"I just want to live a normal person's life"

Share some life feelings with you first:

Recently, my friends never returned to my WeChat, saying that work is very busy.

In my understanding of her, I don't believe that she can be busy so much that I can take the news for 2 minutes.

However, she sent me a "self -evidence screenshot" in her backhand-

He also said, "It's really not me. I took a taxi and got off work today. I even received the evaluation by the driver. I couldn't even look at it. You can hug me."

Only after talking, her company resigned another group of people, and she described her mood so much: "Every day is like playing werewolf killing. I don't know who woke up the next day."

"I don't have to lead the project, and I am more anxious than making me work."

I was able to enjoy her instantly.

At that time, the media I was concerned about "positive connection" and interviewed a college student who graduated this year.

She rolled 10 internships in 4 years, invested more than 100 resumes, and took a bunch of offers of large factories and systems.

She asked herself, "Is this what I want?" Many times, she was just afraid of the panic that was idle.

As soon as I was in my freshman year, the people around me began to fight for internships. "It is too late without verification.

If the previous social clock is "what kind of age should do", resulting in the hallucination of "you have to work step by step before you can have a good life";

In an uncertain environment, it has exacerbated into the fact that "you have to complete the task in advance before you can have a good life".

Because of your efforts, you can't run the speed of being "optimized", and you can't run the progress of your peers to make money.

The young people who were sniped by the social clock kept rushing with a panic efforts. They were tired and wanted to stop but did not dare to stop.

No one wants to be squeezed into the unemployment and the cold sea. The sooner the more you go ashore, the more safer you will be.

To live a normal life, it has become a thorough luxury.

The most direct feeling of the social clock is: we can no longer feel the complete time.

A social animal, he was scheduled properly by the conference 1, 2, and 3 in a day.

He thought it would not feel burnout with melatonin and coffee;

He allowed all the "eating and drinking Lazar" to be squeezed infinitely in the meeting.

The time around CBD jumps and breaks, it seems vibrant but chaotic.

In the end, his time had nothing to do with the sunrise and sunset, but only related to get off work and work. There was no memory and emotion.

Psychologist Mark Witman said:

Regarding the description of "now", we have changed from "Today" to "this time", and it is specifically "this second".

Various timers of time accelerate the social process, and we have begun to reject the time without goals and no arrangement.

However, the sense of time can reflect our lifestyle.

James Robax has a thing that touched me in his novel "Hemao Life "--

He was educated "not studying well, grew up back to the countryside to let go of sheep", but after graduating from Oxford, he ran back to his hometown.

Spring is given to the sheep, sheep sheep, sheep sheep, sheep, go to the market to sell sheep in the fall, and take care of the pregnant ewe in winter.

△ Source: James Ribax INS account

"Repair the wall to lock. Give the sheep to remove the insects. Clean the rainwater drainage ditch on the roof." Then this farm work will come from scratch in the coming year.

"Urban tourists" do not pay attention to these when driving.

They all look for their ideal scenery based on a tourist guide; they do not know that these slow and fine things are filled with the spring, summer, autumn and winter of the pasture.

There are not many ups and downs, but each frame is like a fresh texture of film movies.

It is so meticulous that you can perceive the existence of time and touch emotions, but we lost this "sense of time".

△ Source: James Ribax INS account

But James is a understanding person: leaving here to go to big cities may be famous, you can really have time to stay here.

There are very few choices for modern life, and people can't wait to "drunk" themselves on weekends to forget everything.

Urban people fled the social clock briefly while pushing back into the social clock as they died.

The reason is clear at a glance: people still have to make money.

I understand that you are caught in the social clock, "you can't help yourself", and you have to compromise with your work "to have to".

@ 32 years old, leaving her not much time.

She obviously entered the large factory, and was a post -90s of the leadership. She still planned "the next step."

The 35 -year -old crisis is a timing bomb that Ann is on her, either dismantling or explosion. There is no third ending.

She said: "Kao Gong, probably the only life blue ocean that the town can catch up with the town."

