Why do many people pay attention to emotional value in communication?

"I like those friends who can bring me emotional value."

"We can no longer provide emotional value to each other."

In today's interpersonal and intimacy, it seems that more and more people have mentioned the word "emotional value". Who is the most emotional value in your life? Do you think you can provide emotional value?

The word "emotional value" originally originated in the field of economics and marketing. But in life, this word is mostly used to refer to one person's ability to influence the emotions of others.

The more people can bring more comfortable, pleasant and stable emotions to others, the higher the emotional value of TA; one person always makes others awkward, angry and embarrassing emotions, and the lower the emotional value of TA.

What kind of emotional value do we need?

6 small things about emotional value

01

Breaking up with his ex -boyfriend is the accumulation of many small things, but in the final analysis, it seems that he can't provide me with emotional value. For example, when I told him something, he only said, "Do you think too much" and "How much things", "What a bigger thing?" When I poured my negative emotions, I would try my best to make him happy.

Always consume his emotions, but he cannot get emotional supply from him. It is particularly tired for a long time.

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02

For a while, the state was very poor, and she kept crying with her good friends. Sometimes she called her in the early morning, regardless of her troubles. During that time, this friend really gave me a lot of comfort. She was an absolutely safe space for me, allowing me to release emotions with peace of mind. But I later learned that she was actually very tired during that time. She was always receiving and tolerating my negative emotions. She also continued to output her positive emotions to comfort me, and my spirit was empty. After knowing, I really blame and guilty.

This incident made me understand that to cherish friends who accompany you when they are sad, they can also seek comfort and help from them, but they cannot be a black hole that only knows emotional value.

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03

My husband and I have different backgrounds in education, and the amount of knowledge is different. He knows too much than I know. I am amazed every time: "You are too powerful, even this knows this."

He said, "I just know a little earlier than you, and now you don't know."

I really like him. Those who have a greater knowledge and information than you are willing to lean down to communicate with you, respect you, encourage you, and guide you. This is gentle.

I like this story, no matter how many times I look at, this kind of empathy, tenderness, respect, and the ability to love should be a rare emotional value.

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04

My dad is really a person with a very high emotional value.

He rarely gets angry and has a good temper. Occasionally he quarrels with my mother, and will silently go to the rooftop to see the dishes he grows. When he comes down, he will bring my mother to put onions. He laughed angrily.

He rarely hit me, always praising and affirming. Although I am a completely uncomfortable child, it seems that in his eyes is the best in the world. Even in the circle of friends, he will say "your picture "The shot is very level."

He was good at listening. I used to tell him about the study of classmates. Later, he told him about his colleague's work. He was very patient, and he would give positive feedback on my questions.

In the face of the big deal, he was very calm and very powerful. When Grandpa Grandpa died one after another, my two aunts collapsed. My dad became the family's Dinghai God needle.

He is not too much, and he is not serious about losing money. There is no kind of obsession that "must compete back."

He is the kind of person who will pull you back when you are angry enough to lose your mind and let you calm down.

I am almost 30 this year. When I encounter unhappy things, I will go home and stay with my dad for two days, and then everything is fine.

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05

The core of providing emotional value to others is that emotional maturity. People with mature emotions generally have three characteristics:

Responsible. He will be responsible for his emotions and will not vent his negative emotions to others. And people who are immature always want to let others share and receive their bad emotions.

Have adaptability. People with good adaptability will adjust their emotions in a timely manner and make the other party feel stable and safe. Even when experiencing negative emotions, they can maintain rationality, and they will not have fierce words and deeds due to emotional influence. For adults, it is important to maintain emotional stability.

give. Gives the ability to give, he will not only pay attention to his expectations and requirements emotionally, but also consider others and feel the feelings of others.

In life, if you want to provide emotional value to others, there are some ways to refer to: respond to good news shared by the other party in a positive and constructive manner; express high -quality gratitude to daily small things; Provide support; before the debate broke out, soften the way you turn on the dialogue, and so on.

—— Finance from: Knowyourite

06

The emotional value in my eyes may be that I am with this person and feel the feeling of charging.

Being with friends, sparks that collide with views, have the same frequency resonance of laughing and scolding, and have the pleasure of not having to set defense; with lovers, there is a happy sharing and painful sharing. It will also be cured; with the family, you can perceive that you are loved, supported, and will always have retreat and confidence. Then, I will feel that I am full of power and fall in love with the world again.

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When we say emotional value, it seems to be discussing a professional word, but if we carefully explore its core, it represents some universal needs in the emotional relationship: the other party can care about me, understand me, encourage me to encourage me , Support me, respect me, comfort me, catch me ...

If this is our expectations for others, in turn, we should also treat others in the same way.

Of course, a person who can provide emotional value for ourselves is of course very good, but in many cases, we still have to learn to deal with negative emotions, learn ourselves, and find happiness. If we do not rely on the comfort of others, we can spend those painful moments; if we, even if we are alone, we can gain happiness, we seem to have an extraordinary ability: provide ourselves with emotions for ourselves emotional Value, the owner of his own emotions.

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Source: CCTV News

Edit: Hubei

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