to catch up with fashion, as long as it is neat and clean and comfortable.

In fact, there are many techniques in the middle communication. If the handling is not good, the daughter will complain that the parents are reluctant to spend money, or they do not understand why their parents are unwilling to buy more clothes for themselves, do they not love themselves and so on.

This book can be said to cover all the problems in the growth of girls, and the author is divided by the characteristics of each age group of the girl. From a young age to an adult, helping her daughter to solve the problems of growth, and grow up with her daughter happily.

The current activity price is only 29 yuan, which can be used for more than ten years, less than 2 yuan a year, but you can teach you to cultivate smart, elegant, strong and independent, and strong inner daughters.

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