@ i is a teacher in the Internet education industry.

She told me that in their line, the new rate determined everything, and the data was a knife across the head.

"If you dare to suspend class, you must bear the risk of being abandoned by data and students."

△ There is no time to do it when I work in a hurry

For two years, she did not want to be the out of the game during the holidays and rest days.

The power is not from love, but is afraid of being overtaken and afraid of being eliminated.

We also talked to the writer Yu Shicun about this question. His answer attracted me:

"You don't live in your own time, in fact, you live in a society and live in the time of a peers, so the anxiety that they lift up to each other becomes your anxiety." You dare not even return your head back Running forward, you don't know who chasing you, you pin all the sense of security on a Mobius ring at the end.

I know that the environment is difficult to change, but is it really helpless? no.

I want to talk to you about the story of friends@ 我.

She couldn't help but leave last year.

The first week of departure:

Wake up naturally every day, play mobile phones and take takeaway.

The second week of departure:

Starting crazy anxiety, especially when she asked her friends to do, the other party said when she was at work.

"I think he has something to do but I don't, then I am a loser."

But when a friend woke up, he woke up:

"You have even changed the axis for 5 years, how can you take a break for two weeks? It is so guilty?"

It may be the "sequelae" of being led by PUA before, saying that she is lazy and has no performance, and she does it directly.

Friends also said, "Life is so long, you have nothing wrong for you to rest." She dared to allow herself to "do nothing."

"Most people are just the gears used to maintain the normal operation of society. What ideal ambitions are better than I lay on the surfing board and grab the waves.

I also asked her a very real question: "How much money do you have to rest for half a year?"

She said: "I didn't have the opportunity to spend the money before. Except for renting a house, the money was stored for 20 w. I didn't plan to buy a house in the short term.

But money is not the core cost of GAP this time. Parents oppose the pressure. "They think I am shameful, and dare not tell my relatives that I have no job now."

"I don't want to see a rebellious person like me, and I was passed by PASS in the first round of the work."

So, is it difficult to leave society? Disaster. Is the cost high? fine.

When you decide to leave the social clock, you may be anxious and frustrated, and you will pay some costs.

But you will also build your own clock, which is a value judgment from your body, the beginning of your driving life.

When I first left Beijing,@ 刚 I felt that my life was Game Over.

Facts prove that she did not, and live better--

"I am completely awake now, and the deadly hard work is just a cowardice that dare not change the status quo."

She can even accept her hometown with a monthly salary of 3,000, anyway, the monthly expenditure does not exceed 3,000.

If you do n’t rent a house or buy luxury goods, you have time to eat, melatonin, and see psychological counseling money.

"The previous days were" The Life of the Disdictable Pine nuts ", and the current life is" Summer of Jujiro "."

Retrieve your sense of time is never easy. This is a kind of alienation of modern cities for organic life. Normal people live a normal life and become a very "ideal" thing.

How to do it? We always have to look for courage and confidence.

I believe that after leaving the social clock, we can find a healthy state without a crisis of survival.

This is the puppet that you want to be lifted by the work, or the key to becoming a life -lifting person.

Finally, I want to send you a word--

We live in the current window of moving.

We always stand in our "subjective time of time" in "the passing of objective time".

Therefore, don't be afraid to stop and live happily, we should have been.

The more such a moment, it is too easy to run like a learning way. There is the courage to jump out of the framework of time. It is not easy to control time to live as your own. event.

This is the spirit of "life travelers" advocated by Skoda: always curious about the world and self, explore, and increase knowledge and cognition.

Whether you are on the road or daily, you can control your life. The moment when you think it is difficult is a unique scenery.

Matsuura Mataro once said: People will inevitably be affected by the surrounding things, but I hope that the motivation of doing everything is spontaneous, and everything related to themselves can be controlled by themselves.

Hope that one day, you can control a four -corner sky.

Writing: Water Bingyue

Responsible editor: Yuan Sanzer

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