Ye Si | Good relationship, at least one person is more "selfish"

Xiao Nian said:

Many people in love have had such troubles: the more they pay for the other party, but they feel that they are increasingly not cared for by the other party.

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The author's opinion, a good relationship should not suppress his needs when meeting the needs of the other party. While satisfying the other party, you can get happiness.

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Good relationship, at least one person is more "selfish"

Source: Xu slowly psychological words | ID: xumanman-kjxl

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Last words

In the relationship, why don't you recommend that you "do for each other" to do things?

First of all, when we only consider each other, to suppress our needs in order to meet the needs of the other party, it is equivalent to "tooling" ourselves. Over time, it will form a passive situation of "ta high and low", and cannot have an equal relationship.

Secondly, our ourselves need to be suppressed, but we will not disappear, but we will emerge in other forms, that is, "grievances and morality". After all, when we are at a low level at the actual level, we will subconsciously look for the spiritual level.

But anyone who faces "grievances and morality" will want to escape. That's why the other party was moved at first, but the movement was unable to last.

So, how to have a comfortable and equal relationship?

It should be noted that the needs of the other party are not conflicting.

It does not mean that you need "benefits" and bold to fight for your "benefits".

Give and give, while satisfying the other party, you can also get happiness from it.

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