"Don't let your mother -in -law always on the road"

On the ordinary night of the mother and daughter, her mother Jiang Zhimei was doing handmade, and her daughter was doing her homework.

■ Chinese Women's Daily All -Media Reporter Yuan Peng

In recent years, the pace of integration of urban and rural integration has been accelerating. Due to the uneven allocation of urban and rural educational resources and the expectations of rural parents' expectations for high -quality educational resources, many rural mothers have accompanied their children to urban reading in some areas of Gansu Province. They have become special groups in the city.

Education is more important than anything

"Children's education is more important than anything. Nowadays, there is no culture of society. For the sake of children, I can only choose to accompany the child to read books!" Jiang Zhimei is a mother -in -law reading mother in a township in Zhuanglang County, Pingliang City, Gansu Province. She told China that she told China. Women's Daily reporter, she was from Chongqing. She met her husband and fell in love with her husband when she was working in a foreign country in her early years. She later settled in Zhuanglang. She has two children. The eldest son is currently studying in a university in a foreign country. The younger daughter is studying in the county seat. Husbands work in coal mines in other places and have more than 70 -year -old in -laws. Jiang Zhimei's home is about 50 miles away from the county seat, and it takes about half an hour to take a car.

Jiang Zhimei's son in the third grade of elementary school transferred to the county seat to study. Since then she has been studying with her. After her son goes to college, she has accompanied her daughter to study again. Her accompanying career has been more than 10 years. "There are primary schools next to our village, but the conditions are not good. In winter, the heating is poor. Every day, the child is freezing back from school. The quality of teaching must not be compared with the city. The transfer to the county seat is to have a good reading environment for children." Jiang Zhimei told reporters.

Jiang Zhimei's secondary school degree and studied finance, she also wanted to find a decent job, but rural home and elderly people still need to take care of them, and she has to study with her children. She has no choice. "My experience sounds a bit outrageous, but I really can't help but sacrifice myself for home and children!" Jiang Zhimei told reporters.

Unlike Jiang Zhimei, she accompanied her mother Song Chunying's family closer to the county seat. There is no school in the village. Children choose to study in the county seat. Song Chunying also has two children, one in the first primary school, one to elementary school. The husband is a construction worker. The in -laws are not very old. They can take care of the family. Song Chunying can accompany her children in the county. "I haven't read how many books, I hope my child has a good academic performance. In the future, I can have a better future than us through reading." Song Chunying said.

Feng Hehua chose to accompany reading another reason. Her husband's brother walked out of the countryside through reading, and the elder brother family lives in the city. Feng Hehua also hopes that children will have better choice opportunities in the future. She did not hesitate to choose to send her children to the county. "We want children to see the gap between cities and rural areas. As parents, we will do our best to cultivate them. They have successfully read and we have fulfilled their responsibilities!"

House in the county

"It was very difficult to arrive at that time. There was nothing in the rental house, and her husband was not around. I didn't know people. The child could only rely on himself. I felt very desolate!" Song Chunying still felt a little sad when I started to accompany the reading. Essence

It was a small rental house, with 4,000 yuan a year, but this price was not low for the Song Chunying family at that time. Everything in the county seat is unfamiliar, life is not used to, and economic pressure makes Song Chunying from rural areas uncomfortable. Since the child went to kindergarten to rent a house in the county, Song Chunying insisted on this day for six years. A few years ago, Song Chunying learned in chatting with other parents that there was a fishing gear company recruited by the kindergarten, and Song Chunying took the initiative to apply for a job. In this way, she had a job in the county.

Song Chunying went to work during the day. In the evening, the child did his homework, and Song Chunying worked under the lamp (the company's work can be taken home). Six years after reading, under her and her husband's hard work, they bought a 120 -square -meter house in a mortgage in the county. Last year, the family officially stayed in a new home, and since then Song Chunying has his own home in the county. "Now to work every day, children have to make up classes, and they will return to their hometown. Most of the time they are in the city!" Song Chunying said.

For the sake of her children, Feng Hehua first rented a house in the county for a few years. A few years later, she and her husband also bought a small house of more than 50 square meters in the county. The purpose was to accompany the child to study.

Feng Hehua's hometown runs more than 10 acres of apple gardens. In normal years, a family has an income of about 100,000 yuan. The orchard is mainly taken care of by her husband at home. Feng Hehua usually accompany her children in the county. Every weekend, Feng Hehua took the child back to his hometown to help his family work. When the house was busy, her mother -in -law would come to the county seat for her for a while. With her children studying in the county for six years, Feng Hehua still does not adapt to the life of the city. She feels that the pace of life in the city is fast, and she still likes the rural hometown.

"The rural environment is good, the air is good, and the houses are all newly repaired. The main thing is to accompany the children here. I think it is still good in the countryside!" Feng Hehua said.

