When your heart is tangled, you may wish to see these 8 gold suggestions

Now that I chose the distance,

Just take care of the wind and rain.

Author: Lodge Yebo

French philosopher Briidan, telling such a small story.

There is a hungry donkey, standing between two bundles of straws, the grass on the left is tender, and there are many grass on the right.

But the donkey was in trouble. I didn't know where to eat first, and finally starved to death.

In life, many people are like this donkey, hesitating when choosing.

In the end, it not only wasted time and energy, but also put himself into distress.

Today, I see 8 gold suggestions for everyone to cure your choice.

1

When you don't say it, don't say it

Zeng Guofan said in a family book:

"Throughout the ages, the cause of failure is that one is arrogant attitude, and the other is that there are many words and improper words."

He had lost a lot of words. When he first entered the officialdom, he couldn't help saying a few more words, and sometimes he deliberately made fun of others.

Over time, it aroused the dislike of others, and everyone began to isolate him.

Later, he slowly woke up and advised himself to be cautious with the words "to say more words", which became a generation of famous ministers.

More words will be lost. The more you say, the easier it is to cause right and wrong.

So Hemingway said: "We have learned to speak in two years, but we need to learn from our lifetime."

When you are struggling with whether you want to say, the best choice is silence.

I do n’t know what, do n’t evaluate; do not dismantle things through; unnecessary things, not much words.

Learn to shut up, leave room for others, and leave them room for themselves.

2

When you buy or not, you don’t buy it

In this era of materialism, various promotional activities have emerged endlessly.

No matter what holiday, you can always hear the merchant's sip.

As a result, many people moved to the house without actual needs.

The more you buy the clothes, the more the cabinets can't put it, and you just throw it in the corner, and the space in the home is increasingly forced;

The more shoes are piled up, it takes a lot of time to make a lot of time ...

Unconsciously, your money is lost, and time is consumed, but happiness has not increased.

Historian Huang Zongxi said: "Little wants to feel light."

Keep rational consumption, you can buy things or not.

When you are not tired of foreign objects, you can be calm in your heart and enjoy life.

3

When the breath is still not angry, it's not angry

I agree with this sentence: "Bad temper is a double -edged sword, while stabbing others, I also hurt myself."

There will always be bumps between people, sometimes a word and eye can cause fierce emotions.

But if you can't solve your problems, you will only keep the situation worsen and drag yourself into the mud.

Professor Davis, a psychologist, had a follow -up survey of nearly 1,000 people and came to this conclusion:

If a person is in a bad mood for a long time, it will cause family failures, bad careers, or make good things messy.

Gumi said in "How many degrees of the world":

"The difficulty of life is not to get angry, but to be more calm."

When you encounter a conflict, when you are on the edge of anger, please restrain your temper.

If you control your emotions, you can be the controller of life.

4

Comparison is not comparable, no better than

In this society, many people cannot get rid of the trap of comparison: more work, comparison ability, and money ...

Blind comparisons will only make yourself lose and stare at yourself in order to force yourself to grow.

When Yu Minhong first went to college, he saw that there was a big gap with his classmates.

So he worked hard and wanted to catch up with others. As a result, he exhausted himself, so he had to take a year.

The disease made him awaken: progress is his own business, compared with others, it doesn't make any sense.

Later, he only focused on himself, but lived a unique style.

As saying in a sentence: "Rose is a rose, and lotus is lotus; just go to see, don't compare."

Everyone only needs to be responsible for their lives.

No need to envy others, walking according to our own rhythm, life will be better.

5

When doing it or not, do it

I have seen such a small story.

A writer went to a university to start a lecture, and asked a audience to ask:

"I also want to be a writer like you, but I am always worried that they will not be able to reach a balance between writing and earning a living in the future. Do you have any good suggestions?"

The novelist smiled and replied:

"Back to the dormitory today, turn on the computer, double -click a thing called Word document, and knock on the first word, you are already a novelist."

A major tragedy of life is to know how to find out in the heart, but in life, but in life.

Lenin said: "Don't be the giant of thought, the dwarf."

Defeating yourself is always the "think again"; those who beat the pain will always be action.

When you want to do it, please take the first step bravely.

When you keep walking on the road, what you want will come to you.

6

When you can't bear it, tolerate

Wang En, president of Peking University, said:

"Whether you are doing a person or doing things, you need a basic quality -that is the patience."

The world of adults is not easy to say, and everyone will be misunderstood and white -eyed.

People who can't bear anything are destined to survive.

In the workplace, you ca n’t swallow grievances, and you will complain everywhere; in the family, you ca n’t be more patient, speak well, and the marriage will be dispersed; in the society, you do n’t know how to converge. People exclude. Feng Menglong said: "If you don't think about it, you can endure it, and you can bear it."

If people live in the world, they are not as good as the eighty -nine things.

After you endure the ups and downs, you can see the gorgeous rainbow in front of you.

7

When reading or not, read

"The more I read, the closer my books are, the more bright and meaningful my life makes my life more bright and meaningful."

Writer Fan Deng, who has provided himself, no matter how busy he is, he reads at least half an hour a day.

During the CCTV job, she had no show to do it for a while.

I was very anxious for a time, and when I returned home at night, I had no intention of reading.

But when he was lying on the bed, the irritability in his heart became stronger and stronger.

In the end, he turned on the table lamp and re -held the book to read it. Then he really calmed down.

He once said that he had given him strength and allowed him to face the gains and losses of life calmly.

Some people say that reading is the best investment for yourself. It can help you drive away from confusion and help you fight mediocrity.

When you feel empty, don't entangle again, take a good book and read it.

In Shuxiangwen ink, draw on the wisdom of the predecessors, moisturize the boring life, and light up his life.

8

When you still don’t boil, boil

There is a famous "flywheel effect" in psychology:

If you want to turn the still flywheel, you must have spent a lot of effort at first, and push it repeatedly.

When the critical point is reached, as long as it is slightly strong, the flywheel will rotate quickly.

This is like life. Sometimes you are exhausted and you still can't see the improvement, but as long as you survive the most difficult, the rest is the way.

When the scripture Shan Tianfang reviewed his life, he only said one word: boil.

Life is alive, there are nine difficulties.

It is easy to give up in difficulties, but persistence is cool.

Often, when you admit defeat, the distance is only the last door.

When you hesitate to continue, don't tangle, forcing yourself to force yourself.

After the darkest time before dawn, it will usher in dawn.

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There is a saying in "Sato":

People are like this, thinking about it, hesitating and hesitating, feeling that they are not ready, and courage is not enough. In fact, as long as you take that step, you will find that everything is ready long ago.

When you choose the road, you need to go without hesitation.

As Wang Guo's true poem said: "Since you have chosen the distance, you can only take care of the wind and rain."

May these 8 suggestions help you break up and find your direction.

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