When you are old, lying on the hospital bed, your children come or not, you can see the four truths of human nature

Author: Hard See Muye

Humanity is always the same thing that can never go to insurance.

Well -known bloggers@知 诊's emergency diary are doctors at the Emergency Department of the Second Affiliated Hospital of Zhejiang University.

Some time ago, Lu Xiao posted two videos, which made people feel cold after watching.

A video is called "Zhao Mao Mirror", and an old grandmother who has trauma has been transferred to the ordinary ward for two days after she stayed in the emergency department.

A dozen family members came, but no one was willing to accompany the bed. Then everyone negotiated the caregiver and faced the cost of 300 yuan per day. No one was willing to pay.

Another video is called "Abandoned". An old man was admitted to the hospital due to severe infection, and the later period was relatively large.

The old man's son found Lu Xiao and said that I have three houses in my family. I have money, but I have no energy care. I want to give up.

Lu Xiao was shocked when he heard it. Generally, his family members would find a reason to obtain a doctor, but this family member was very direct.

The encounters of the two elderly people are sad.

Imagine that you have worked hard for your children for more than half of your life, but when you are old, you are lying on the bed, but you are disgusted by your children.

Everyone has the day when she is old. Don't wait for you to lie on the bed, and then suddenly want to understand the four truths of human nature.

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Truth 1: Filial piety is not reality. Previously, a pair of old couples helped each other into the story of the emergency rescue room.

Grandma Bai, 76, needs to be hospitalized because of a strange body.

The 82 -year -old wife was accompanied by her, and her legs and feet were inconvenient.

The reporter asked, why don't you notify the child?

Grandpa said: "All three daughters are in Xinjiang, and I don't worry about reporting on Qianli Road. We can still depend on each other now. When it comes to it, we will call the child back."

The story of Grandma Bai and his wife is not the dilemma that countless parents have to face when they are old?

In a survey of a "empty nest parental medical treatment" participated in a 20,000 netizens, the survey results showed:

When parents are sick, 70 % will go to the hospital by themselves, and 20 % will resist at home. Only one % will go to the child to see the doctor.

"Children are busy work, busy work, and do not want to add burden on them." This is the main reason why most interviewed elderly people choose to see the doctor.

The survey also shows that 60.1%of people and parents are not in the same city, and 24.5%of people cannot accompany their parents for medical treatment because they are too busy.

Filial piety can't be reality. Picking up work, he can't fulfill his filial piety.

Henry is a full -time companion in Xi'an. Most of the elderly children he serve are only children or work in first -tier cities.

What impressed Henry most was that a 70 -year -old elderly couple, one was cerebral infarction, and the other was hypertension and diabetes. They were admitted to the hospital together.

But because their sons often traveled, they couldn't care about taking care of their parents at all.

But Henry could feel the filial piety of their son, because as long as he finished his work and came back, the first thing was to rush to the hospital to accompany his parents.

In terms of spending money to the elderly, he never hesitated, as long as he can be good for his parents, he is willing to be as much as possible.

But he was really too busy, and he couldn't make much time with his parents.

Netizens have a saying very much:

"The company checks in at eight o'clock in the morning and 5 o'clock in the morning, and deducted 50 yuan in one minute late. The leave should be approved layer by layer. I dare not see it easily when I have a small illness.

Many people are not filial piety, but between work and reality.

There is no way to live down the work, and you ca n’t accompany your parents.

Facing the helpless reality, who didn't care about this end, couldn't care about it?

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Truth 2: interest is the last bottom line. Ant Financial and Fidelity International jointly released the "2019 China Pension Prospects Investigation Report".

The report shows that 50050 surveys believe that each person needs at least 1.54 million pension cash savings to live a comfortable retirement life.

When you are old, you can have enough savings to be decently aged with dignity.

Blogger@小 博 has told a real story.

Auntie Jin and his wife handled retirement in advance when a company was in her 50s.

After retirement, two people holding more than 6,000 yuan of pension, either to dance square dance every day or playing cards, and live a very pleasant life.

Until one day, my wife suddenly fainted and spent all savings during the hospitalization.

Aunt Jin asked his son to help, but he did not expect his son to pay a penny for medical expenses.

After the death of his wife, Aunt Jin soberly realized that he could not expect his son to be pension in the future, and could only rely on herself.

