A person who passes a better person is better: expensive mouth, clear ears, hearth

I have seen a thought in "The Story of Qi Qi":

"Ask the Qu to be so clear, and say that you can control yourself."

In a person's life, people and things are always encountered.

If everyone has to worry about, everything must be asked, it will only make themselves exhausted.

The rest of our lives is short, and our energy is limited.

It is the best way to manage yourself.

Three signs of a person who gets better and better: don't say right and wrong, don't listen to the barbaric, regardless of your spoken.

Speaking right and wrong, it is expensive

I've heard such a sentence:

"Wisdom is from listening, and regrets are born;

Those who have no mouth and do not keep silent, there will be a big misfortune, because the flies fly into the mouth that does not enter. "

A person who can't control his mouth always commented behind others.

In this way, it will not only make yourself lose your face, but also make people disgust.

A Ying is a person who can't control his mouth.

Not only do you like to talk about other people's affairs behind it, but also love to make right and wrong.

On one occasion, Aying saw her neighbor Kobayashi, and she packed up at 11 o'clock in the evening.

The next day, she talked privately with others in the same community: "Kobayashi is still going out so late, life is really unprepared."

But in fact, that day, Kobayashi's father was suddenly hospitalized, and she rushed to the hospital to visit.

One day when she was at work, she saw that her colleague Xiaosu was not in good condition, so she said to other colleagues behind her:

"He must be negatively idle and want to be lazy."

In fact, Xiaosu was divorced because of that time, and his mental state was not very good.

Another time, when she was visiting the mall, she saw colleagues Feifei and their unit leaders and entered a clothing store together.

The next day, when she arrived at the company, she told her colleague gossip again, saying that Feifei must have wanted to shoot the leader's fart, and then went shopping with the leader.

In fact, Fifi just happened to meet with the leader on that day.

This is how Aying likes to talk about others behind.

Some of the flat things will become completely different versions in her mouth.

My neighbors and colleagues have been with A Ying for a long time. They all know the character of her gossip, so everyone intends to alienate her.

In life, there are many people like A Ying who can't control their mouths and like to get involved in others.

But these remarks are a kind of harm for others.

Franklin said: "Fool's heart is in his mouth, and the mouth of smart people is in his heart."

Learning to shut up is a rare cultivation.

To talk less gossip, you feel more happy; if you talk about right and wrong, you will have more friends in life.

Holding your own mouth is a respect for others, and it is also the best way to reflect self -cultivation.

If you don't listen to the barbarian, you will understand

A person's life is like a trip, and there will be many stations on the way to meet many people.

On the way to travel, we will always hear a variety of voices. These sounds may be beautiful or harsh.

However, everyone has their own lifestyle, and we don't have to care about those noisy voices.

A mature person will set the outside "barbaric" on the way to insisting on being his own.

Building Master Pei Mingming has such a period of experience.

When he was responsible for the reconstruction of the Louvre that year, he was questioned by many people because the design style did not conform to the trend of the time.

He was also boarded in newspapers and was attacked by many people.

At that time, almost all slander and abuse of him in the newspaper.

A well -known designer, even in front of everyone, slandered his designs: "What are you breaking, look like cheap stones!"

What is even more distressing is that he walked well on the street, and someone would deliberately sputum at him.

Facing these doubts and scolding, Pei Mingming's attitude was very indifferent.

He neither recovered nor explained, nor did he complain to anyone.

Because in his opinion, the overwhelming evil reviews of the outside world will not hinder his determination to designed.

From beginning to end, he did not doubt and give up his design concept because of the negative voice of the outside world.

He says:

"Other people accept me or not, it is never the most important, I have to accept myself first.

Without his own opinion, the designer would definitely be overwhelmed by history with the current. "

In the end, the Louvre has become an excellent building in the world.

He was also commended by then French President Mitterrand.

Dickens said: "Choose your own way, regardless of other people's rumors, the most important thing is to be the best self."

There is no so -called feeling in this world, and everyone is an isolated island.

On the road of life, learn to restrain yourself and not be affected by the outside voice.

After all, no matter what you do, someone will always slander.

People who are really powerful know how to improve their "shielding power".

This world is hustle and bustle, just be yourself.

If you don't care about your nos, you will go

There was a blogger on Douban, telling his own personal story.

Her mother died of an accident, and she and her sister were immersed in the grief of losing her mother.

Shortly after the funeral, the neighbor's aunt came out and asked her father to find another wife.

However, neither she and her sister came out of sadness.

How could they think of this, their sisters did not take it seriously to the aunt's words.

Unexpectedly, a few days later, the uncle downstairs also came to blend this matter, intending to match her father and widow next door.

Her father rejected the advice of the uncle. He said, "After the two daughters are married, they will consider this." Unexpectedly, the neighbors still chatted about the matter and secretly introduced her father to her father in private.

Later, these neighbors, even the father hiding their two sisters, let the father and the other party get the marriage certificate first.

She went to the object introduced by the neighbors, but her character was not good.

So she expressed her gratitude to her neighbors and told them euphemistically not to care about it anymore.

But the neighbors still worked hard and blamed her to be considerate.

She finally couldn't help but return:

"I don't understand, why do you have a few outsiders, why do you have to mix with our family?"

Several neighbors who love to manage their noses are not good at the last two ends.

George Dade wrote in "Self -Border":

"The so -called boundary is to let you go back to you, and my affairs."

In life, never extend your hands too long to get involved in the lives of others.

People have their own aspirations, you have your pursuit, he has his longing.

Rather than spending attention to others, it is better to put time and energy on your own.

Take care of your own business and operate your own life.

Regardless of your care, life is smooth, and life will have more fun.

Suggestions in life, take care of yourself

I have seen a popular question on the Internet: "What is the most important ability of a person?"

One of the praise answers: "Learn to focus on your own life."

In this life, it is a practice. The most important practice is to manage yourself.

Only by improving yourself can the path of life become more and more smooth, and the troubles will become less and less.

Take care of your mouth, don't talk about other people's affairs;

Take care of your ears, don't listen to the noisy voice;

Don't worry about others' lives.

Source: Reading (ID: dushu259)

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