Half of my life has passed, learn to be silent

The ancients: more words and defeat.

Think about it, it is true.

Many times, some words are hurt, some words are sad, and some words are bad.

In fact, there are a lot of things in life. If you say it is better not to say, you can choose to shut up in a timely manner.

A person, when you are in trouble, learn to express your growth, knowing how to swallow is mature.

In the first life, the most rare is to cultivate your mouth and maintain silence, and sometimes a manifestation of a wise man.

When half a life has passed, you must learn to be silent.

Silence is not to comment, to be tolerant, but to see it.

Life, keeping your own heart, timely silence, and deep cultivation inward is the best way to live in the second half of life.

There is a saying: "The benevolent does not blame, the good is not commenting."

Everyone who is kind and benevolent knows, do not say the words of accusations and criticisms.

Because once you say it, it is difficult to collect the water, those words will be like a steel knife, stabbing people's hearts.

Recently, a video of "playing a mobile phone when a nurse rescued patients" rushed on the hot search:

In the video, the doctor pressed the chest to the child. The nurse on the side held the ball pocket with one hand and mobilized the mobile phone with one hand.

When the nurse saw someone shooting himself, he quickly put his phone aside.

The video was short, but it caused a stir.

There are many people commented on the Internet:

"This nurse has no basic career in terms of career. It should be expelled, and the qualifications of nurses should be revoked."

"This should be regarded as contempt for life, not deserved to be medical staff!"

These online comments have eroded people's hearts and have a huge impact on the lives and work of being a nurse.

But soon, the incident was notified from the official investigation.

It turned out that because the cardiopulmonary resuscitation was too physical, the nurse took the mobile phone to call other doctors to assist.

But it was this move that the child's parents were broken and sent to the Internet.

In this era, the Internet has become the second "mouth" of people in virtue. Speaking through the Internet is a choice for people to do.

However, the Internet and reality, after all, are across a screen. When they do not understand the truth, they will want to slander others wantonly, which is also a kind of indifference of human nature.

Unknown full picture, no evaluation is actually a kind of literacy.

Just as the "iceberg theory" in psychology: The iceberg we vision is only one -eighth of the iceberg, and seven of the remaining seven of the remaining is hidden under the unknown underwater.

Looking at life, the world is like the corner of the iceberg.

We know half -knowledge of the lives of others; we do not need to understand the choice of others; the pain of others, we cannot feel the same.

It is not embarrassing to not evaluate others easily; knowing how to maintain the dignity of others is to leave room for people.

When people reach middle age, they suddenly understand that they can maintain silence when they are in trouble. It is a kind of wisdom and a kind of kindness.

Wang Yongbin once said: "If you don't fight for gains and losses with others, you can only know what you know."

Meaning: Do not compete with others for the success or failure of fame and fortune, just want to grow wisdom and ability when doing things.

In the first life, less disputes and bad words, more tolerance and consideration, life is naturally smooth.

Since the media writer Liu Xiaonian once talked about a thing she experienced:

When Liu Xiaonian is working in the industrial park, he will take a car with his peers every day, and Lao Xia will make some fastness.

Once off work, their cars were rear -ended by the car behind the road.

At that time, the other party was responsible, but the other driver had been blamed Lao Xia since the crash, thinking that there was a problem with Lao Xia's driving.

Lao Xia never refuted, but comforted the other party and said, "Don't complain, no one wants this."

Later, the traffic police came. After the other party was determined, the two parties reached an agreement and had a quick claim.

When leaving, the opponent driver said angrily to Xia Bin: "Drive well in the future, you don't worry, you will delay others' affairs."

But Lao Xia still attitude was peaceful and did not send it.

Liu Xiaonian, who was in the same car, was very puzzled. He was worthless for Lao Xia. He asked Lao Xia indignantly: "The man was too much just now, why don't you say a few words?"

Lao Xia said faintly: "Why is he all responsible, his emotions have collapsed, why bother to pour fuel again?"

It turned out that Lao Xia knew very well that it was better to be tolerant and deepen the contradictions and deepened the contradictions.

People live in the world, do not need to fight for a strong victory everywhere.

You know, Hainan Baichuan is a big deal.

No dispute is the real maturity; capable of tolerance can support the general pattern.

It is better to be silent than its evil language.

Being a man would rather be speechless, and to shut up in a timely manner, which can reduce the disaster.

There is a saying in "Zeng Guangxian Wen": "When you go to your mouth, leave half of the sentence, and let the three points come to the end;

Sometimes, when your words are no more valuable than your silence, it is better not to speak.

It often requires wisdom to see through, but not to say that it is a person's education.

Writer Feng Tang once told such a story:

Once, Feng Tang was pulled by a friend to a teahouse to drink tea. The teahouse environment was comfortable. The boss was handsome and golden, and tea was delicious.

It turned out that when the tea room, the boss boasted that the tea in the shop was contracted with a few acres of tea fields and carefully selected. It was really good tea.

During the boss's speech, there was a friend next to him, drinking tea with a smile, watching with a smile, listening with a smile, without saying a word. Feng Tang knew clearly that since the founding of the People's Republic of China, the best Pu'er tea and oolong tea in the mainland have long been controlled in the group company managed by this friend.

Curry randomly picked a good old seven -child cake, which may have never seen this owner.

Feng Tang saw a kind of cultivation from a friend. This cultivation considers the feelings of others and cares for the face of others.

It is not difficult to see through. It is difficult to say that it is wisdom.

Paying with people and affecting emotions, not to mention broken; embarrassing things, do not expose it.

Many things, instead of letting the relationship from getting rid of the relationship, the emotional breakdown, it is better to keep silent and leave a decentness to others.

Many times, there are not many words, but it is expensive.

It is the literacy of seeing through the break, and it is more goodwill than the heart.

People who are truly mature and cultivated have always knew how to manage their mouths, know without words, and silently speak in time.

In the world of adults, it is often more powerful than chattering, which can promote interpersonal relationships.

After a long time, you will find:

Many words can be said without saying; a lot of words, no need to say; many words, more words are not beneficial.

Speaking is a science, and the silence is.

Silence in time is to be lonely and keep prosperous.

Be a silent person to face complicated interpersonal silently; do your own things silently;

Those who know how to silence, in silence, realize human sentiment, know whether they are not commented; people who know how to silence, tolerate others in silence, learn to tolerate and do not dispute; people who know how to silence, in silence, take care of the human body, understand whether to see through the human body. Said; people who know how to silence, in silence, deeply cultivate inward, ready to go.

As Nietzsche said: "Who will have a long time to be silent for a long time."

When half a lifetime has passed, I hope you use a silent heart to be indifferent to the world, capture a beautiful world, and cultivate a touch of world.

Author | Qianju, writing the world, willing to be ordinary but unwilling to defeat ordinary!

Picture | Visual China

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