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In the Douban "work" group, I often saw posts about the PUA in the workplace. At first I didn't care about it, and felt that it was still far away from the general public.

It wasn't until some time ago when I experienced being degraded and forced to leave by the boss some time ago, I discovered that the original PUA in the workplace was really common, but some invisible PUA really made it difficult to detect.

责 Undepentive accusations, it seems that it is wrong to do anything

， Is attacked by the person, and the sense of self -esteem and value is doubled

， Long -term overload work, in exchange for the big cake painted by the boss

... ...

If you think about it, the various events mentioned above seem to be experienced every day. To be honest, I have been struggling in the previous company for half a year and I have been able to leave quickly, but the former company also has a "predecessor" of five or six years. Leaving here may not find a better one. " And this is exactly the negative impact of PUA. Yes, PUA will make people question their ability and value, and then lose the courage to change.

But the fact is that those seniors are not bad, and I left PUA's company, and quickly found the work of the previous company in all aspects.

Through reflection on my own experience and thinking about the PUA process, I found that whether it is PUA in the workplace or the PUA in the relationship, the core is to control the desire. The means are nothing more than two types: accusations and derogation.

But unlike other PUAs, the natural and lower -level relationships in the workplace will make this accusation degradation more hidden and difficult to resist. The coat of "result -oriented" and "work ability" on the package makes it difficult for people to doubt whether I am being PUA, or I really do not really do well.

Japanese drama "Hanta Naoki"

Recalling the period when the PUA was originally PUA, when the leader pointed to the plan submitted to me, and I felt that his suggestion was unreasonable, I also wondered: "Is it different from the company's customers different from my imagination? Or the leader's leadership? Know what the customer wants? "

And when the activity result is not ideal, when the leader is accused of criticism, I was thinking: "Is there something wrong with the part of my execution? Is my ability really insufficient?"

The turning point was chatting with friends once. She noticed my wrong. After asking my recent situation, she exclaimed: "You have been confident before, do so many achievements, why do you think he is everywhere now everywhere he feels everywhere Isn't it good? "This reminds me that there is indeed something that makes me" wrong ". After thinking about it, I decided to leave this environment where" I do nothing ".

After leaving, I found out that from beginning to end, the leader's interaction with me is full of his desire to control. He drew his work and hand to my work. See.

However, the workplace PUA seems to be a common phenomenon.

According to the "2020 White -collar Living Status Report" released by a recruitment website, the data shows that 63.65%of white -collar workers said they had experienced PUA in the workplace.

Once a negative evaluation is heard too much, people will start to believe in the subconscious -I really can't do it; I don't have good job opportunities at all; I am really lazy at work, and I am low in love; I am very bad , Is a loser ...

Constructive criticism is beneficial to its own development, but long-term accusations and deliberate suppression will definitely damage a person's self-es proticacy and even affect his self-identity.

In the Japanese drama "Usterispyeing of Beast", the protagonist Shenhai Jing is often applied by the boss completely unreasonable work tasks and workload. It is obviously a business assistant, but at the same time bears the work of the private secretary of the boss. Complete work that does not belong to its own. Deep sea crystal is obviously exhausted, but he cannot find the courage to refuse and resign.

Although this plot festival is exaggerated, it also depicts the helplessness and compromise of the people in the workplace. Maybe we have no way to become a beast that wants to do, but we must also find our own and choose power.

The Japanese drama "Usaccharide to Be the Beast"

I hope that every workplace worker can be vigilant about PUA in the workplace, and do not passively fall into a dilemma of self -doubt; also hopes that all people who have experienced or experienced in the workplace will be able to recover the courage and strength of their inner heart, and go bravery to be brave. The ground said to the unclear: "No!" Just like Yamy's response after experiencing the boss's PUA: "What is not important, I am most important!"

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