Live like outsiders?You may be a sense of Gao Shuisto

Author:Cool brain Time:2022.08.12

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Author | Lin Liqing

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If you can't raise interests, loneliness becomes normal, life is not enthusiastic, and always wants to escape? It's time to break this sense of alienation, you need to find the entrance to the real world.

01 Sometimes, I think I am an outsider

There was a anxious mother for help: the son of junior high school lived like a "dummy".

It stands to reason that at this age, how can you master basic living skills.

But this child will only wait for the parents to make everything, how to wash clothes, and how to solve the problem of eating at home, he doesn't know.

If you want to train him independence, it is difficult to be difficult. He is not lazy or mental problem, but that he feels that everything is meaningless, so he has to pass every day.

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His relationship with people around him is also very alienated. Children of this age, Baba can't go out to play, but he doesn't seem to be interested in it, and he is always in a daze in school and looks very lonely.

This mother was helpless and sad. I have been scolded and coaxed, after all, I do n’t use it. The child seemed to have an enchantment, and anyone could not enter his inner world, nor could he understand what he was thinking, as if he couldn't afford interest in the world.

The child has a deep sense of alienation, so that he cannot live out his inner vitality.

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The sense of alienation is actually not only a feeling of alienation from others, but also contains negative emotional experiences such as weakness and weakness of belonging.

In fact, we will have a period of time, like living in our own world, we can't afford interest in the outside world, as if they are invisible with everyone, or feel like the alien of this space.

It is actually a signal: we need social networking, eager to be understood, seen, and want to have a pair of hands to pull us to experience this lively world.

02 and the outside world are alienated, maybe just lack of expression of expression

In the movie "Love of 100 yuan", the heroine lives a very decadent and casual life.

After 30 years of age, she was still squatting at home. In the end, her family couldn't stand it. She drove her out of the house, and she started working at a 100 yuan store.

But even if she was self -reliant, she still had no enthusiasm.

"Love of 100 yuan"

Work can only live in, and there is no ambition; life is boring, and she is too lazy to dress out; even worse, she is raped by colleagues. She just shouted a few sentences of "good pain", and she silently accepted it in her heart. ; The person she likes dislikes and plays with her feelings, and she is noisy or noisy.

She has no particularly obvious emotional changes. It seems that everything is okay and she is not invested.

But in fact, she did not really feel at all, but lacked a channel of expression.

"Love of 100 yuan"

Until she came into contact with the sport of boxing, through practice, she vested out the insufficient punch in the past years, and even rarely wanted to win a handful of this matter.

Boxing lit her life and made her really pull out from the state of "indifferent" and indifferent to everything.

Those who have a sense of alienation are actually like a son. They do not really want to stay away from the crowd, nor do they have no joy and sorrow, but they need to wave the explosive punch and open the channel to communicate with the outside world.

"Love of 100 yuan"

A sense of alienation appears, you need to take the initiative to understand why it appears, reducing its extent.

Because the reduction of social interaction and loneliness can have a harmful impact on people's cognition and memory system, leading to poor memory.

In addition, the study of alienation and personality relationship also pointed out that the sense of alienation has an important impact on the development of young people.

Young people with a low sense of alienation are more emotional and mature, self -discipline, calm and confident; high alienation shows emotional excitement, lack of self -confidence, anxiety and depression.

Recommend you "Sensory Evaluation", it will interpret your sense of alienation from an objective perspective, analyze what kind of alienation you are in, what is the reason for alienation, and provide social strategies suitable for you.

It can give you:

1. Analyze your inner degree of alienation

2. Know what it has shaped your sense of alienation

3. Analysis from the perspective of psychology and neuroscience,

What kind of physical and mental impact will be on the sense of alienation

4. Understand how to reduce the negative effects of alienation,

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-The measures of the crowd-

1. People who are not satisfied with the current living environment and want to escape

2. People who feel lonely and not understood

3. Lack of goals in life, people who can't help

4. People who feel that they are not good enough and not "successful"

R & D team introduction

The R & D team of Cool Brain Psychological Evaluation has a professional psychological and neuroscience background. The members are from top universities at home and abroad, including Yale University, Durun University, Texas University Austin, Obelin College, University of Sydney, University of Arizona, New University, New University, New University The University of South Wales, Brandis University, University of Birmingham, Zhejiang University, etc., has the highest degree of psychological and more PhD.

pay attention:

The results of this test cannot be used as a basis for the diagnosis of psychological and mental illness.

For professional diagnosis, please go to the hospital's psychiatry or psychological counseling department for diagnosis.

references

1. Tang Yihui, Huang Hai, Lei Liangxin. The study of the relationship between the sense of alienation of the teenager and the family function, the personality of the personality [d]., 2004.