The amazing "Curvry Bird's Law", I understand that you can’t live well.

There are no others outside, only yourself.

Author: LEYLA

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About 40 years ago, Yu Minhong was still a young man.

At that time, he was just admitted to Peking University.

At that time, most of the classmates in his class came from the city. Only he was a "earth bun" from the countryside.

On the second day of admission, he saw the roommate lying on the bed in the dormitory and watched "The Rise of the Third Empire".

This book looks very deep, and more importantly, Yu Minhong has never read it.

He asked the roommate: "I have to read this kind of book when I go to college?"

The roommate didn't speak, took the book down from his face, and glanced at him in vain.

For a moment, Yu Minhong realized his ignorance, and at the same time felt deep inferiority:

Why? I am not as good as others, nor do I have knowledge as others!

Why? Only yourself is so bad!

Young Yu Minhong cannot accept a better self.

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From the media author@自 自 originally had a very lively son.

When he was 7 years old, his son started to elementary school, but rarely returned.

In order to stimulate his son to work hard, nuts often compare his son with his classmate Xuan Xuan.

"You see Xuan Xuan, you can take 100 at each time mathematics, you look at you again ..."

"Look at Xuan Xuan, watch the picture and write how vividly, see what you write ..."

"You see Xuan Xuan, how good you are skipping rope. Your cultural class is better than Xuanxuan, and you can't even skip the rope ..."

Gradually, the son became more and more silent.

Seeing his son like a stuffy gourd, Nuts were even more angry.

She hates Tie Steel accusing her son:

"You look at Xuan Xuan, generous, and bright in the sun. You can't even say a word, your mother is so big!"

Nuts cannot accept a child who is not as good as others.

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Blog@博 博 There is a sister, and marriage life is very unhappy.

Every time she meets her sister, she is complaining about her husband.

"Before getting married, he was dominated by hormones. He felt that he was fine everywhere. He knew that he was a very unpleasant person."

How much is it?

"Let's talk about the cousin of his hometown, and there is no education. People have started Porsche now. My husband has no money for four or five years."

"Wages are a lot lower than me."

"I have been working for ten years, and my classmates have been promoted for a long time. He is still the same."

Speaking of my brother -in -law, the disappointment of her sister's face.

Sister, unable to accept a husband who is not as good as others.

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Next to my hometown, there is a pair of old couples over half a year.

The two elderly people have no other ability, but they have a good face.

Relying on the craftsmanship, a small noodle restaurant was opened to pull the son's spring water.

Last Spring Festival, I went home to visit the New Year and saw their door open.

His son Chunshui roared in the house and smashed things, crying and shouting to cut off the relationship with his parents who run a noodle restaurant.

Just because the parents of the opening restaurant could not pull him in his career, he couldn't raise his head in front of his colleagues in the hospital.

"Do you know how many people in the hospital are worse than me?

What is the king XX, what is it? I work harder than him, and the level is higher than him, but what about him? Just because Dad is the leader of the hospital, you can follow the clouds! "

Crying and crying, Chunshui sat down and fell to the ground: "Why do you have nothing to do!"

Chunshui cannot accept a pair of parents who are not as good as others.

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Why tell these stories?

Because I found that the reason why we Chinese live so tired is only one reason:

What we are pursuing is never happiness, but happier than others.

What we are pursuing is never strong, but more powerful than others.

Scholar Xiao Gongqin said: "Chinese people have a strong psychology in secular life."

Other people's children are excellent, how can my children be able to live in others;

The husband's husband is rich, how can my husband make so much;

The parents of others are very powerful, and my parents are so ordinary.

If others are so powerful, why is it not as good as him.

We are better than children, more partners, parents, and ourselves.

We are more than the sizes of the face on the face.

We always think that this is a performance of hard work, but we did not expect that most of the pain in life originated from such comparisons.

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Tell the story of a Curvry Bird.

According to legend, in the South American Forest, there was once a bird named Cui Bo bird.

They are very petite, but they are only 6cm long, but their nests are dozens of times larger.

In order to find the reason why the ratio of Cui Bo Bird's body and the nest acupoint, a zoologist did an experiment:

He caught a green wave bird back and observed the process of recording its nest building.

Surprisingly, it did not continue when it built a nest that can tolerate its size.

So zoologists caught another back and put them in the same cage.

