"Look" very intimate ｜ What is pseudo -intimacy?

People often don't know how to discover love, and they don't know how to keep love.

Sometimes we seem to be in a close relationship, but we can still feel surrounded by lonely. In this seemingly happy relationship, we seem to be wearing a mask and staged a drama about intimate relationships. Essence

Shouldn't healthy and intimidating relationships provide good and support?

Why is it so tired ...

Maybe you are in a "pseudo -intimacy".

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What is pseudo -intimacy?

▨ It looks very close

From the eyes of others, this state is no different from the real intimate couple: the relationship between the relationship between the relationship between the two sides, as the real close couple, cares and respects each other, and provides the other party with a sense of emotional security.

▨ Keep distance

This is the biggest difference between the "pseudo -intimacy" and the real intimacy.

The same purpose of caring and taking care of each other, the purpose of true intimacy and pseudo -intimacy is very different -the former is to understand each other and move towards further intimacy, but the latter is to avoid the uncertainty in the relationship, maintain a security of a kind of safety distance.

And because "it looks very close", it is difficult for the relationship between the relationship between the relationship between the relationship between themselves to be in "pseudo -intimacy".

▨ Playing the role

There is often a relationship template in pseudo -intimacy, such as "you have your mind -I obey", "I give -you give it -you grateful", and the two parties complete the established task with the expectations of the role. Feel danger.

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When intimacy becomes a role -playing, it becomes daily task when daily life. Don't feel lonely if you can't reveal your true self?

In order to allow everyone to understand the factors that affect intimacy, we have developed this test:

Test your intimate relationship mode

Take you to find the "destruction factor" that affects intimacy, help you get the emotional life of longing ~

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