Don't comment, girls can't afford this "praise"

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I feel more and more feel cautious on the Internet.

Because the topic of hot search is more likely, it may be its comment area.

Some time ago, a hot search of the topic of "girls who were afraid of pain, blocked 8 knives for classmates."

Not long ago, she won the honorary title of "Nationwide to Good Youth"/Weibo@不

The 20 -year -old girl Cui Yiwen, in order to protect the classmates who returned to the bedroom together, was stabbed by the murderer, and eight knives in her body;

After the murderer escaped, she was bleeding regardless of herself, while helping her classmates to stop bleeding, while calling the counselor.

When she arrived at the hospital, she asked the doctor to save the other party first. She received three days of treatment in the ICU before leaving the danger.

The comment area is almost a clear praise, admiration, and distress:

"This girl is so brave, admire!"

But a message caused a group ridicule due to "strange style of painting":

"Tell her, I am willing to marry her, really."

Thousands of netizens rushed under this message and replied to him:

"You are not worthy", "go on a while", "she has saved people, not wrong."

Take "I am willing to marry you", where is wrong?

"I am willing to marry you" really praise people?

Cui Yiwen rescued people in 2019, but until now, it still made people sweat for her.

At that time, she was 20 years old and studied in Guilin, Guangxi. She is 170 in height and weighs only more than 90 pounds.

It was such a thin and weak girl who did not hesitate to protect the classmates behind and confront the gangster holding the knife.

After the incident, her chest, waist, abdomen, and arms were scarred, and she had a 17 cm long wound on her chest to the abdomen.

"The liver was stabbed by a knife, and the gallbladder was stabbed."

The mother who was protected to the girl sent her a Jinqi and said countless gratitude: "If it was not you, (my daughter) was unimaginable."

After returning to school, the classmates said that she was particularly cattle: "If you change me, you will definitely not dare to go up."

CCTV "Face"

A reporter asked Cui Translation: "Have you thought about the situation at the time very dangerous?"

She said, "I only know that I don't rush up, she may die, that's not okay. Both of us are alive, that is, the best ending."

The scar left by his body, Cui Yiwen didn't care.

Facing the reporter, "Girls love beauty, you don't think of how these scars will affect you in the future", she answered optimisticly:

"The scars are all on your body, who will look up your clothes to see your scars? Think about it like this."

Optimistic and admirable/CCTV "Face"

Moreover, as netizens said: where is scar, that is her medal.

It is such a justice and brave girl who can express her praise to her with beautiful words such as "selfless", "goodness", "admirable" and other beautiful words.

However, some people have to use "I am willing to marry her" to "praise her".

Perhaps it is that the scar will make the girl "unable to marry". There are more than a boy who shows "willing to marry her" in the girl's comment area.

And this kind of comment does not only appear in Cui's comment area.

Whenever a woman has achieved something, or when she has strong ability or appears in the news, someone will sigh below:

"I am willing to marry you."

"I don't know who is so blessed, she can marry her home."

This is why everyone's emotional outbreak. It seems that some people think that if he wants to "marry home", he can give the highest praise for the other party.

Some female soldiers resonched their second -class merit and returned to their hometown, showing photos of the heroic and heroic posture during training.

The attention of some people in the comment area is not her merit, honor, nor the sweat on her forehead;

In the end, what kind of boy can "marry home"; which girl in the queue looks more "Wangfu".

The interpretation of the University of Baths in the United Kingdom and sharing the daily life of their own interpretation notes, but some people only thought of: "It is also very good to marry her."

Similarly, when she saw a female nurse, she said she wanted to marry someone, because she "takes care of people", "gentle personality", "usually beautiful."

Seeing the cuisine and fragrance made by the gourmet bloggers, I felt that "her husband is really blessed", "I am willing to marry such a wife."

No matter how good they are, some people use "suitable for marriage" and "can marry me" to "crowns" for them.

As if in their eyes, only "getting married" and "having children" is the ultimate destination and value of a woman.

Maybe their "praise" is from the heart and simplicity.

But it is impossible to deny that men who use "I am willing to marry you" to boast people are placed on the active choice and even the first -class position of the other party.

Ignoring the subjective willingness of the other party, and lacking the understanding and respect for the other independent individual who is equal to each other.

No wonder many netizens who can't see the past satirical:

"Don't look at what you look like!" "Did you marry you the ancestor of Guangzong Yaozu?" "Which shallots are you and why do you marry someone!"

Although cyber violence is not desirable, the values ​​reflected by the phrase "I am willing to marry you "--

We really look at the behavior of "suitable for marriage and childbirth" to measure women's value.

"Your life is incomplete"

Not only amateur women are used to measure value with "whether it is suitable for marriage and childbearing".

Many well -known people who have achieved great achievements in their own business, economic independence, and even have great achievements in their own fields are also difficult to escape the dilemma of being stared at because of gender. For example, Gong Lizheng, who won the women's shot champion at the Tokyo Olympics.

In order to win the gold, she continued to work hard for 21 years. When she finally dreamed, she couldn't help crying on the field.

But after an interview after the game, the reporter asked the question:

"Previously a female man, do you have any plans for the life of girls?"

"If you and your boyfriend hold his wrist (are you not able to stab at you) ..."

