Feng Lun: People always get themselves first before they can get others

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Question: Uncle Feng, I am a newcomer in the workplace. It feels that whether in life or at work, there are always endless losses and endless suffering. What should I do?

Uncle Feng: I remember when I was in my twenties, I met an elderly man about sixty years old. He told me, "suffering when you were young."

I didn't understand it at the time, and asked, "Why do you say that?"

He explained, "You suffering means that you are getting a chance. If you can't eat any suffering, then you can't get any chance."

He also said, "The most terrible thing is to suffer after the age of sixty, which shows that you have no chance. At this time, you can't eat it."

As soon as I thought about it, I found that what he said was reasonable. Young people are good in their health, they are tired, and they are suffering, and they are not very sick. Even if they are sick, they will recover quickly. If you are sixty years old, and you have not eaten and sleeping, you are poverty and illness, it is really painful. When I was young, I was lining up, and I was looking for the society while lining up. When he was 70 years old, he stood in line to get medicine and was sipped and sipped, and he felt particularly miserable.

Since then, I have been used to "seeing adversity as a smooth look and a funeral as a happy event." When I encountered some problems, frustrations, and troubles, I would not be unhappy.

I will treat some of the "bad things" I encounter as an opportunity to exercise myself and grow.

This is like a high jump. When I came, I solved the problem, which was equivalent to I jumped from the horizontal pole. The next time I came, it was equivalent to raising the horizontal pole in front of me a little, and I solved the problem again, which shows that my "high jump" performance is better than before.

Although when the horizontal rod is lifted to a certain height, it will definitely not jump over or fails, but in the process of "high jump" results, I have been exercised many times, and I have not experienced similar negotiations, training, training and training. Compared with people, I must have a higher "jump", and I get more opportunities.

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Question: Is this idea too positive?

Uncle Feng: Actually, a positive mentality is particularly important. The mentality is positive, and everything will be optimistic.

When I was young, I used to wear clothes to the dead in the peace. At that time, my relatives of my acquaintance died, and I went to help. I went earlier that day, and the sky was not yet bright. I stood outside the peace. The old man who managed the general came over, and after opening the door, he said to me, "Lady, don't stand here and help me work."

I don't know what to help. When he was still hesitating, he dragged me into the room.

When I entered the house, I saw that there were freezers -like boxes in the peace. I'm a little scared, and I don't know how to help. I saw that he pulled the remains out of a cabinet like a "big drawer", and then put the Shoushu clothes to put it on that to help the deceased dress. I dare not touch, and I don't know where to put my hands. He said, "It's okay, it's all frozen, there is no bacteria, the cleanest."

I thought to myself, "Since it's here, learn to do it."

He taught me how to wear frozen bodies. Although I was a little nervous, I tossed for more than half an hour, and I finally got it. I also learned how to wear the body.

Recalling this experience, my mentality was more positive at the time. I think, "Since this is here, fear is not useful, so I have to learn to do this."

Moreover, I forgot my fear when I learned to wear clothes for the deceased. In the process, the old people not only talked about how to wear a life clothes for the remains, but also talked to me a lot of things in the general elimination.

Later, friends came over, and we sent the body to Babaoshan together.

I feel that I have not only helped my friends to complete this matter, I also learned a craft, but also communicated with the staff of the general, and learned a lot of things that I didn't know in the past.

Because of this, I went to find some books to read again.

I found that there was a course about "death" called "Death Education", which talked about how to treat death. At the end of life, people should deal with when they got severe diseases, how to deal with, and how should family members be family members. Treatment, and so on.

In addition to "death", there are some people who specifically study how to write a will and how to deal with funerals, and even some people have studied how to make a funeral for the funeral into a business.

After reading a bunch of books and understanding these "horns" things, I felt very happy, and then became calm. I have to face even if everyone has to face life and death, but I understand what many people know about it. So some problems and setbacks I have encountered are not a thing.

In addition, whether in the face of work or life, there is a saying in the past, called "People always get themselves first before they can get others", that is, we must first strengthen myself before solving the problem. Environment, change others.

The positive attitude of life is the beginning of self -improvement. Once a positive attitude of life is established, life is not painful at all.

I know many people who have achieved certain achievements in their areas. Many of them may be superb, maybe they are very lucky, and have good opportunities, but aside from these, they have one thing in common -they live actively.

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