Auntie Jin made three bedrooms in the four bedrooms, leased it to young people who worked, and went to find a nanny job. In addition to the pension, nearly 10,000 yuan per month. Essence

Auntie Jin said, "My thought at the time was that as long as I had money in my hand, I could rely on my own care. As for whether my son was willing to deal with me, these are not important. Anyway, I will not rely on him to give me the elderly."

At the age of 72, Aunt Jin chose a high -end nursing home for herself. When he was sick, he asked his caregiver. He never troubled his son.

Wang Erde said: "When I was young, I once thought that money was the most important thing in the world. Now I am old, so I know that it is true."

Every penny made by one person is the dignity of the old post.

At any time, interests are the last line of social relations.

The younger, the solid economic foundation, and reserve a dignity to your old age in advance. Being old is the greatest happiness of a person.

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Truth three: love children is natural, love parents are character. After reading such a sentence: "Most people are willing to take care of their children day and night, but they lack patients who take care of their elderly."

The inpatient department@住 住 住 住 住 住.

Because of the stroke, the three patients in the same ward are accompanied by their families.

After the 97 -year -old bed No. 3 beds, the children had never appeared after being hospitalized, and found a nanny to take care of the whole process.

The second bed is an old man with a leg and a little dementia.

The old man took turns to take care of the two sons. One louder than the other, and he roared at the old man as soon as he entered the door. He accused the old man of why he did not take medicine and why he was going home?

In the end, they scolded the hospital while scolding, and the wheelchair pushed the elderly away.

The No. 1 bed is a 76 -year -old man. Because of the cerebral infarction, his left hand is lost, it is difficult to eat, and it is unstable to walk, but he always likes to turn over and sit up.

The old man has three children who take care of each other every day, but no matter who you accompany the bed, they will patiently turn over, pat their backs, feed, rub themselves, and massage the old man to recall the past with him.

When each child comes, he will bring some clothes, delicious meals, fruits and milk, and so on.

When leaving, they will also clean the entire ward.

Dr. Zhou Xiao said with emotion: "The same disease, the same ward, and the children of three patients reflect different education and character."

China has always had an old saying that there is no filial son in front of the sick bed.

The hospital is like a mirror, which can clearly look at a person's real character.

Love children is natural, and love parents are character.

Yu Minhong said that the top priority of family education is the child's character education.

Cultivating children into responsible and responsible people is the greatest vision of parents.

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Truth 4: The child closest to you is here to report grace. Someone summarized the contemporary "filial piety" pyramid:

Children who work in their hometown, first -class filial piety; children who work in the provincial capital, second -class filial sons; children working in first -tier cities, third -class filial sons; children working abroad may be proud, but not filial piety.

When you are in your later years, you will find that the child closest to you is coming to reward.

Not long ago, I saw a video.

When an old man who lived alone, when he was uncomfortable, he filmed a video.

The old man has 2 daughters, 2 sons, 8 grandsons, and 7 grandson.

Children are excellent and work in the United States, Guangzhou, Zhuzhou, and Chaling County. They only go home once a year.

Although the old man was full of children and grandchildren, when he was uncomfortable, no child was with her to take care of her.

Excellent children make parents proud, but the better, the farther away from the parents.

In the TV series "The World", the eldest son Zhou Bingyi, from a young age, was admitted to Peking University, and later transferred to the central government.

The second daughter Zhou Rong, after graduating from Peking University, has been a university professor and has lived in France for more than ten years.

The eldest son of the scenery and the second daughter of the success are destined to stay with their parents.

Only the three sons Zhou Bingkun stayed with his parents. When his parents had something to do, only he took care of him after running.

I think of a principal's speech at the parent meeting:

"Some children are born with the qualifications of reading, and some children do not. Children who have no qualifications are used to report gratitude, because reading is particularly good. In the future Regarding, today we take us to eat beef balls, and take us to eat seafood tomorrow. Think about it. "

Don't dislike the child who is closest to you.

When you get old, you will understand that only the "unproductive" child can be rely on.

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A writer once said that when you are young, you have more knowledge, accumulate more assets, and cultivate more hobbies, just to have an old age who is not sympathetic and abandoned.

Humanity is always the same thing that can never go to insurance.

When it is old, it is unreliable to pin the hope on others.

Like a praise, from now on to prevent the elderly, but it's not just raising children and preventing the elderly.

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