Your real ideal partner, the original scientific research has long been known

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Will love temperament originally affected by the nervous system? Knowing our love temperament and helping us judge who is more suitable for our partners.

01 The ideal lover, why sometimes only stay in imagination?

Everyone may have longed for beautiful love and outlines the appearance of the ideal lover in their hearts, what scenes will be with TA with TA.

But when you really fall in love, you will find that reality is different from what you think. In the movie "BJ Single Diary", the heroine BJ experienced such a loss and struggle.

BJ is an ordinary young single young woman. At the age of 32, she decided to make some changes, hoping to take off the order as soon as possible.

The good news is that she finally encountered the object of each other's favors. The bad news was that there were two at the same time.

"BJ Single Diary"

One is the boss Daniel. He can be said to be the standard male god image in the hearts of girls. It is handsome, romantic, and staying with him. You feel that the whole world is glowing;

The other is a lawyer Daxi. Although it is also a standard gentleman, it feels cold and dumb. There are not many daily words. They are always serious and make people feel a sense of distance.

If it is you, two men, who will you choose to fall in love with?

"BJ Single Diary"

Most people may choose Daniel. After all, who doesn't want to talk to a funny and handsome male god?

However, for BJ, who has no relationship between feelings and eager to stable relationships, although Daniel is in line with her expectations for the ideal lover, it is not suitable for accompaniment.

He always couldn't focus on a relationship. Love is his biggest problem, but even if he quit his heart, he is always lingering outside, and he can't always give BJ the stability he wants.

"BJ Single Diary"

And Daxi is not good at expressing emotions, and he is more rigid, but he will silently express love with action. In the end, BJ also found that Daxi was more suitable for himself after getting along with the two.

This is also very similar to the love of most of us: we feel that the object that suits us may not be really suitable.

Behind this, it is actually a love temperament.

02 Our love is not just the fate is dominated

Have you ever thought about why do you like a certain type of people and get along well with a certain type of people?

Analysis of psychology may be related to childhood experience. For example, some people will find partners according to the image of their father, because this will make her feel familiar and safe.

In addition, cultural background and economic situation will also affect our preference for love.

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From the perspective of love biology, biological anthropologist Helen Fisher divides the experience of love into three parts of the stages of overlap: desire, attractiveness, and attachment.

For example, in the desire stage, the brain will increase the release of testicular hormones and estrogen, which is the initial motivation for both parties to generate interest;

At the stage of attractiveness, the release of neurotransal hormones, dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin, etc. will increase, and the sense of pleasure in love will be doubled;

At the stage of attachment, oxytocin and compression, the happiness and security of each other will increase, which will help maintain a long -term relationship.

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Fisher believes that love can start any of these three different stages. Love can be loved at first sight, or it can be a sudden love after a long time.

As for what kind of calls we will call, it is related to the nervous system of the human body. Studies have found that human beings have evolved four types of nervous systems, which are related to dopamine, serotonin, testosterone and estrogen, and affect our thinking and behavior.

Each of us has these four types of systems, but a system will be more active, so it presents the qualities that matches it.

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For example, people with more active dopamine systems show that they are more free and free, and they always have endless enthusiasm for new things. Like the Daniel of the heart, it is always difficult to settle on the road of dating.

People like him, if you meet a partner who also loves freedom and eclectic, two people may get along well, but change to a conservative and solid half, and naturally cannot develop for a long time.

In the same way, people with active serotonin systems are biased towards traditional conservatives, and they are more likely to be attracted by similar people.

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The traits are not good or bad, but people of different traits will collide with different sparks between each other, so it will be attracted by what kind of person will we be attracted for a long time.

From this to understanding our own nervous system characteristics, the type of love temperament, we can evaluate what type of people we are suitable for in love with.

Because researchers have found that these nervous traits are as stable as temperament and play an important role in our performance in love.

Recommend "Love Types of Love", it will interpret your love temperament from an objective perspective, analyze what characteristics you will show in love, which types of people are suitable for people to love, and different types of people What kind of chemical reactions will occur and provide your love strategy exclusively. It can give you:

1. Analyze your love temperament type

2. Knowing which types of people are more suitable for you

3. From the perspective of psychology and neuroscience, understand why you show some characteristics in love

4. Understand how to do it to talk about a happy love

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1. Single people who want to find the ideal partner

2. The love crowd who wants to better run love

3. Those who want to know their love characteristics

4. Those who want to improve their performance in love

R & D team introduction

The R & D team of Cool Brain Psychological Evaluation has a professional psychological and neuroscience background. The members are from top universities at home and abroad, including Yale University, Durun University, Texas University Austin, Obelin College, University of Sydney, University of Arizona, New University, New University, New University The University of South Wales, Brandis University, University of Birmingham, Zhejiang University, etc., has the highest degree of psychological and more PhD.

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The results of this test cannot be used as a basis for the diagnosis of psychological and mental illness.

If you need professional diagnosis, please go to the hospital psychiatry or psychological counseling department for diagnosis;

references

1. Fisher, H. E., Island, H. D., Rich, J., Marchalik, D., Brown, L. L. (2015).

2. Four Broad Temperament Dimensions: Descripting, Converology Validation Correlations, and Comparison with the Big Five.

3. Frontiers in psychology, 6, 1098

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