Instead, I am curious about the Olympic champion Gong Lizhen, how to face the stronger facts than men; when can I get married and have children and live "girls' lives."

Gong Lizhen, who was unexpectedly surprised by the question, could only answer, "I don't hold my wrist, I'm quite gentle."

Yang Qian, the Olympic champion of the Shoufu Olympic Olympic Games in the Tokyo Olympic Games, was also asked during the interview: "What type of boys do you like?"

There is also the well -known Yang Liping with the "Peacock Dance", as the first dancer to host a personal dance party in China, and has won the domestic and international awards.

In order to promote the ethnic minority dance culture, she puts time and energy on refined dance skills, and said: "I will make my best, the most beautiful and culturally valuable song and dance."

But in some netizens, she was defined as "the loser" because "the biggest failure of a woman is that there is no one and a half women."

Zhang Weili, UFC World Championship in Asia's first world's top professional comprehensive fighting event.

After her UFC won the championship, among her praise, the issue that someone cares most is:

"Will her future boyfriend be beaten?"

Zhang Weili had to explain: "We have money to hit people", "Have you given money, do you want to be beaten?"

Want to be so beautiful, do you want to be beaten for free?

"Princess Frog" Gu Ailing, when asked about the criteria for choosing a spouse, answered "ambitious and funny."

Some people will be asked in the comment area: "I am good at you, can I do it?"

Some people say, "I am a career preparation. Gu Ailing can give me a son and I will marry her."

I don't know what to say

And some confusions on the Internet as a ridiculous speech: "Can you marry Liu Yifei 200,000 Gifts" "If Faye Wong is filial, I am willing to consider" "The World Championship champion is not less than 50,000" ...

Wake up, people are the world's flower sliding women's singles champion ...

Regardless of their age, identity, property, and achievement, the final judgment standards must be detoured on marriage and childbirth.

Even the 14 -year -old Quan Hongzheng was pulled out and more "Who is more popular with male audiences?"

In the eyes of many people, no matter how successful women are, they eventually need a destination. The mission of marriage and fertility in the "shelf life" can be regarded as "the category of women".

It seems that women who do not get married or have children, no matter what results, are "incomplete life".

The achievements in other fields are depressed compared to women's "good marriage".

Therefore, even the championship for the country will be worried that "you are too fat, you can't find a boyfriend", "The skating palace can't give birth to a child", "your husband will be afraid of being violent by your family" ...

Deforming and huge prejudice, like a mountain pressed on every woman's head.

Source "My Genius Girlfriend"

For a long time, women have been measured with this standard.

Because in stereotypes, women need to be a "suitable spouse", or a "virtuous wife" and "loving mother".

Those women who start from scratch, strong personality, and hard work are still difficult to understand by some secular eyes.

Yang Liping's response to netizens

So even if they already have the value of gender, marriage and pursuit of life, many people have not changed their expectations.

He still praises "Yishi Yaga" and uses "no one dares to marry" to ridicule.

But as an independent individual, women are pursuing personal development and self -worth. Is it because they are not married, their lives are "flawed"?

Who defines the same "complete life"?

Don't bind women with "suitable marriage"

Looking back at the comments of Cui's translation "I am willing to marry her", many netizens responded strongly because of the subtext of "willingness", which means that the power of power is high.

In the words, she was not moved by the girl's selflessness, not because of her courage, but she felt that she seemed to have some "defects" after being injured.

And he will be willing to ignore this defect "marrying her" and see as a praise and affirmation of her.

This kind of thinking is to achieve "the value of women" by default.

Men are the protagonists, and women are supporting actors.

In such a male stare environment, every girl may have heard similar words in their own growth process:

If a girl is fat, it will be ridiculed by the elders, "Girls should not be too fat, and they will not be able to marry in the future."

If the girl is thinner, she will be discussed "may not have children."

When you go to school, the grades are not good, and you will be evaluated that "girls are not smart without boys", "it doesn't matter if you don't study well, just get married when you grow up."

But if the grades are good, you will be instructed by relatives: "In case you read the blog in the future, you must get married in advance, otherwise the degree of education is too high."

After adulthood, if she is not good at housework and cooking, she will be accused by her family: "How can I find a good mother -in -law?" Even if her work is stable, eating and drinking, I can't stop relatives, friends, and even strangers.

"It's better to marry well, don't be too tired girls."

"The salary is too high, and the boys are scared away."

"You have to get married quickly, girls have been 25 hard to find objects."

The post -95s have reached the age of being urged? /Weibo@ / / /

Even if a woman gets married, has a child, has a happy career, and the family is happy, and the success of the secular sense, it is still possible to be asked:

"How do you balance your career and family?"

And the same achievements are rarely asked these "problems", as if taking care of the family is a "inherent obligation".

As French female writer Bovawa wrote in "Second Sex": "The oppression of women comes from the need to regard her as a spouse rather than the protagonist."

The stereotypes and rules are slowly woven into a network covering the girls, becoming a curse that "you can't control your life".

However, in modern times, more and more women have become the protagonists of their lives, and have grasped the initiative of life with their own efforts.

When they love, get married, and have children, they are just one of their choices, not the whole significance of life.

Source: Judge Kingsberg RBG

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