Don't let the "circle of friends" down your relationship

I saw such a sentence:

The circle of friends is a public diary, which records his daily life status and transparently shows his inner world.

Many times, the circle of friends has become a business card for us. Many relationships have become deeper or alienated.

Life is long, and people on the same way are hard to meet, and good feelings must be cherished.

Therefore, we must learn to silence and express in a timely manner, and do not let the "circle of friends" down the long -term relationship.

"I finally couldn't help but blocked the small circle of friends."

"I have been with each other for more than 30 years, what else can I bear?"

"I don't know when it started, the content he shared has become negative energy, either complaining or anger, and I feel bad after reading it."

This was a few days ago, on the subway, I heard the conversation between two colleagues.

When I heard this, I remembered that I was the first person to "don't look at him", but my cousin was actually my cousin.

It is difficult to believe that the affection that was very close will be alienated by the circle of friends.

But this is also very realistic, because behind each dynamic, a person's mentality and energy appear.

On the road traffic jam, he rebuked the driver in front of the driver will not drive;

If the son is naughty, he complains how to spread such a child;

If the company works overtime, I feel that I am unsatisfactory to encounter unsatisfactory leaders ...

Such a dynamic is normal, and such emotions are scattered in front of every friend.

Occasionally, "venting" can understand, but the reasons are likely to be on yourself.

When it appears in front of the screen in a sharing form, it is easy to pass this negative energy to others.

But in the life of adults, everyone is tired.

His distress is urgently needed to export, and wherever he has the energy to digest the emotions of others.

As a result, many people chose to stay away from and shielded, and for many years, they could not escape the ending of alienation.

"I still think to complain to others, but it is futile, but in this way, it is better to bear it silently."

In the past, we all thought that complaints could reduce our burden. After a long time, we found that in fact, it would be even more uncomfortable.

Therefore, do not accumulate bad emotions in the circle of friends, because no one will like you with frowning face and suffering.

On the road of life, no one does not experience bumps, and no one will not encounter a trough.

Remember, putting your own emotions and replacing complaints as hope, it will be more happy than sadness and twistedness, and it is easier to bring joy to people.

I have seen such a topic: "Why do more and more people block the circle of friends?"

One of the praises answered and said that many people's hearts:

"Now more and more hate the circle of friends. The reason for blocking the circle of friends is to swipe the screen and sell things. In addition to selling and selling, it is still selling and selling screens every day.

Such friends only care about their own interests, never chat, never comment, never like it, some people lie there, just like disappearing out of thin air, leaving such friends is meaningless. "

In real life, it is inevitable that you will meet such friends. Just as the original colleague Chen Chen, after switching to sales, there is only a circle of friends that communicate with us.

Recent awards, learning and training, product advantages, and links for purchases, push on time and uninterrupted daily, have always reminded everyone: Come buy and place an order.

At a later party, she also "inspected" our permissions to see if she blocked her. As a result, it was very embarrassing.

She smiled and let us regain her dynamic keys, but this "request" is disgusted, as if I was saying: I want to make this money.

Lost the score and lost the previous friendship.

Many times, we have committed the mistakes of "taking the circle of friends as a window and a friend", and we want to develop friends and even people who are not friends into consumer groups.

But in fact, too many relationships are fragile and cannot afford such calculations.

Because, no matter who gets along with, no matter when, the word border is inseparable.

Maintaining a good distance is the best formula in interpersonal communication.

Don't let the relationship between friends, destroy interests;

Don't waste the sincerity of others, don't push the other person further and further, let alone turn your heart into a stranger.

Remember, running a circle of friends is to run a good business.

Writer Cai Wei talked about such a period of experience in "Don't use other people's minds, thinking about your own life":

Because I often buy something in a small shop, Cai Wei added to Linda's WeChat in the group.

For a long time, Cai Wei didn't pay much attention to Linda's circle of friends--

Until she started to share her European trip at least 8 times a day;

Share your wedding photos with at least 10 dynamics a day;

By at least 5 pieces of information per day, share your own wedding video ...

From Western wedding to Chinese wedding, from the Mid -Autumn Festival to the Spring Festival in the second year.

At first, everyone was congratulations and blessings. Afterwards, these mood had to be exhausted in the complicated dynamics of Linda.

Some friends made suggestions and reminders, but they were all blindly seen, so many people withdrew from the group and even deleted her directly.

Cai Wei said:

"No one is not allowed to be excited and moved during the wedding, and no one opposes her to share photos.

However, in 5 months, such a high -profile and repeated showing off their wedding will inevitably cause the unhappiness of people around me. "Indeed, when the circle of friends became our show, the relationship with people changed its taste.

Make others envy, and in the end, it is easy to be stunned by vanity and cannot find the direction of life.

After hearing Carnegie's sentence: "If we just show ourselves in front of others and make others interested in us, we will never have many true and sincere friends."

And when we gradually mature, we understand that life is ourselves, good or bad, our feelings are the most authentic and important.

Those who can really make us happy are not the sense of superiority, but the satisfaction of the ground.

You know, although there are chicken feathers in life, many people still feel beautiful.

Because they have already learned to enjoy ownership, do not need to envy others, and do not need to try to obtain the envy of others.

Some people say, "The best relationship between the two people is that when you first see you, you don't tire again."

If you want to get along comfortably, don't have too much expectations and requirements. Just as the energy field of the circle of friends, don't release too much dissatisfaction. Don't try to obtain too much benefits, let alone show too much superiority.

Be able to express naturally, accept it frankly, and share it sincerely.

Because the simpler, the more pure and longer.

Author | Liu Xiaoshang, loves text and life.

Picture | Visual China, the Internet (if there is any infringement, please contact delete)

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