The strong man shows weakness, the person can make a profit, the wise is clumsy

There are always some things in life that are incomprehensible, and there are always some people who make people unable to see through.

Some people seem to be savvy, but they have repeatedly frustrated in their lives; while others always concession and pretending to be silly, but they live.

The reason is actually on the way of life.

Zheng Banqiao once said a word: "Smart and difficult, confused, it is even more difficult to turn from cleverness to confusion. Putting one step, take a step back.

Only those who understand the retreat, give up, and be flexed can become the last winner of life.

01 Retirement, shows that the three points are weak.

If you observe it attentively, it is not difficult to find that the world has a common psychology, that is, "consider the weak and pay attention to the strong."

The famous Lao Liang has participated in a interview program. In the show, the host asked him with curiosity:

"Lao Liang, why are you always in public and say that you have diabetes."

Lao Liang smiled and talked about some of his past experience.

There are many old Liang friends, and most of them are night passengers.

In the middle of the night, I did n’t sleep in the middle of the night. I always gathered together to eat and drink together. It was a common thing to toss until dawn.

To be honest, because of his poor health, Liang Liang really didn't want to participate in these wine bureaus, but he didn't want to hurt the heart of a good friend.

Weighing again and again, he decided to tell you truthfully that he would not be wronged nor alienated his friends.

Sure enough, as he thought, his friend knew his physical condition, not only did he not find him to drink, but also persuaded him to quit alcohol.

Since then, friends are more intimate than before. It is gratifying that his body has become better and better.

Many times, for people to live, there are some things that do not have to hide, let alone to find all, and to show the weakness properly in order to better solve the problem.

Shang Rong once asked Lao Tzu: "Why did a person get old when he was old, his tongue was still there, but his tongue was still there?"

Lao Tzu replied: "The reason why the teeth are dropped is because it is too strong; and the tongue knows when to show the weak side, so it can exist longer."

Stubbornness often gets loser, and appropriately admits it, but can better protect yourself.

Those who know how to show weakness can get more initiative in interpersonal relationships.

02 Taking it for sacrifice, let the three -point profit.

"Cai Gen Tan" said: "The life of the life is higher, and the root of retreat is the root of progress.

If you are willing, you can get it.

Getting along with others and making three points often have unexpected gains.

Knowing the author Ximenmu Cat, I have told such a story:

In a small town, there is a small meat shop with a very popular business. The daily income is more than other stores.

Some people felt incredible, so they went to the shopkeeper to ask for advice, and wanted to know the secret of his business.

In the face of so many people, the shopkeeper just smiled and replied: "Lost loss is a blessing, the loss is a blessing."

Until the old shopkeeper was about to return to heaven, his son came to ask his father to ask his father to do business. The old shopkeeper didn't speak, but just used his fingers to point the pole hanging on the wall and nodded.

The son couldn't understand his father for a while.

Later, the son inherited the small shop and continued to sell the meat with the scale.

At the beginning, the business was indeed the same as that when the old shopkeeper was alive, and the business was still booming and booming.

The shopkeeper thought: "My father did not lie, there was no trick.

Maybe my family is really a treasure of Feng Shui? But why does the father always point to this scale? What secrets are hidden in this scale? "

So the shopkeeper picked up the scale to figure out carefully, and found that there were more things called by this scale than other scales.

In other words, the meat sold to customers every time will be more virtually.

After the shopkeeper found this secret, he was very angry and complained:

"My dad is really confused. How much does it cost to lose this way?" Since then, the shopkeeper has changed a new scales.

Since changing this new scale, fewer and fewer people come to his house to buy meat. People say that his scale is different from before.

People who do not want to eat business at all, are destined to eat losing their lives for a lifetime.

As the saying goes, "If you are scattered, you will gather, and you will be scattered when you get together."

I always want to hold interests in my own hands and refuse to make benefits. Over time, the people around them will gradually alienate.

The world is a big game. If you take a roundabout here, you will get it there.

Learn to give it up to let people can gather people's hearts and get greater benefits.

03 The extension of flexion is stretched, and the three points are clumsy.

There is a saying good: "There must be rain in the sky, and people's madness must be disaster."

The most valuable thing is low -key.

If a person does not know how to converge, he is always aggressive and sharp, even if he is full of versatile, he will be crowded out and causing trouble.

In his early years, Zeng Guofan was young and vigorous, because he did not understand convergence, which made him frustrated in the officialdom.

On one occasion, he rushed into the palace unscrupulously and questioned why Emperor Xianfeng did not put his energy on national affairs, but always cared about some small things.

He also said in front of the emperor: "Jin Yu is small and opposite."

Zeng Guofan's bluntly advanced, instead of being appreciated by Emperor Xianfeng, he angered the emperor, so he was degraded to a barren land thousands of miles away.

Later, Zeng Guofan slowly realized that the companion was like a tiger. For the officials, if they do not know how to converge the edge, hide the minds, and keep the benevolence, they will be brave, and they will definitely cause trouble.

Mu Xiu is in Lin, and the wind will destroy it;

If a person does not know how to keep clumsy and blindly speaks, then he will only recruit himself and cause himself in a desperate situation.

Lu Xun once said: "The husband's will, can be flexed and stretched. Sometimes bending is not to yield and destruction, but to survive and develop better."

Convergence is not a blind concession, and Tibetan is not pretending to be stupid forever. It is the real wise and wise.

Zhu Yuanzhang's soup and the reason why he pretended to be drunk and nonsense was to eliminate Zhu Yuanzhang's wishes to himself and protect his life.

The prime minister of the Song Dynasty, Lu Duan, was low -key to be confused.

It is a kind of ability to be good, but it is a kind of wisdom.

Although we can strive for a while, the time to trial can make people stable for a lifetime.

If you can keep a three -point clumsy, you can live for the rest of your life.

04 There is a saying good:

"The wise man lives, such as the flexibility of water: passing the sand and soil, the flowing power, and the tortuous twists and turns of the rock;

When the cliff was drooping, it was drooped into the waterfall, and when it encountered the mountains, it took a different approach. "

Feng Shi lets the road, and when the cold, it becomes ice.

The same is true of being a person. Living like water is the highest state of life.

Showing a weak three -pointer; doing things to make three points profit; if you live in the world, you can not be trapped by your heart, not being tired of foreign objects, and you can stay steady.

Source: Jingbo Guoxue (ID: jingboguoxue)

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