More than 60 % of the interviewed college students hope to get married before the age of 30

As a "mother -in -law SOLO" (refers to the person who has been single and has never been in love since birth, the reporter's note), Wei Xizheng, who studied at Shanxi University, has always been looking forward to love, but she is more cautious. In the past, she thought that as long as they liked two people, she could be together. Now she feels that "it is not possible to use the criteria for falling in love, and she needs to consider factors such as personality, values, future development." As a senior student, the uncertainty of the future also caused Wei Xizheng to hesitate to marry and love. He hoped that he was stable and independent and then considered in depth.

"For our generation, the purpose of falling in love is more to find someone who can accompany himself to go on." Shi Shaohao, who was studying at King University of London, believes that how to get along with the person he met to get along better. More important. Even if it has been in love for nearly two years, Shi Shaohao believes that it is still too early to talk about marriage. "On the one hand, the two parties have a certain material basis, and on the other hand, both parties are more mature in conceptual. Marriage and marriage.

The backbone of college students, as a youth group, is the core subject of marriage and childbirth in the next ten years. The attitude towards marriage and love has also attracted widespread attention in the whole society. Based on this, the results of the China Youth Daily · Chinese Youth School surveyed to college students across the country showed that 57.90%of the college students who were interviewed hoped to enter the marriage hall at the age of 26-30, 8.55%wanted to get married at the age of 21-25, 7.58%hoped After 30 years of age, 25.97%indicate that above the legal age, any age can be.

Independent and supporting each other, after the interview, I want to face marriage with "better self"

In the eyes of Hu Jiarui from the Second Institute of Foreign Languages ​​in Beijing, the so -called ideal love is that both parties can take this relationship seriously and go into the hall of marriage. However, in the process of falling in love, she bluntly did not mention marriage easily: "At present, everyone is still in the stage of studying or just entered the society, and there will be many uncertainty in the future. Obstructing each other's development, it may be necessary to consider separation and respect each other's life choices. At the beginning, it is emphasized that marriage will cause a lot of pressure on the other party and make feelings heavy. "

"Everything is step by step, deal with the problem of falling in love first, and then consider getting married." Cao Yuqi, who was studying at Tsinghua University, said, "Love is very comfortable to get along with each other. Marriage is a deeper thing, and we need to consider more. "In his opinion, falling in love is more to try, and marriage is a major event that needs to be carefully selected. The two cannot be confused. If you are in love for the purpose of getting married, you will be too stunned and dare not take that step. In the end, nothing will happen.

Wei Xizhen believes that for herself, marriage is still the main purpose of love. The "one plus one is greater than two" in marriage is also her expectation. "When two people are more comfortable to live than one person, and the trend of the whole life is constantly moving forward, I choose to get married." During the college, Wei Xizheng took the course of "Love Philosophy" set up by the college. The teacher's explanation of love in the classroom made Wei Xizhen take it seriously, "the love of the two is our adventure to resist the world together." From this she concluded that the healthy marriage view in her eyes is "two relatively independent individuals can support each other, rely on each other, face difficulties together, and continue to go down."

The China Youth School Media Survey found that sincere love (95.32%) and economic considerations (85.97%) are the main factor for the respondent to consider whether to get married. 42.26%said that it will be affected by the social environment. %Look forward to breeding offspring and choosing to marry.

Li Ting, a professor of the Renmin University of China Population and Development Research Center, and Family and Gender Research Center, "Did China's marriage and fertility de -institutionalization?" ——In the discovery and discussion of the investigation and discussion of Chinese college students' marriage and childbirth, "mentioned that under the institutional framework of adherence to marriage and fertility, the attitude of Chinese college students still has developed development. Among them, the most prominent point is the most prominent point The value foundation of marriage and fertility has changed. "The traditional affordable function and the significance of the succession of wedding and childbirth have greatly diluted. On the contrary, young people have begun to emphasize love, marriage, and fertility based on individual sense: mutual assistance progress, spiritual sustenance, emotional companionship, and growth to themselves The meaning. "

"Although they are in love, they should still be independent individuals." Hu Jiarui said when talking about a healthy outlook on marriage. Both sides have their own favorite things, and their own goals are working together to work hard to help each other. "Two people will not rely too much on each other, while maintaining relatively independent while falling in love. Such a mode of getting along is conducive to emotional operations, and both of them can feel very easy. If one party is too dependent on the other, there is no room for the other party. Feelings are prone to problems. "

Social thoughts and family concepts are the main factors of affecting the interviewed college students' marriage and childbearing concept

When it comes to the formation of a wedding concept, Shi Shaohao said that education is the most important influencing factor, including schools, families, society and other aspects, as well as thinking about the experience of people around him and social news. Shi Shaohao said that his parents have always been very good. As a child, he grows up in a warm family environment. "This makes me feel that marriage is not a big deal, and I have no expectations for my marriage." Essence China Youth School Media investigations found that social thoughts (66.77%), family concepts (55.16%), and cases of classmates and friends around me (54.84%) were the main factors formed Thoughts (44.68%), school education (34.19%), and relevant reports of the media (32.42%) have also affected the concept of marriage and childbearing interviewed.