Jiang Zhimei did not buy a house in the county seat, mainly because of the large amount of expenses and the limited economic conditions. At present, she and her daughter still rent in a house of about 20 square meters in the county seat. This is a two -story building built by residents in the county town. Although the conditions are average, Jiang Zhimei did not complain.

Compared to the pressure and hard work of life, for Jiang Zhimei and her husband, children are their greatest hope and hope.

"My husband and in -laws are very good to me, and the children are obedient. The life of our family is very warm!" Every time I return to my hometown in the countryside when I return on the weekend, Jiang Zhimei always has a very enjoyable feeling.

Pay attention to the employment problem of accompanying mother

Not long ago, the Zhuanglang County Women's Federation conducted an online survey on the city accompanying the mother to read the city, recovering 816 valid questionnaires. %Of the accompanying mother is renting a house, 58.46%of the companion mother chose full -time accompaniment, and 7.84%of the companion mother found part -time jobs in the local area. The most commonly encountered problem is the pressure of work; 72.55%of the accompanying mothers are interested in parent -child education activities, and 31.5%of the accompanying mothers are interested in career planning.

"Most accompanying mothers are the opportunity to give up their jobs, the rural young adults worked with the whole process, and the cultural level is low. The accompanying mothers think that the positive impact of the accompanying reading has a certain impact on the child's positive impact on the child. The most problems encountered in life are children's education, work pressure, and interpersonal communication problems. They are interested in parent -child education activities, interpersonal communication activities and interest training activities ... "This is the analysis of the Zhuanglang County Women's Federation about the audience of the mother -in -law survey questionnaire analysis. Part of the report.

Qi Weiwei, a doctoral student of the Marxist College of Hunan Normal University, showed that the study of the accompanying problems showed that in the past ten years, young women have returned to their hometowns to accompany the rural areas. It is expected, family division of labor, and education ability, and farmers' families are forced to make the results of family division of labor adjustment. For farmers' families, mothers have increased their family education costs, increased their financial burden, and reduced their sources of family income. For the society, the accompanying reading has restrained a large number of young people's labor force to the family, exacerbating social education anxiety and educational competition.

"It should be faced with the phenomenon of accompanying the mother. Rural women recognize the importance of education, willing to invest and pay for reading. From the perspective of education, this is a major progress in itself; of course , Economic issues, accompaniment efficiency issues, etc., this is what we are currently paying attention to! "In the interview, Cao Yanhua, vice chairman of the Women's Federation of Weiyuan County, Gansu.

Cao Yanhua is writing an article about guiding the employment of his mother. She believes that the most important thing to pay attention to is the employment of mother reading, which can not only alleviate the economic pressure of the family reading, but also solve some problems of the mother reading mother, and avoid negative impacts on the family. Cao Yanhua told reporters that the county women's federation is contacting related companies to conduct work related to guiding the mother's employment and employment.

According to statistics from the Zhang County Women's Federation of Gansu, about 1,800 accompanying mothers, 1,800 accompanied mothers, and about 1,200 are distributed in various towns and villages. With the help of the county women's federation, about 600 accompanying mothers realized employment in the employment assistance workshop.

In Shandan County, which accompanies the mother's phenomenon in Zhangye City, Gansu Province, the county women's federation has effectively done the three major service work accompanying the mother. The first is to organize the training of infant education, housekeeping, and pension. The second is to provide accurate employment information to accompany reading mothers. The third is to invite relevant experts to carry out various parenting classrooms for the problems and confusion encountered by the accompanying mother in family education. Until the present, there are 16 preaching and more than 700 accompanying moms to participate in listening.

In addition to formulating and issuing the "Zhuanglang County Women's Federation to accompany the mother care service activities implementation plan", the Zhuanglang County Women's Federation also actively connects with employees to adopt the "industrial chain+gangster rural employment factory+accompanying mother" model to achieve the industrial chain and Accompanying the mother to promote and develop together to help the mother's mother stand firmly in the county seat.

"I got information through the work group of the Village Women's Federation. I found this job now. I like this job very much, can take care of children, and make money to subsidize their families." Jiang Zhimei, who currently works at the palace lantern production base in Zhuanglang County, told reporters that Compared with others, she values ​​and cherishes the job. "With this income, I have a lot of money. Let me see hope and find my own direction!" Jiang Zhimei said.

"In the long run, we need to fundamentally solve the problem of the group of accompanying mothers based on the actual situation. Try to balance the distribution of educational resources so that county and township middle schools develop simultaneously, so as to achieve a balanced education. As a social phenomenon, care about the mother reading, and alleviate the problems of this group should pay attention to the society. We should not let the mother -in -law always be on the road. Li Yuhong, a professor of sociology at Northwestern Normal University, said in an interview with reporters.

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