How to resolve children and parents in life

Everyone sat together to communicate

● Time: August 10th

● Location: Xiangyan, Xiangyan, Xiangyan District, Xiangye, Sunshine Community New Era Civilization Practice Station

● Moderator: Zhao Yanxi Western Industry Zone Xiangye Li · Sunshine Community Party Branch Secretary

● Opening remarks: Chinese people have always been filial piety. It is not easy to achieve filial piety. In life, parents and children may conflict due to various problems.

Guest appearance

Yue Xingfan: Xiangyan, Xianyan District, Xianyan District, 90 -year -old residents

Viewpoint: Frequent quarrel with parents will have a bad effect

In life, it is inevitable that the contradiction between children and parents is inevitable, but honoring parents is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. Children should find ways to resolve contradictions with their parents.

This is a story told by my friend. He operated a factory in the countryside, the factory expanded its business scope, and urgently needed people. A friend recommended him to him. He knew that this person often quarreled with his parents at home and decisively refused to recruit this person. He told me: "A person often quarrels with his parents at home, and it is likely that people who are not filial to their parents. Can people who don't even respect their parents still expect him to work well?" It can be seen that a person often quarrels with his parents, which will produce What a bad impact.

There are contradictions between children and parents. They should be calm and communicate with each other. The contradictions are resolved through peaceful ways. Quaruting can only intensify contradictions and affect each other's feelings. Parents and children are not a generation. The growth environment is different. They must understand each other and tolerate each other. As the elderly, we must learn from different perspectives and eliminate the gap between children.

Shanhongnian: Xiangyan, Xianyan, Xiangye, Sunshine Community Residents 73 years old

Viewpoint: Cantoly meet only to gain happiness

In the face of family contradictions, I have always held a positive response and early communication. If I escape, the contradiction will only get deeper and deeper, and the "family war" will sooner or later.

I have two sons. Once, my younger son's wife was unhappy after returning home. It looked bad, and seemed to be dissatisfied with me and my wife. After I found this situation, I communicated with my children in time. It turned out that she thought that we did not treat the two sons "a bowl of water is flat" and suspected that we were eccentric.

After hearing the true thoughts of my daughter -in -law, I showed her that she and my wife had an equal attitude towards the children, and asked us what practices made her think of this. After communication, the daughter -in -law's heart was finally unlocked.

A few days later, my daughter -in -law brought gifts to see us, and we prepared rich dishes. This time, she rushed to do housework with a smile. After dinner, she said to us, "My father and mom are sorry. I am confused and shouldn't be playing with temper. Thank you for taking care of us meticulous." "Don't say thank you, we are a family." My wife said.

There is a contradiction between family members. It is terrible that "hiding with it and turning a blind eye". Only when you see each other frankly can you harvest happiness and hug happiness.

Li Songqin: 58 -year -old residents of Xiangyan, Xianyan District, Xigong District

Viewpoint: Some old concepts should be abandoned

As a mother, I have always been very concerned about my children. I always hope that my child is doing things according to my ideas, but now my concept has changed.

After my son became a family, my wife and I helped take care of my granddaughter. My son and daughter -in -law are more severe to the granddaughter. I hope we will discipline the granddaughter in their way. People often say that my husband and my wife and I can't bear to strictly demand their granddaughter. In this way, the educational concepts are different, and the gap is generated. It turns out that the approach of son and daughter -in -law is right. Due to the decline of our granddaughter's granddaughter, the granddaughter's academic performance declined, and the granddaughter seemed to have a "princess disease".

Judging from this incident, if my son and daughter -in -law obey us, they may not be filial. Filial piety should not be generally speaking, but to analyze specific issues. On one occasion, I read Mr. Lu Xun's "What are we doing now to a father". The article wrote: "The elder must be the instructor negotiator, but it should not be the order." The era is moving forward. Intersection

Liu Liqing: Xiangyan, Xiangyan, Xiangye, Sunshine Community Residents 63 years old

Viewpoint: Communicating with emotion will only intensify contradictions

Parents and children are inevitably friction in life. Once, I quarreled with my children. My wife's words made me benefit a lot.

At that time, my son and I quarreled, and I was motionless. At that time, I thought my son's wings were hard, and I couldn't control it, so I complained to my wife's filial piety. My wife said, "As a middleman, this matter can be seen very clearly. You can't blame your son. You say that your son is not filial or objective. You must calm down in the event. Think about why you quarrel; secondly, think in other places. "After listening to my wife, I calmed my emotions and thought carefully. In fact, the starting point of the son is good, but our views are different, leading to the intensification of contradictions.

Later, I said to my son, "What happened in the future, we said calmly and with opinions, opinions belonging to opinions, and views of views. It's urgent, I regret arguing with you. "My son's words made me very pleased. It's important to speak well!

Expert Reviews

● Liu Junqi, a second -level psychological counselor of the Westong District Community Consultant:

Quarry often defeats both; discussions can achieve a win -win situation.The quarrel is not to solve the problem, but to vent their emotions.If you have problems, you should actively solve it, do not subconsciously deny the other party, and think about the problem from different perspectives.Home is not reasonable. There is emotional because of "care". For this "care", we must treat our love and love us.(Li Junfang, Correspondent Li Junfang, Intern Li Zhi, a reporter from Luo Bao Rong Media,) Source: Luoyang.com

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