Later, this emerald bird continued to build nests.

It turned out that the nest of other people's family was better and better than himself, and he was unwilling to build it weakly.

A few days later, the two birds were exhausted in the cage one after another.

It turned out that in the end, it was physical and mental damage.

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After the young Yu Minhong realized that he was worse than others, he secretly determined in his heart:

I must learn better than you, better than you in the future.

As a result, the whole year of freshman year, he chased hard. Whether it is day or night, he is studying hard except for sleeping.

As a result, it was unexpected.

Not only did he not reach the ideal level, his body was defeated.

In his junior year, he coughed his blood directly and went to the hospital for a year.

As soon as it was checked, it turned out to be acute tuberculosis caused by tiredness.

During the year of hospitalization, he thought hard and finally thought about two truths.

First, it doesn't make any sense to others.

Second, all progress is about yourself.

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I particularly recognize the two words that Yu Minhong said.

He said, first, it doesn't make any sense to others.

Because at the stage of life, there are people looking up at you under the order, and someone is looking down at you.

If you look up, you will be inferior, and your head will be self -prolonged.

Only by looking at can you see a real life.

Writer@轻, working in a new media company in Shanghai when he was young.

One day, a female college student came in the team, which looked ordinary, and her appearance was not good.

After chatting, I learned that there were more than a dozen houses in Shanghai.

As soon as I heard the news, Eiffi's heart was like a knife.

She hated the injustice of fate, why she couldn't afford to even one toilet in Shanghai.

And some people can easily reach the peak of life.

During that time, her life was full of weakness and weakness.

But later, she discovered:

In comparison games, there is no real winner.

In this world, there will always be people who are more successful and richer than you. At the same time, it is precisely because you can never win, and your heart will always be full of failure and dissatisfaction from time to time. Pain, loss, trouble, and entanglement like shadow.

It's like, in this world, there will always be more talented than you;

Someone will always be better than your child;

There will always be people who are more richer than your husband;

There will always be more people who have more authority than your parents;

If you always tie your happiness and the happiness of the people around you, you will never get real satisfaction.

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The second sentence Yu Minhong said is: All progress is about yourself.

Writer@作 When he was very young, he asked her father:

"Why do we have so hard to grow so many fields, but we are still poor.

The neighbor's house does not seem to grow crops, rely on gambling, and engage in some sidelines, but often eat meat? "

Dad replied: The shrimp has shrimp roads, crab has crab roads.

There are always different frequencies between people.

Looking up at the happiness of others, it is better to go well.

In a certain year of the Olympic Games, players from multiple countries participated in the competition.

In the end, a player won the first place, and the Russian and the United States players won the second and third place.

Afterwards, the reporter interviewed the players who won the champion:

"The waterway next door is Americans and Russians on the other side. They have broken the world record, do you know?"

He replied, "I don't know."

The reporter also asked: "Do you know that other players are chasing closely, and you were once surpassed by Russia's enemy?"

"I don't know. I just swim myself, no matter who is playing with me, I just work hard to swim forward."

You see, those who run fast will never see if the people around you are running faster than him.

People who have a good life will not see if others are better than him.

Han Han said: "Life is not climbing the mountains or the shades of the gap. He just sleeps your body in a standard bed."

Don't let others pursue and expect to control yourself.

Because your life is yours, you don't need to refer to anyone's standards, let alone compare with anyone.

It's as if you are educating, not to make the child stronger than others, but to let him have a sound body and mind;

You get married, not to be more decent than others, but a partner who knows you cold and warm, understand your sadness and joy;

You are struggling to live like others, but after working hard, you can live like yourself.

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When Yu Minhong figured out these two truths, he said such a thing:

"Ma Yun and I graduated from English. I am 2 years older than him. I graduated from Peking University. He graduated from Hangzhou Normal University.

However, Ma Yun's home was 300 billion yuan, and I was 30 billion yuan. Ali's market value was 100 times that of New Oriental.

From the perspective of age and graduation colleges, my career should be greater than him, and wealth should be more than him.

But compared with him, I was depressed.

I think everyone's life mission is different, and the responsibilities to do and assume are different. "

The most important thing for a person's life is not the starting point than others, running faster than others, and spending better than others.

It is not comparable, no dispute, not grabbing, follow your own rhythm, and live a good life.

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