Professor Mu Guangzong, a professor at Peking University Institute of Population Research, wrote in the article "Analysis of Contemporary Chinese Youth Marriage and Love Status" that the condition of mate selection changes over the times, reflecting the relationship between the status of marriage and the change of the times. Essence "China has entered the era of paying attention to freedom of marriage, personality dignity, and marriage quality (satisfaction with life). Most young people are still willing to wait instead of being. Location."

Cao Yuqi, who reads the science and engineering department, has less contact with the opposite sex. In addition, his own personality is shy, and he has no love experience. His outlook on marriage is more from his parents' teaching. When I eat with my parents and bend, I often talk about the topic of marriage and love. "My mother will tell me what kind of people are more suitable, such as family background, material conditions, personal character, knowledge and accomplishment. Although Cao Yuqi sometimes has some doubts, he will listen carefully and most of them will accept it. "Parents go more than me, older than me, and have wider knowledge than me. I have more social experience. Once my parents' words, with the external force that I have helpful to myself, I can make me less detours."

In Wei Xizhen's view, the education that has been suffered over the years is an important factor in promoting her outlook on marriage and childbearing. At the same time, she said that the family environment has also had a great impact on her outlook on marriage and childbearing: "But parents have not too much. I will still follow my own ideas. " The survey showed that 79.19%of the college students said that on the issue of marriage and childbearing, they would listen to their parents' suggestions and follow their own ideas.

Shi Shaohao said that during studying abroad, he felt that foreigners had more tolerance and freedom of love and marriage, but he thought it should not be affected by the view of marriage and love, but should see different ones different ones. After the point of view, you can make your own choice. You cannot "see only the concept of one type, or just obey the opinions of your parents. This is relatively narrow." He believes that the health concept of marriage should be considered and strictly selected according to the actual situation of himself and the other party after being thoughtful, and he does not attach someone or some kind of thought.

The heart is longing and the reunion is far away.

The "Love Class" video of Fudan University professor Liang Yongan has attracted widespread attention from college students, and Hu Jiarui is also one of them. "A person can live well in the world without relying on others. Find the falling point and value of his life first. In this way, you may encounter a soul partner. "This sentence impressed Hu Jiarui, and also inspired her." He educates me, first of all, he must be able to be independent, and one person can live well, so that your love standard will not fall, and it will be effective. Reduce low -quality love, the appearance of the partner is also the icing on the cake of your own life. "

Ma Sinan, who is about to graduate from Shanghai Normal University, said that he will include "marriage" and "fertility" in his future five -year plan. "Of course, the most ideal is to continue to develop steadily with the current boyfriend. Settle in the same city. After the work of both parties is stable, introduce the parents of both parties to meet." In Ma Sinan, love can be emotional, but marriage and fertility must be caused by it. Reasoning, "I think the two parties should openly communicate with the other party's needs and ideas after deciding to get married." She looks forward to more popular marriage and childbearing knowledge in the future, such as communication skills, relevant legal science popularization. "I will encourage my objects to learn related content, so that the two parties can avoid many unnecessary contradictions in the process of getting along."

According to the China Youth School Media Survey, 37.58%of the interviewed college students want to have a child, 34.03%family planning two; 3.55%think After the birth of a child, 12.26%arranged the fertility plan after 3 years, and 52.74%expressed the follow -up. For the significance of fertility, 74.03%believe that children are the crystallization of love, and 67.74%means that the child is an indispensable part of the family. 30.16%believe that fertility is the need for social development. 22.90%believe %Recognize that children can maintain the relationship between husband and wife.

Cao Yuqi believes that it is not enough to help college students to form a healthy marriage and childbirth view. "Love classes can only talk about some macro content, and the problems that everyone encounters in love and marriage is different, and the courses set up are weak." In his opinion, family teachings play a decisive role. The longest contact time for children is their family members, and they will be influenced by them subtly. A happy family can bring children a healthy marriage and childbearing concept. Hu Jiarui hopes that the education in marriage and childbirth can have more contents: "Many of the existing courses sound a bit empty. Now everyone is more concerned about it. Real the content of the key. "

Regarding the current marriage and childbirth of young people, Wei Xizhen believes that the most important thing should be to strengthen positive guidance. She believes that some love variety shows are too entertaining, and they have not brought in -depth thinking to people, and even contrary to the mainstream values. "After reading it, I don't want to fall in love." In addition, she also mentioned that some blind date agencies have commercialized and commercialized people, and they may also have a negative impact on young people's outlook on marriage and love. "The blind date itself has been recognized by more and more young people, but it cannot be too commercial and entertaining."

Looking at the friends around her, she went into the palace of marriage one after another. Ma Sinan's mind often emerged as "ideal after marriage", but she said that she would not affect her rhythm because of others. "It is precisely because of the beautiful expectations of marriage that I have higher requirements for myself and my partner; the expectations for the family are the driving force for us to forge ahead and enhance the steady stream."

(At the request of the interviewees, the interviewees in the article are all pseudonyms except Cao Yuqi and Hu Jiarui)

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